countrykitten89

Here is a little more about me, my thoughts, and my beliefs....

I am one to believe in male dominance and female submission being nature's norm. However, I do not believe that that means every male is a Dominant and every female is a submissive. There is a difference between being dominant and being a Dom, just as there is a difference between being submissive and being a submissive. I also don't believe submitting out of shame or weakness. One submits with pride and strength.  One should be proud to submit, proud to serve the one who has earned this gift and will love and care for her, guide and protect her. A submissive is strong...sometimes even more so than a Dominant.

I do love bondage, but what I like even more is a Dominant who can exert their control more naturally...use his own body and mind rather than relying on ropes, chains, and whips. Those things, and other objects, are nothing more than an extension of the wielder's power, to me. The true power resides in the person himself.

Contrary to what many think, I do actually believe that qualities such as compassion and dominance can exist in someone at the same time. A Dom doesn't need to be harsh all the time, doesn't need to be rude, doesn't need to demand respect and obedience...shouldn't need to be. To me, that honestly says that he feels he has something to prove, maybe to himself. With the last two parts of that, respect and obedience, those shouldn't be things that he needs to demand...those are things he should earn, things he should inspire.

To me, a true Dom is one who is firm but fair, strict but kind, loving and guiding. Someone to look up to, someone to learn from. I also believe that all Doms, with the exception of extreme sadists, have at least a touch of the Daddy in them...and that has nothing to do with age. A 25 year old Dom can have as much, or even more, of the Daddy in him than a 50 year old. To me, that refers to his attitude and manner, the way he handles things. 

To me, a submissive is one who serves out of love. And she serves the one who was able to uncover her submissive side, draw it out like a snake charmer draws a snake out of a basket (odd reference, I know, but it works lol). She is strong and intelligent, works hard to learn the lessons her Dom would teach, accepts her punishment with grace. She is honest...she would never hide things from her Dom. If she's done wrong, she would admit her mistake and apologize. If something has gone wrong, it is her responsibility to let her Dom know. Doms are not mind readers. Yes, a bond can be strong enough for him to know quickly if something has happened, but it takes time to build up to that level, and open lines of communication must still be kept even then. 

To me, a D/s relationship is a thing of beauty. The level of love, trust and devotion on both sides can be absolutely amazing. And it's something that those who stick to vanilla styles can never know or understand. In a D/s relationship, the bond between the two can grow so strong that everything is stripped away, right down to just the pure souls, the essence of who those two people are. The masks we wear in every day life disappear and leave us with our natural forms.

So I found this joke today...and I just have to post it here. To those who live life extremely seriously and never learned to laugh, it's probably best that you don't read this ^.^

There are three Doms stranded on an island in the middle of a river. They want to cross the river but they don't know how.

Suddenly, they find a magic lamp. One of the Doms rubs it, the genie says "I'll give each one of you one wish."

The first Dom says, "I wish I was ten times smarter than I am now. The guy then learns to swim and swims across the river.

The next Dom says, "I wish I was ten times smarter than he was." The genie makes him smart enough to build a boat and paddle across the river.

The third Dom says, "I wish I was twenty times smarter than both of them put together" ....

The genie turns the Dom into a woman and she walks across the bridge.