ColourMeKink

I saw these three types of protocol on a peer's blog, differrent site. I agree with them.

SSC – Safe Sane and Consensual

A Dom and his sub make rules - writes a protocol governing the relationship...

The Dom will never break the rules, and will start a conversation with the sub, well before the boundaries is reached, with the purpose of re-negotiating the boundaries.

A safe word is agreed upon, but is close to never used.

Edge play
A Dom and his sub make rules - writes a protocol governing the relationship...

The Dom will often press his sub to go closer to her limit.

The Dom and the sub will derive pleasure from her getting close to the edge.

The “breaking” of the sub is always present in the play. And this risk is a source of pleasure of the play

A safe word is agreed upon, but seldom in use.

RACK – Risk Aware Consensual Kink

There’s no protocol governing the play of the Dom and his sub.

The play evolves with no boundaries.

The relationship is based on trust and a lot of communication.

I believe a safe word is agreed upon, but a lot of the planning is done between scenes, based on a lot of communication.

I'm fascinated by people, books and understanding 'things'. At work I'm known for cheekily nudging the status quo; I believe change is inevitable and staying still is only going backwards slower than someone who's actually really screwing something up.

I'm a romantic tease with a significantly 'naughty' side which comes out every so often. I've been in relationships for years at a time, but found that a certain itch wasn't been scratched, and I found out what it was several years ago when my girlfriend and I discovered how turned on we both were by all things kink related - and I've learnt a lot since then.

I discovered an incredibly creative side to my personality, and have been described by my peers (both Tops and bottoms) as a skilled and natural dom. Combine those parts of my personality with extremely high empathy levels have allowed for some incredible experiences with some remarkable people - from all walks of life. It is a significant part of who I am; I have learnt so much from those who share their experiences, their time - and, most importantly - their trust.
(and yes, I've been on both sides of the cuffs as well; enjoyed both.)
Trust is the critical component - I'm as much a slave to your trust as you would be to me. There is always a healthy dose of humour in any relationship, and I value it highly. If you start giggling though, I'll probably join in - and then distract you with something else.

I want to help and befriend those who are exactly where I used to be - with a certain itch that they're too embarrassed to ask someone about how to scratch it.

I'm looking for women who are willing to take the first few steps. If you're reading this, you're at least curious, and I invite you to simply ask any questions you want. Chances are high that I've been there, done / seen / understand that - everything from how understated blindfolds are to the places the wharton wheel can go.. And there is so much more to learn, both for you and I. Every new person is a new story to understand, and I *really* enjoy turning each of your pages to discover things even you didn't know about yourself.

To any sub who's been mistreated...

I smile and laugh with m playmates - they are never slaves. However, when I'm focusing on her body, wrists and ankles restrained against the bed or table.. That sort of focus and intensity on both sides is incredible and the best rush ever. After a particularily intense session, I'll use whatever energy *I* have left to gently wash her.. Then we can both collapse.

See - not all D's are bad. A Dom should never treat you badly - you're entrusting them with your most intimate gift - it's their responsibilty to look after it. In essence - a D is a slave to your trust..