D0M1NANT


D0m1n8tor Dominant Couple, 34, Madrid	D0m1n8her Male Dominant, 32, Columbia, South Carolina	D0M1NU5 Dominant Couple, 39, Charleston, South Carolina

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	About D0M1NANT Real time Dom who has lived the Lifestyle for the past 18 years now and investigated nearly every aspect of it.. I am very outgoing, very honest. Have questions? Ask.. Perhaps I will answer.. I am the proud owner of the one known here as brashna. She has been with Me now real time for about 6 months. Now that she has settled in, Wwe are considering finding her a sister to help her around the House, as well as play with and talk to when I am not present in the Home. Anyone interested should know that I do not toss collars like I am at a ring toss game at the fair. There is meaning and purpose behind My collars, as they are meant to be. To Me, as My journal states, a collar is the equivalent of a wedding ring. I will not walk up to a woman on the street and offer her an engagement ring, nor will a collar be offered without Me knowing without doubt that I can fill the void in her life, just as she will be filling a void in O/our Home. Anyone curious can fee free to message. I am on and off here almost daily.. May Y/you find that which Y/you seek here, friend. Peace. Dom

It amazes Me how many 'subs' out here express an interest in joining a poly Household but run away from the offer when honestly presented.

I have done poly households in the past. 4 of them so far, to be exact, and know how one has to work to be successful. There can be no favoritism shown or it breeds resentment for the one(s) not getting such attention.

In My House, all girls share the chores evenly. Period. There is no waiting/laying around the House waiting for the sex to start.. If I wanted a girl like that, I could go to the adult shoppe and grab an inflate-a-date.. Then I wouldnt have to listen to the whining between sex sessions, either.

Another thing is the ones who want a collar, and want it NOW.. HOW can O/one know they can entrust their life to the person on the other end of the screen after speaking for a mere couple of hours over the net..? And then get butt hurt when they find out a day/week/month later that the person was lying to them..? HELLO?!? Talk to them. Get to KNOW them. These things can be easily discovered by talking to them for a week without having to talk about collars at all. If they disappear frequently at the drop of a hat, chances are their significant other has come home and they dont want to get busted.. Can't/Won't text? See above, but yes there are those, especially with the economy in its present shape, who can't afford the extravagance of having a cell phone.. I understand this. But when you offer to BUY them one and they wont accept it, then, yeah. You know whats up.

*smile* I guess My rant is done now.. Looks like its time to go back to the local scene and leave the online to the role players who enjoy that kind of thing..

Peace, A/all.

Dom

I logged on to find a profile at the top of my page.. This girl is under consideration, and I did message her to ask permission to use her words, but did not get a response.. I believe that is out of respect for he who is considering her, so will post her words here.. This is the most eloquently worded description I have ever personally seen.. My apologies to moldme2yourwill if her permission has been withheld.. I will remove it if asked..

Dom

A true Master controls and owns His slave with love, respect, and understanding. He guides her and molds her to be the best that she can be. He encourages her and praises her when she exceeds His expectations. He demands the best from her and has confidence in her that she is always giving her all. When she fails or disappoints Him, He loves her enough to punish her and always makes sure that a lesson is learned with each punishment so that she may grow. He thrives on her strength and builds it up even higher. He knows her worth, which He determines, and He values who she really is inside. A true slave is valued property. she lives to serve Him. she is nothing without her Master and only with Him she can be everything. she serves with unconditional love and respect. she worships her Master. she willingly gives Him her all, mind, body, and soul. she strives to please Him with everything that she does. she is only truly happy when she is serving Him. she needs to be owned to be complete. A true Master/slave relationship is the most beautiful thing in the world.

So... Question for those who know.. Person says they are, or sometimes that they want to be, a sub.. You lay out the rules for this person.. They don't like this one, want that one changed.. Want You to forget about this one.. *blink* uh.. you DID say you were a SUB, right?

A sub accepts the rules given, or moves on.. there is no picking and choosing which to accept or obey. ALL are obeyed or punishment is dealt accordingly..

So tired of the ones that get enamored of the THOUGHT of being a sub, but do not really want to deal with the reality, or have not thought far enough ahead to understand exactly what it will entail..

Peace, A/all.. I'm done.

I believe..

I believe that music is the soundtrack of O/our lives.. Some are simple enough to be described completely and totally by one song.. Others may be more complex and require two or more.. Personally, I have no specific genre which I listen to exclusively.. My playlist can jump from Chopin to Disturbed, then to Brad Paisley and on to Snoop Dogg..

I am, however, one of those who are more complex.. The songs that describe Me, in no particular order, are

1)Real Good Man by Tim McGraw

2)Head Like a Hole by Nine Inch Nails

3)Rough and Ready by Trace Adkins

4)How am I doin by Dierks Bentley..

5) (With some minor corrections because of the person in question) Control by Puddle of Mudd (because I CAN control whatever I lay My hands on..)

Any questions, feel free to ask.

Dom

The Taming of her Soul..

She walked into the room..... Drawing every eye inside the place... He was standing in the back... The shadows fall across His face... Their eyes met in the middle... And the sparks flew just like (SNAP!) that.. One more of Lifes small moments... From which there aint no goin back...

Chorus
she kneels to respect the power she gave Him... Over all she is or will ever be... Her trust in Him warmly engulfs her... This is what being free really means... She knows she was born only to serve Him... Finding a love few marriages alone will ever know.. He smiles as He wraps a hand in her hair... Thus starts the taming of her soul..

She doesnt know how high He'll take her.. He just knows He found His girl... She knows she has to follow her heart... And together Tthey can take on the world.. She knows she has to do this.. She knows most in the world wont understand... The total freedom in the heart of a woman... Who freely kneels before a Man...

Chorus

This is but the start of the story.. Let it unfold before your eyes.. There is no sound as she puts on her collar.. Eeveryone watches mezmerized.. She belongs to Him for bad or better... As the lock snaps closed she softly sighs..

Dedicated to my lil one, kadriya.. I love My girl very much. I am the luckiest man alive to have her in my life.. Mwa!

Dom
11/29/10

Realizations..

?I have had plenty of time to take a look at my life over the past several days, considering that I am on vacation in denver with nothing else to do..
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?I have realized that though I was lied to, I DO still have feelings for she who did so. But My trust was destroyed by her doing so.. I just don't know if love is enough to support a foundation for a relationship while said trust has a chance to restore itself..
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?Such is the decision One must make.. I guess..

?Perhaps more after a more detailed soul search..

?Dom

Topic of the Day.. Madness.

?I have browsed many profiles on here, most of which are girls scantily clad or naked.. ALL complaining that they are over-run with wannabes and posers.. *blink*
?Uh if one STARTS with talking about sex, thats PROBABLY a good indication that that is all that they have on their mind.. A relationship that is based on sex is doomed to fail eventually. Regardless of the two involved. A lifestyle relationship even more so.. I truly pity those who think all the lifestyle is is orgys.. But it shows how truly small their minds really are..
?Girls should run from them.. Before they get hurt or worse.
Dom

Topic of the Day.. Frustration.
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?It can be very frustrating in ones search for that proverbial 'one'.. The one who exists to serve or BE served by the other.. I used to think such relationships existed.. Perhaps age and experience in the online joke some sites have made the lifestyle I have embraced for so long now have made Me somewhat cynical.. Who knows? Not I.
?Does such a relationship truly exist or are W/we merely victims reading into the person on the other side of the screen that which W/we most want in life..?
?Even those to whom W/we meet face to face, can one ever truly know their mind? I am good.. The majority of the time I am already DOING something when My girl realizes she wants it.. But even so, noone is infallible. W/we are only human, regardless of how much some would like to convince others to the contrary..
Peace.
Dom

Topic of the Day.. Collar Chasers..

?There always has been that group within the community.. Those freshly learned of the lifestyle who jump on any collar which is offered, despite the fact that they do not know whether the one offering it is even worthy of respect let alone worthy of their submission.. As long as such girls remain untrained and unguided the trolls and predators will continue to feed.. Predators such as marcus.. He has many profiles.. But regardless is going to hurt a girl unless he is stopped. He has no training and even less discipline. Running his mouth about putting his girl against the wall and taking a whip to them.. Has anyone here SEEN what a whip does to a cows hide?!? Imagine that being a girls skin.. From the untrained, thats a hospital visit for the girl at best..

?The trend continues unabated.. Girls come into rooms unaware of what is going on. They learn about collars and HAVE to get one, regardless of who from.. They are not told by anyone at any time that a collar is the equivalent of a wedding band. Noone explains that a sub gives more than any wife ever will. She is literally putting her life in the hands of her dom.. Does anyone stop a person who claims to be a Dom that is not known from slapping said collar on a girl? Ok, besides Me? -laugh-

?Everyone in the community needs to step up. Dont sit and watch this activity if it happens in front of you.. SPEAK UP! The lifestyle will stagnate without the influx of fresh blood on a regular basis.. All know this. If you see someone talking to a troll or a wannabe, TELL THEM! Dont say to yourself they will learn.. Its true, they will, but possibly will assume ALL doms are the same as said troll-poser and turn from the lifestyle as another statistic with another horror story to show why the lifestyle we embrace is so heinous. Lets ALL stomp it out together..

?Let this be the call to arms for those in the lifestyle community.. If you SEE something wrong, SAY something! You can believe noone else outside the community will.. If Wwe cant police our activities and run these trolls, losers pedophiles wannabes and predators out of our midst, the lifestyle Wwe have dedicated ourselves to is doomed.. I for one wont let that happen.. Who is with Me?

?I'm done for the day, peace.
Dom

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Strictness vs Confidence..

?I was recently told by someone that they needed a dom who was more strict than I.. *laughs* right.. I believe I have stated already that I have few rules for those who are not collared to Me.. I have only a few more for those who are.. Only where online is concerned.. For those who live with Me, it is a totally different ballgame.. Once I start interacting with her, and see how she behaves, things are much different.. Is this lack of strictness in any way due to lack of will, or lack of ability, or is it just to see how far the person in question will push?

?I have full confidence in My abilities.. I know that those I get close to can be given what they seek here.. The question from there is, are they worthy of being here.. For that, I set simple rules.. Sit back and watch what happens... Those not worthy of seeing everything I am capable of are quickly rooted out, they much more prefer the rules of narrow minded and insecure wannabes.. Just as all subs are unique, so too should the approach a dom takes with them.. There is no cookie cutter approach, no one set of rules which will work on every single girl.. Wont happen.. REAL doms know this and plan for it, even welcome the chance to flex their skill..

?Dom

Topic of the Day.. HONOR.

?Honor is not something one can touch or feel.. It is a sense that infuses ones being and everything they do. Honor is the lifes blood of a real dom, and something none of the pretenders who plague this site can even begin to comprehend. Honor prevents a real dom from running around behind the back of the sub he has chosen, cybering anything that talks to him. It also prevents him from running around collaring girls under more than one name but telling them that indeed they are his only one.. I guess, when it comes down to it, pride and honor go hand in hand.. A real dom is proud to be his own man, not needing to follow the crowd.. Defying the masses by standing by his morals when necessary.. At the end of MY day, I know I have reached out and tried to keep the lifestyle true to its origins, heritage and common base rules.. But even the blind man eventually sees that he is railing at a brick wall..

Topic of the Day.. Pets.

?It has been brought to My attention that I do not have anything in My blogs that is definitive on pets.. So here goes.. A pet is the lowest position available within a lifestyle household.. The sub has a connection or affinity with a certain animal and wishes to be treated as that animal. The most common pets are kitten, puppy, pony or horse, bunny, but pig and others are not unheard of.. A pet is treated like the animal she has chosen from the time she enters the household.. She is not allowed the luxury of clothing and most often eats from a bowl on the floor and sleeps in a kennel.. Some doms keep their slaves the same way, but that is individual preference. Now, like an animal, she has no say in what is done to her by whom in the house. She has the same voice that particular animal would.. None. Anything goes when it comes to dealing with a pet.. Remember that, girls, the next time some twit of a 'master' calls girl his pet..

Topic of the Day.. Safe Words..

?Now.. Lets get down to it.. There is a disturbing trend of trolls wanting to meet girls face to face and the girls are all for it.. How to know if the person is a troll or not? A REAL Dom will issue a safe word before any such meeting.. Any interested can message Me for the most popular ones and why they are.. This will let the girl know the person is experienced and not some troll out for an easy piece of ass, though even this is not foolproof since fools are so ingenious.. That concludes todays topic..

Ramblings..

?There continue to be those here who view the lifestyle I have devoted My time and My life to promote as a game.. In their tiny little minds, as previously stated in another entry, the one who has the most girls, the hottest girl(s) or the most naked pics of the most girls wins.. Pathetic excuses for men, let alone as a Dom, NOWHERE near even being a master.. There are those here who have met girls face to face. Doing so KNOWING they have had no training and KNOWING the girls limits but chose to push her past those limits without knowing how to work her TO that point and without ever even mentioning a safe word.. Why? Because they did not know safe words existed let alone what they were for..

Submission..

?Submission, ultimately boils down to three parts. Faith, trust, and respect. Without a foundation of trust and respect, a lifestyle relationship will never survive. Subtract either ingredient from the equation and it will fail utterly. Faiths part comes into play when the voices in the back of ones head, whispering of ghosts long past which have yet to be dealt with by the person in question.. If one misunderstood word can make the person relive all of their old horrors of abandonment and betrayal in an instant, then, in My opinion, they have yet to fully cope with the original situation, and pre dispose ANY relationship they may pursue to failure.. Everything in life is a lesson. Until W/we LEARN the lesson and are ready to move on, life will repeat that lesson until W/we do.. Bury and mourn what has been lost. Find the lesson one is meant to learn so one can grow as a person, let alone a sub, before trying to fill that void again. Perhaps learning to deal with that void IS the lesson..

Dos and don'ts of the lifestyle..

?I have had requests to write a blog about how things in the lifestyle are handled, when properly done, as compared to how trolls and closed minded little men who claim themselves to be doms or masters do things.. I denied the request at first because as I said before, I do not want song, blade, massive, broadway or any of the other countless trolls out here being able to read My blog as a bible for how to become a REAL Dom.. But, after considering the thought, telling how things are NOT done does not give away how they ARE, so here goes..

?Next. A real dom, let alone a Master, will NOT collar a girl until he gets to know her and knows she will fit into his plan for his household, be it polyamorous or monogamous.. Why slap a collar on someones neck only to remove it tomorrow or the next day? Why waste the time when just talking to the person for a couple hours will reveal their lack of commitment, experience or ability to be trusted? Girls have to be able to entrust their life to their dom.. That level of trust is not established in one sitting..

?nother big one.. A REAL Dom understands the true importance of respect in a lifestyle relationship. As such, they know it must be EARNED, REGARDLESS of who it is coming from. They know they are worthy of respect, and their words and actions will back that up. They do NOT instantly demand or expect it merely because they figured out how to put 'master' in front of their name. My experience has shown that those who demand respect out here do not receive any in their REAL lives, so they pretend to be something they are not out here and expect it. Running around with 6 screen names, telling the girls collared to each that they are the only one is NOT respectable..

?Dont believe everything one sees here.. Just because a 'master' has a 'slave' does not mean they are true lifestyle.. In this day and age, where cellphones can be bought for twenty bucks at wally world, anyone can buy another phone and use that to log in under their slaves name.. Just be careful who one gives their trust to.. Especially on the same day they meet them.. Some here are not above getting information under a vanilla name to use with their lifestyle name.. Meaning they find out this or that and alter their lifestyle pro to be more appealing to that person..
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?Some of this is just so sad..

?P.S. A REAL Dom knows that a pet is an actual position within a lifestyle household. A REAL Dom will not call a slave or a sub their pet if that is not the position within the house that the girl is filling.. A pet dresses as the animal she considers herself to be, be it bunny, kitten, pony, puppy, whatever. She crawls around on all fours and has no voice or say in that happens to her. Anyone in the house can do whatever they want whenever they choose. THAT is a pet..

?For the wannabes..

?For those who have complained that My writings have gotten in the way of them getting to whatever their boyfriend is saying about them now, IGNORE ME. Its no skin off My back, nor is the hate message you send then block Me from a distraction..
Peace.
Dom

The Polyamorous Relationship..

?There is a growing misconception for those in the lifestyle here who believe that all members of a poly household have to be bi sexual.. Nothing could be further from the truth. Having owned 4 poly households in My time in the lifestyle, I know that bi sexuality is not a requirement, as proven in this case by My sweet and sexy one, lost. She has no bi qualities and has never had an interest in sharing..

?There are some who question her choice as far as poly goes, which is more than fine. Everyone has the right to their opinion. She has seen how I interact with My girls.. She has also witnessed My honesty, My acceptance of her as a person and a sub and knows beyond doubt that I can give her what she has always needed, as well as what she has always secretly WANTED, from a relationship.. She has weighed her options and has chosen to trust in Me to guide her to be the best person and sub she can be. I take this step of faith very seriously and she knows that trust will never be broken. She is not being accepted into My house because I think I can make her bisexual. The sexual aspect has barely begun to be explored thus far because it pales in comparison to the greater aspects of the lifestyle which is what she needs in her life..

?Finally, suffice it to say that poly households are viewed in the wrong perspective. Its not all about orgies in the bedroom as most of the little men here seem to think. A poly house develops due to the fact that someone weighs the options available and believes that the Dom-me in charge is the best available to guide them thru their path to becoming the best sub they can be. To minimize drama and conflict, the sub should be able to co-exist and even care for the others in the house, but sex need not enter that equation. PERIOD.

On Being Married and into the Lifestyle..

?It has been a growing trend, it seems, for married people to pretend to be a Dom/me and collar online only.. An easy way to get a cheap piece of ass, I suppose, but lets examine this mindset.. First of all, they are breaking vows they have spoken and given their word on in the presence of God Himself.. Second they have lied and cheated to get the collar on someones neck.. HOW can this type of person ever be trusted? Can someone tell Me?

The Lifestyle as a Dating alternative..

?If one is attempting to explore the depths and limits of endurance to pain, bondage or various other aspects, the lifestyle is a great place to discover ones boundaries.. As a means to meet that 'perfect boyfriend'.. *blink* yeah.. No. Not recommended. There are more than a few dating sites more than willing to assist, and usually take ones money.. Do not distract ones attention from the lifestyle thinking 'oh i can change them' or you will end up frustrated..

On Recognizing a REAL Dom..

?I have been asked several times now what makes a dom. How does one know when they meet a real one..? I will try to describe this.. Never done this before though.. A REAL Dom is very self confident. He knows He can handle anything life, or anyone else for that matter, throws at Him. He does expect respect from those around Him, but knows that respect will develop in time, is not going to be there NOW as so many pretenders do. They do not bother with telling people to do so, as the aura of self control that surrounds them brings it naturally..

?A Doms words and actions speak volumes for themselves. He is always honest and upfront with those He meets and expects the same in return. Anyone who proves incapable of keeping their own word, why should He bother? Guilt by association. He will not allow His word to be clouded in this manner.. As for His sub, once collared.. He knows Himself capable, He is not jealous as He KNOWS He is good at what He does, IF He forbids His sub from associating with another dom, it is because the one in question has proven themselves a liar or a cheat, one whose word means nothing and will TELL her why.. Not get butt hurt that a name is there that is more respected than he will EVER be and demand she remove it..

?Now, I am the first to point out to the twits who will say those I put in training have their mail restricted. THIS is to show exactly how many wannabes there are out here. They will jump in their mail, heedless of proper protocol and etiquette, ergo RULES, and demand this or that. NO. Mail restriction serves its purpose well. Thanks trolls and wannabes for proving My point. After training any girl collared by Me has such restrictions lifted as by then she and I B/both know I am the guide best suited to lead her or not.. If she finds one she feels to be more qualified, I will release her to find out otherwise the hard way..

?As previously stated, I have never tried to explain this before. I may have left a detail or two out that could have been included, but do so for good reason.. My blogs are to help train those newly entering the lifestyle as well as help those who have experience to grow. I will NOT let some troll happen upon it and use it as a road map to becoming the perfect dom or even a dom in good standing.. This is the reason for these omissions.. In fact the good dom who happens across it will instantly see the false information I have added to this to prevent such a possibility.. I will leave it to the reader to decide which is which..

THE LIFESTYLE..

?Notice the name. Lifestyle means a decision to devote ones life to living a certain way. It does NOT mean a way to find out how to meet and please a boy/girlfriend and live happily ever after. It is a daily devotion to improving ones life to be the best one can be and outwardly project the training and values of ones dom/me. I did not get into the lifestyle, nor am I here, to meet a girlfriend. Nor am I here to meet a fuckbuddy or occasional booty call, though I receive such offers all the time..

?I AM here to extend the community of the lifestyle I have chosen to live and to show those interested in the aspects of it what the lifestyle is about. If someone approaches Me, or one I see that in MY opinion needs it, I may train that person. My agreement to do so does not mean that she belongs to Me any longer than is needed to properly train her and ensure that she will not fall prey to some wannabe or troll. It will help her by knowing the rules and be able to see a fake for what they are..

I have the pleasure, as ones training progresses, to assess a girl. To decide during that time if she will fit into the vision I have for My home, My fortress of solitude so to speak. IF that happens, I will offer her My collar. If it does not, be it through an inability or unwillingness to follow My rules, a moral disagreement or whatever else, I will know she is not right for Me and said collar will not be offered..

?But to agree to collar someone solely based on online chemistry for a real time relationship is wrong. There are many variables that can change when placed face to face. Not taking these into account could hurt both parties, in My opinion. ?

Dom/me or Master/Mistress..? Actions Decide..

?There is a difference between a dom and a Master. This difference is subtle, but clear to any who watch the activities in any room on even a semi-regular basis.. The girl who belongs to a dom enters. They may speak in the room, they may not. If they do, attitude shows. They are collared, they know it and they are, often times, smug to be so.. Now enter the Masters girl. Her every movement is made to please her owner. Every word she speaks is done so to teach others and show how the lifestyle SHOULD be...

?This girl is not just collared, she is OWNED, and she and everyone who come in contact with her know this. Her every thought focuses on how to best serve, please, and show her Masters absolute control of his property.. The differences do not stop there. As said, a doms sub fears his wrath should she displease or disappoint him, if she breaks a rule, known or not, she knows she will be punished. A Masters sub dreads the displeasure of her Master more than the punishment. She knows that before being punished she will be taught why she is being punished and how she can avoid being disciplined again in future.

?I have said this before, and this will probably not be the last time it is said, but adding 'master' to ones name in no way MAKES one. Master is a position and a title aspired to by all Doms, but few ever reach. Most doms collar a girl, and thats it. They bang them. They beat them. Life goes on. FEW here even know what BDSM stands for, let alone how to live the lifestyle..

?The lifestyle is an ongoing adventure in learning, whether having been in it for weeks, months, years, even decades. A Master continues to grow themselves as they guide their sub. The sub teaches the Master as He teaches them. This will weed out more of the wannabes, I believe..

On Being a REAL Master/Mistress..

?Bear in mind this was based on observations from the aforementioned site.. Have not been to the rooms here in a very long time, so have no idea how much bearing it has at the moment..

?All of these wannabes out here.. They put master in their name and believe that MAKES them one.. *sigh* whats really sad is the girls willingly accept that at face value.. It took Me 2 years of training under the guidance of a VERY experienced Domme before I was even CLOSE to being ready to discipline a sub with My Own hand. And these ones out here.. They make their private rooms and invite all these unsuspecting new girls in.. Someone is going to get hurt.. Thats the sad part..

?To all of you wannabes who sit in your little 'lairs' pretending to be what I AM.. I hope these girls have their eyes opened before that happens.. A REAL Master welcomes questioning. They are proud of their training and will gladly go into details about it if questioned, not run off with their tails tucked between their legs and hide in some private room where the big bad REAL Masters cant find them and point them out for the fake they are. Peace.

Time...
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Once in a while one comes into your life.. Very rough around the edges, but still, giving that gleam of the treasure buried within.. One may dismiss such a one out of hand and never regret it for a moment, never be plagued with wondering what if..? -I-, on the other hand, took a chance with such a one.. My little mew, or kitten.. From the diamond in the rough to present day, the changes in her are phenominal.. Nothing short of miraculous to those who knew her before..

? But, all changes aside, all it took was honesty, and putting forth the effort to show her, she who knew no boundaries before Me, where her limits were.. Yes, she still has moments where her mouth runs a little more than it should, but all have such moments.. I, though, am thoroughly blessed with not just one, but two such girls. Was recently introduced by My kitten to yet a third who is eager to join O/our happy family as well..

?I guess the point I am getting at herein is simple.. Yes, it may take some work on Ones part to polish this one who happens across your path into that glittering jewel that any Dom would be proud to have, but is that reward not worth the effort to expend a little energy and bring out? Is the challenge not, in itself, enough to make one eager for the chance? How boring would life be without such challenges?

The Easy Way Out..

?Too many times in our lives, we get the notion in our heads for one reason or another, that one thing or another will act as a quick fix for whatever ails us in life.. As with get rich quick schemes, if it sounds too good to be true, it usually is.. As in the lifestyle. There is, and can be no easy way to earn someones trust than by putting forth the time and effort of showing them that one is worthy of such..

?In the lifestyle, as in life in general, one can not be too eager. By doing so, it leaves us vulnerable in different ways at different times, but knowing that one is putting their life, literally, in someone elses hands, how can one do less than know without a shadow of a doubt about the one in question? That does not happen in a day, or maybe even in a week. Time must be your guide here. Let them prove themselves, show that they stand up to what they claim. Prove what they say is true. THEN will one know they have found the right Master-sub.

The 'proper' sub, beginning..

?Much has already been said about how a proper sub should act or what she should do.. All of it I have seen dreadfully inaccurate.. Every sub is unique, as is every Dom/mes expectations of those who serve them.. This being said, how can there be one cut and dried rule of thumb for EVERY sub to behave..?

?That being said, I can only give My PERSONAL view of how I expect those collared to Me to behave.. I have been in the lifestyle quite some time, and know that unlike too many, My girls all know the true meaning of what it means to have every fiber of their being owned. Their every thought centered on one goal.. Pleasing He she calls Master.

?Those most desirable to Me know the processes of the lifestyle.. Basic rules and principles, most common expectations which are the same from house to house.. She should also have a deeper understanding and grasp of the intricacies.. Few doms enjoy punishing.. A good dom sees the need to punish at all as a failure on their part on behalf of their sub..

?Those who enter My care I try to teach that it is not the punishment that girl need fear, as the need to punish is an opportunity to both learn and grow stronger within the lifestyle, but what should be feared is the disappointment of He who owns her, heart, mind, body and soul..

?What makes a proper sub to Me is one who knows her place, and takes pride in being there. On the rare occasion when she has a problem, she keeps that problem to herself until she can approach in private and express herself properly.. In public she will never say more than yes Sir or no Sir..

?There are those here running around trying to find a master/mistress because it sounds hott or its the latest fad.. These types will never understand any of what I say here as their narrow minds are already closed to new ideas. Submissiveness or Dominance is something one is either born with or not. The concepts can be discussed forever, but one born without either will never understand nor be able to grasp the intricate nuances that accompany either..

The Difference Between a Dom/me and a Master/Mistress..
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?A Dom/me plays a multitude of roles in the life of their sub(s)..
1. They are Protector.
3. They are guide.
5 They are lover.
?To the Dom/me this is where their obligation ends. But the astute will see that 2 numbers, hence positions in the life of the sub(s) are missing..
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The Master/Mistress will fill the following roles in the life of Their sub(s)
1. Protector.
2. Provider.
3. Guide.
4. Confidante and friend.
5. Lover.
?The roles are in order of importance as seen thru the eyes of such a person..

More about My Lifestyle..
The lifestyle I have immersed Myself in certain facets of for the past 15 yrs is a close knit but loose conglomeration of individuals.. Almost a brotherhood if you will.. There are aspects which I do not partake of, such as dressing in diapers, but the desire to do so will not preclude Me from associating with a brother or sister who does.. If W\we cant accept each other for each others individuality, how can W/we expect the world at large to ever have a hope of doing so?

The BDSM Lifestyle..
It has come to My attention thru watching supposed 'masters' out here that the lifestyle I have been living for the past 15 yrs is some kind of game.. Nothing could be further from the truth. It is a lifestyle, a commitment in both oneself and the one(s if one is as lucky as I am) sharing ones home and life with.. The word master intimates training and hard work, only minor bits of it thru trial and error.. Remember that..

I recently informed someone in the forums that I would be migrating My blogs from another site over here.. The site is mocospace, My screen name is master-d0m just so everyone knows I am not attempting to plagiarize anything here.. Enjoy, hope it helps someone..

To Girl Alone..

To girl alone, I give My heart,
Filled with a lifetime of pride.
Which brought her to Me,
And keeps her by My side.

To girl alone I give the world,
Prepared for her feet to roam.
So that girl can find that perfect place
For Oour family to call its home.

To girl alone I give My life,
Without her it means not a thing.
I said it all when around her neck,
I placed that golden ring.

I love My lil one.. Just making sure she knows that..

The Poly Household..
There are those who view the poly household as a morass of iniquity.. Constant orgies.. Sexual depravity to end all.. This, though sometimes the case, is far from the norm.. A lifestyle household can be equated with religion.. There is the Head of the religion, there is the Head of the household. Then there are the worshippers, or members of the household. Each individuals relationship with the Head is their own personal choice, and need not necessarily reflect the relationship of the others within the congregation.. Their relationship is on an individual basis and the other members need not have any knowledge of what transpires there..
I have had 4 poly households in My time in the lifestyle ranging from 2 to 5 subs at a time. Some of these subs were not bi-sexual, some were not even bi-curious, but they worked because they were there to serve ME, not be made to service each other..
Just an attempt to open some eyes out here.. Peace.

Time..
Do not know if things here have changed overly much in the interim of My absence, but it used to be that a sub would say hi, and then become irritated or worse if one did not offer her a collar by the evenings end.. If they feel that way, feel free to not message Me. My collars, if offered, have meaning behind them, not to mention that they are meant to endure years, not days, weeks, nor even months, though months does at times happen.
A collar is the equivalent of a wedding band. Yes? Would one accept a marriage proposal from someone they met on the street..? Would the person really WANT someone who DID accept it so quickly..? I make no decision in haste. I have been playing chess since the age of 5, and am quite the strategist. EVERY angle is studied as is the minutiae of the repercussions of every reaction. If one wants a drive by collaring, I'm sure there are those here who would gladly offer it.. I am, again, not the one..

The Lifestyle as a dating alternative..
In the years I have been active in the lifestyle, I have had the misfortune of meeting several who, after several months of being 'submissive' who have asked when the role play would end and W/we could just be a normal couple..? (Or some such words to similar efffect) These girls were promptly released to seek, and perhaps FIND, the boyfriends they obviously thought Me to be. Im not the one. With 16 years now in the lifestyle, I can honestly say, I can remember nothing of My life before entering the lifestyle, nor would I ever return to that vanilla life even if the opportunity were to somehow present itself..
ALL of the choices I have made in My life up to this point, have made Me into the Man that I am, and have groomed Me for My role as a Dom. I will never be anything else.

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