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Submission is one of those things that can be impossible to explain to someone without understanding any of this stuff, and even to people that do, submission can me an great varied thing from one person to another. To hopefully help others understand me more and maybe random information, here is what I think are several different levels of submission that I see and understand:
Submission for a scene: One submits themselves to some bdsm play, within limits set before hand and both sides enjoy the said experience, nurturing is usually done afterwards to bring both people out of the dominance/submissive head space and both end things in agreeable terms. There could be sex involved in such a scene, but can be sexual things at all or even any sexual contact (like say for most public scenes.) Two people choose to agree to enjoy each other in an agreed upon play and enjoy what each other gets from the small power exchange from it. This would almost be the bdsm equivalent of vanilla casual sex for no better word for it. There are things more fulfilling than this.
Submission for a day/week/month/etc: A person submits to another for a period of time, putting the other person's wants, needs, and desires ahead of their own. And quite a few people would think about this in only sexual terms, but it is much more than that. This can be service in doing things around the house or making oneself useful. It can be in doing things that would please the other person or perhaps for amusement. It can be roleplay, it can be pleasing them, it can be simply just being there for support or other needs. In vanilla terms, would almost call this a date in a way.
Submission of the body: This is very poorly named here, but I would call this submitting oneself in a way that would be close to some physical limits, or being open to ideas to things you wouldn't have imagined but you trust the person enough to let them do it to you. Trust being the key word here, putting more of your trust into another person to do more things that either would do before.
Submission of the mind: An easier term for most to understand what this is would be training. Instilling some behavior or decision or reflex that goes a bit beyond just thinking about it, but become more of a reaction sort of thing. It could be something as simply doing some task on command, but I'm kinda talking about something a bit more deeper than that. I could probably put more words for this one but I'll leave it at this for now.
Submission of self: For all intensive purposes, I would say this is one person being a slave. And even within this, one could say there are different levels of this as well, parts of it being more mental than physical, being property, or objectification, or doing something that you're ordered to do, even if you wouldn't want to or wouldn't normally do. Some part of me finds some of this to be erotic in different ways, but it would take a lot of trust and understanding of each other before I could be anything like this for extended periods of time. And even more trust and understand would be required for a submission at this level to be a lasting one. A submission of this level should not be given lightly, nor should it be given quickly.
Submission of soul: Now this kinda gets me a little bit. Some people out there want themselves to be called Goddesses and that they are the high almighty Goddess to, it not the whole world, to at least a few people. And this I do understand at some level, and understand what it can do, but it does make me cringe just a little bit since we are all God's creatures in one form or another.
Well, there's my two cents on submission there. I find submission to be a very romantic thing to give to another person, but it is something that I will not give to everyone, only to people that deserve it. And the best way to get that is to give it little by little with understanding, trust, and love.
And with submission out of the way, how does all of this work out with being a switch? Well, with meeting the right person and switch out there, things can weave together in such an amazing way; where one thing starts, another begins. Power, trust, and love mixed in so many different ways, that the boundaries on the ways thing work become something unique between the two people.
And for one last comment for now about switching, so many scenes can go either way depending on the mindset. Take the simple example of one person massaging another. Is it the submissive massaging the dominant to make the dominant feel nicer serving them, or is it a dominant massaging the submissive, rewarding them for something or to make the submissive feel good and open and enhance the mindspace.
Oh, I do have pictures of myself, but will not post them to my profile, message me and will reply with one and it will be a vanilla picture, I can't believe that I actually have to say that, but looking at some other profiles, I feel like I have to.
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