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Into the scene for about ten years, I'm looking for a sane consensual submissive female to continue the exploration.
So that's the boring bit out of the way... :)
The more interesting part is what I'm looking for, and how a D/s relationship works for me - and therefore for you, if we are to click. It's just that it's rather hard to describe it in words. So if what follows rings a bell, we should probably compare notes.
D/s is primarily a power exchange, for me. The submissive gives up almost all of her power, happy in the knowledge that the dominant will not abuse it, though understanding that he will most certainly use her to fulfil his desires and wishes before considering hers. In return, the submissive receives a great deal of security and grounding from him: she is looked after, all her basic needs will be met, and the boundaries of her world are very clearly defined by him.
Given that she has no power to speak of, his word is obviously the law. And to keep her boundaries clear, transgressions cannot go unpunished. When done properly (my list of interests gives a clue), this is reassuring to her.
The degree to which I demand submissive behaviour varies with the mood. She might just have to do as she's told; at other times, I'm a lot more theatrical - my list of interests gives a clue here as well. Again, when done properly, demonstrating her submission openly can be reassuring to a submissive, as can my approval.
I hope that makes some sense - I said it was hard to explain. Feel free to write with the view from the submissive side, if you recognize what I'm saying.
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