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More than anything, I look for relationship material. Short term play is great and all, but there's nothing better than having someone you can depend on. It's always there, even if you have to be subtle about it around my family (and me yours), the power exchange, the lines of authority, they are always there, on amongst everything. In the end, what defines my life more than anything else is using you. Everyone is good for different things, and I want to find out what you are useful for. I want to improve you, make you suit my purposes better. I find that the real judge of a person isn't in a mechanical checklist, but in the words she/he writes. Please take care in writing to me; it is all I have to judge you by right now. No, as pretty as your picture is, that is not all I want to judge you by.

I hope you picked up by now that my biggest priority is not a quick lay. A good relationship takes time to build, and I hope you have the time to build one with me. If you just want to play, however, just be honest about it; I don't want to inhibit you from chasing something you want. I will talk with you soon.

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3/6/2017 4:33:56 PM
If you like poetry, I do occasionally put some verse up on my fet account.  This forum is not well suited for poetic forms, though.

1/1/2017 6:09:31 AM
It's a new year again, and I know you need a change.  The most wonderful thing I, as a dom, can do for you is to mold you into a better person, a better submissive.  Come to me and help me help you.

11/11/2016 9:41:27 AM
When the smooth rubber slides over her skin, she becomes a shiny new being, faceless, featureless, beautiful.

11/7/2016 10:50:25 AM
Would you introduce yourself to someone using only a tanka?

11/4/2016 10:12:43 AM
I'm in Madison this weekend if anyone wants to connect.

1/1/2016 8:04:41 AM
Tell me what your New Year's resolutions are.  Perhaps we can help you accomplish them.

11/6/2015 5:13:16 AM

Never be afraid to submit to your friend. If he truly cares about you and understands what you need, he might be the best person to give you what you need, but only if you are strong enough to see it.

True love is not to give you whatever you want, but to be a strong hand when you need it.


11/4/2015 5:00:00 AM
Submission does not require love; it does not require lust; it does not require respect; it does not require a trade; it does not require conditions.  Submission requires nothing more than the sincere knowledge that he (or she, if you will) is owed obedience.  Emotions can help, or they can hinder, but, in the end, are peripheral to what matters. 

8/3/2015 4:38:41 PM
Dreams? Of course dreams are real. They are the spigots through which magic gushes into this world. What could be more real?

4/12/2015 3:31:08 PM
There are few feelings so nice as when one meets a sub who's woman enough to give straight answers and make informed decisions without beating around the bushes.

3/31/2015 4:56:22 AM
Whatever happened to all those Gor people who used to hang around?

3/27/2015 10:42:18 AM
To be honest, I'm nothing like that Grey guy. My room of pain is decorated in plaid. Red is *SO* 90s.

3/16/2015 5:06:04 AM
It's a strange feeling, to be called an asshole for saying that looks don't matter that much.
What a strange world we live in.

4/6/2014 7:53:34 AM

If you like abuse, do put enough in your profile for someone to abuse you with.  Do you really want to settle for the unimaginative, illiterate peasants who will greedily latch onto such a wish with their usual kneejerk response of, "You suck!", "Fatso", "Ur face is ugly!"?

No.  Do include something to work with, if you are not just as imaginative as a hen pecking at the dirt in which a rooster had just shat.  Tell us all about how abhorrent the penetrating bouquet is which wafts from the yeast colony growing within your unwashed vaginal folds.  Tell us how twisted and crooked those feet are which you pointedly do not show in your profile picture.  Tell us how you tried to help your son cheat on his fifth grade math test, only to make him fail with your infantile answers.

 

Please, if you beg for abuse, at least give us something to work with.


7/27/2013 9:30:15 AM

I find it incredibly amusing to see a journal entry complaining about guys sending her penis pictures, when the top picture on her profile is naught but a pair of boobs.


3/16/2013 9:24:34 AM

One of the best feelings in the world is being able to tell her, "good girl".


1/22/2013 3:50:14 PM

In all honesty, I much prefer saying 'good girl' to the alternative.  That's just the kind of dom I am.


1/22/2013 1:53:13 PM
Sometimes I reflect that feminism has done a great disservice to all people who are naturally submissive, not limited to women, but disproportionately affecting them, by stigmatizing their acceptance of personal, natural authority and by associating long sentences and big words with a hypothetically oppressive patriarchy.

1/4/2013 12:43:03 PM
Pretty pictures all Fairer by far is one who With prosaic flair Sends my heart beating madly With an erudite profile

12/28/2012 6:29:24 AM
Free will: Some people ought not have it. Some of them have found their way here.

11/22/2012 8:23:38 AM

It is days like this when I really crave a girl to set on my knee and cuddle and tell her how wonderful and pretty she is and how I want to mold her into my perfect woman.

 

Perhaps this is the daddy dom in me waxing.


11/13/2012 5:17:23 AM

Some people really need to work on their 'witty banter' skills.


11/6/2012 4:46:39 AM

Who is Dagny Taggart?


9/15/2012 7:30:18 AM

I have always thought that being dominant is more about molding her into a better person than about getting what I want.  Of course, a better person is one who gives me what I want anyhow.  Win-win?


4/22/2012 3:26:43 PM

A circle.

 

A doorway, a window.

An opening to the universe.

A wall, a constraint.

 

Should we break the circle, or keep it firm around us.

Does it protect us from the world, or the world from us?

 

 


4/16/2012 5:16:34 PM

Yes, talk to me.  I like talking to people, all kinds of people.

 

It seems like half the messages I get are from people telling me that he/she found my profile interesting but was too shy to send a message.


3/12/2012 4:38:12 PM

I have seen male subs say "woof" a lot.  Is it supposed to be sexy or something?  I don't get it, but I've seen it said without explanation enough that I feel like they think I'm supposed to.


3/3/2012 10:40:30 AM

I realize that my profile hasn't changed much in quite some time.  If you'll look closely, you'll find that it's mainly because I used a lot of words to say very little of moment.  That kind of elegance wears well with time, and I still consider it to be very pretty.  (I like pretty things.)


2/27/2012 8:28:59 PM

The medieval rationalization that the Lord of the manor somehow protected the human cattle under his control was just that.  Even if the human cattle would have faced more brutal victimizers had they left, the Lord still grew fat off their efforts, and they lived short and brutal lives.  Even the horses and cattle in his domain were treated with more care than the serfs, who He had no need or wish to breed to any kind of excellence or to nuture, as no one wished to buy any of their grubby spawn.


2/15/2012 1:45:38 PM

There's something about the look and feel of rubber, especially on someone else, that really looks and feels right.  Especially if I am the one who made it happen.


1/8/2012 10:41:42 AM
"It puts the lotion on its skin or else it gets the hose again." Such simple words, to carry such out of context romance.

11/7/2011 6:51:06 PM

If I was doing social research, I'd totally do a study on the different types and number of "WARNING: Institutions using [social/dating site] for projects do not have my permission to use my profile info..." disclaimers there are out there.


People need to get used to the idea that an a student trying to put together a kick-ass term paper is the least of their worries when they're posting information, on a public website, about themselves engaging in activities that many consider morally questionable, if not illegal.


8/21/2011 7:34:58 AM

 Training is not about teaching you to obey, but about teaching you that someone has a vested interest in improving you.


5/18/2011 8:38:05 AM

Some people know their place.  Some people know where they are.  Some people don't know either one.  Some people get them confused.

 

Which one are you?


3/31/2011 4:54:51 PM

Think for a second, and ask yourself how many dryads had a fetish for their trees being pruned.


2/17/2011 6:34:38 AM

I decided to remove my photos for professional reasons.  If you want to see photos of me, feel free to ask!


2/11/2011 6:10:43 AM

I'm at Capricon in Chicago this weekend, in case anyone else is too.


11/8/2010 12:27:53 PM

The ending statement of someone's profile caught my eye just now.  "Why should I serve you?"

I'd much rather you understand why you want to serve me once you get to know me.  How is anyone going to convince you to serve him without knowing who you are?


11/8/2010 12:25:50 PM

Apparently somehow I got blocked by someone who only opened her account yestreday, and I hadn't had any contact with.  This makes me wonder if she checked the wrong box somewhere.

It's a pity, too.  She seemed like such an interesting person, and I thought we could have had chemistry together.


6/22/2010 7:17:23 AM
A recent exchange of messages drove home to me just how annoying some people seem to be. 

So, a male subbie writes me.  (This does seem to be the most annoying demographic.)  He spells half his words wrong, doesn't use capitalization, and his syntax is spotty.  In case you're counting, that's three strikes against him.

I explained to him that I consider writing skills to be part of a person's presentation online.  Writing like he did is tantamount to hitting on someone when you're dressed up like a bum and mumbling half your words.  Yes, I called him a bum because of his writing style.

He takes offense and starts insulting me (in the same style, of course), at which point I have to wonder what the point is of him continuing to write me.  It's not like he's going to make himself look any better, and he should know better than to think I take anything he says seriously.

Lesson:  If you've obviously failed to impress someone, the most insulting him is going to do is give him a few lulz.

4/26/2010 7:09:30 PM
Why is it that every time I walk past the dog cages in the pet store I try to guestimate which ones would be suitable for a slave?

I suppose the answer is elementary.

4/23/2009 7:15:13 PM
Tip for all the male subbies out there.  (The female ones are probably more likely to get away with it, but you guys can probably benefit, too.)

It's probably a good idea not to question a man's paternity when he's been just as polite to you as you've been to him.  If you send a man a brief, one-sentence message, what do you expect back, seriously?

6/1/2008 2:34:31 PM
For those who would offer tribute, you blessed souls, you, I give notice that I am  now willing to accept it in cheese and vodka.

8/18/2007 1:15:22 PM
Wow, I actually had to block someone.

Here's a hint for the dumb people out there:  If you've asked someone if he wants to cut your balls off more than once, and he hasn't taken you up on the offer, I'm guessing he doesn't want to do it, so stop asking him to.

3/23/2007 6:06:11 AM
One thing that I don't see people discuss much is the topic of bisexuality and d/s.  I identify sexually as hetero; I much prefer to be in intimate situations and intimate relationships with females, but that doesn't mean that I wouldn't be able to take on a male submissive.  Granted, I would likely be a bit more picky with a male submissive than a female one, but you never know what kind of chemistry works right, so you have to experiment, you know?  Likewise, the dynamic between me and a male submissive would be rather different; he shouldn't come to me if he wants sex, that's for sure. :)

3/19/2007 5:11:44 AM
I go to a good number of events in the local community--munches, discussion groups, etc.  At the last discussion group (there's one held monthly here in Milwaukee), we were talking about lifestyle d/s and old school protocol.  Throughout the discussion, it kept coming back to me that this is something I really want to have in my life, a structured d/s relationship more that s/m play.  Unfortunately, I've found that most of the people around tend to emphasize the s/m much more, sometimes to exclusion.  I can only hypothesize that so many people are merely into the quick thrill, which d/s has a hard time providing.  It's about a relationship, and those you need to work at and spend time nurturing.

2/14/2007 5:29:20 AM
Someone actually got the idea from my profile that I want to keep the kink in the bedroom. What?  Lifestyle d/s is very important to me. I realize it isn't to everyone, but, to me, there's a lot more to a relationship than what you do in bed.

1/18/2007 5:15:53 AM
I really do hate being sick, as it keeps me away from munches, and no one wants to visit you.

1/16/2007 8:30:12 PM
I held that chain in my hands and I broke it.  The collar she placed around her neck I left in place, as she had put that there, but the time was not right for her to belong to me.

When was the last time you met a person and immediately knew beyond all doubt that you were destined to belong to him for all eternity?  I imagine it probably happened once or twice.  I also know that this feeling probably didn't last too long.  Oh, for some people it lasts an entire lifetime, but the odds against that are pretty high.
A true relationship takes more work than that.  Open yourself up; let him get inside your head.  Hell, I bet you'll need to be set free at least once and make your own way back to him.  Once you do, though, it's a whole lot sweeter.  You'll have had the chance to go elsewhere, and you'll have probably found some things out about him that you don't like so much.  You don't mind it, though, because you belong to him, and he provides direction, and you provide him with yourself.  You know what he can give you, and he knows what he can take from you.

This is about being at peace with the world, and understanding your place in it.

11/25/2006 8:15:35 PM
Here's a question for y'all to ponder.

Who provides the service, the submissive or the dominant?

10/2/2006 8:28:46 PM
When I write someone a message, I try to personalize it as much as I can to her.  I talk to her as a real person, because that's how I view you all.  I know there are a bunch of guys out there who just send out form messages; I have a couple girl friends who keep getting them, and I know it annoys the hell out of them.

Hey, if there's something in my profile or emails you think you might be misunderstanding, or which confuses me, go ahead and ask.  I mean, I generally don't bite before making sure it's not a hard limit. :P

10/1/2006 8:48:16 PM
Yestreday, I saw a submissive.
She was plainly herself, simply open, and modestly impressive.
When I spoke to her, her eyes showed respect, while her words stayed firm.
Her mind was active, and her manner self-reliant.
Around her neck she wore a collar to show whom she served.
Though she needed to serve, it was plain from her carriage that she could live on her own, and that such a gem was trusted far from his side spoke more about her master than anything else could.

8/15/2006 5:48:50 AM
Another year, another day.

I passed my 29th birthday yestreday; I'm not one to stand much on ceremony, and I had lots to do anyhow, so I seldom do any big celebrations unless I have people who'd be disappointed if I didn't humour them with their plans.

I'm looking forward to the next year, which will hopefully bring new opportunities.  I hope y'all have been having a good year yourselves.

3/23/2006 1:34:55 PM
I want to know what submission means to you.  Why don't you tell me?

2/22/2006 8:57:56 AM
I was sending an email to someone regarding profiles, and I wrote the following.  I think it bears repeating.

"Less can sometimes be more, but only in good hands.  More than often, detail is key, as you seem to know.  A good picture is nice, but, if all you have up is a sexy photo, you're going to get people who only care about a sexy body.  (While those are great and all, there's so much more.)"

1/25/2006 8:04:25 AM
One thing has been amusing me:

I have my filters set to anyone who's looking for a male dominant.  I see quite a number of submissive males who have 'looking for a male dominant' checked, but specify in their profiles that they want female dominants.  Why do they do this?  It seems contradictory.

1/19/2006 6:54:15 AM
I was told yestreday that I'm a 'knight in shining armor'.

I'm ok with that, as long as you realize that I'm a knight who's into being served (lunch, not for lunch) and punishing bad subbies for their aweful transgressions.

Right now my armour's none too shiny.  I need to find me a submissive/slave to shine it for me.

1/18/2006 10:37:42 AM
Even if a slave's got killer looks, if she doesn't have the right attitude, even being just a simple pleasure slave isn't going to work out well.

1/13/2006 7:50:58 AM
Now I just noticed (by trying to send an email) that I'm blocked by a submissive down in IL whom I believe I've never talked to. 

How does something like that happen?  Anyone who knows me certainly knows that I try quite hard never to give offense.  Talking to me usually reveals that I'm quite a sensible dom.

1/12/2006 1:59:22 PM

I look around me, and I see many submissives who want very much to be owned, but who need better grounding in who they are, and how to well serve a master.

I want to help them be all they can be, help them to find a master who will treat them well.

Do you want to be trained?


12/28/2005 10:18:55 AM
I'm going to be going to Sinsations in Leather in February.  It's a con in the northern Chicago suburbs.  Is anyone else going?  Let me know if you'd like to hook up there.

12/24/2005 7:55:23 AM
Merry Christmas, everyone.

12/19/2005 8:47:57 AM
Before I start in, if you cannot (or will not) write emails in good, readable English which mostly conforms to the rules you were taught in school, then either (a) think twice about contacting me or, (b) if I contact you, then politely respond telling me this.  As much as I'd like to get to know you, it will go much, much faster if I can actually read your writing.  Too many of the submissives I talk to have yet to learn this lesson.


12/2/2005 8:17:17 AM
Ok, ok, I have a neck fetish.

Is that really so bad?

11/21/2005 7:31:45 AM
I got back from Schaumburg yestreday.  The weekend was fun, but, alas, I had no one to play with.

Mayhap that'll change the next time I go out of town.  I'll be getting down to the Chicago area a number of times this winter.

11/10/2005 8:08:35 AM

I sent a female sub on here a thoughtful, polite email, written in the best form I know, letting her know that I'd like to talk to her more, and asking her to give me some clarification on what certain parts of her profile said.  Guess what I got back:

"hi,

pls tell me more"



Ladies, I realize that you're getting loads of emails from guys.  I realize that most of them don't have a lick of sense.  When you get an email from someone who makes a sincere attempt to keep his dialogue clear, interesting and readable, why not respond in kind?  Especially if they ask questions, either answer the questions or explain why you can't answer them.  From girls I've talked to, I know that these emails are pretty rare, and you should treasure and encourage them.  On the other hand, if you treat these rare and precious emails just like any other "submit to me now, bitch" email you get, well, you might just get what you're asking for, if you know what I mean.


11/7/2005 7:42:36 AM
If you live in a rather isolated area, why do you insist on real-time in your profile?  You might, at best, find one person online here who lives locally.  If you're open to relocation, but imply that you only want local people, what will you get?

You'll get a lot of offers from people who try to contact you despite your stated wishes, but the nonlocal people who respect what you write in your profile--the people you should be trying to attract, will leave you alone.  You'll get the dregs of the barrel.

If you want worthwhile people to contact you, put information in your profile that will appeal to them.  Let them know that you don't mind making friends with nonlocals, and talk to your friends often.  You'll be amazed at how much your life will be enriched.

10/25/2005 8:43:19 AM
I finally managed to get an updated picture up.  Yes, this is me as of less than a week ago.

10/12/2005 3:13:28 PM
 I only seek to explore what could lie beyond. Come with me and discover what lies in wait for you.

What is submission? What is dominance? What the Master gains in authority he likewise gains in responsibility. Those who do not understand this merely hasten the degredation of their ultimate being. Indeed, the Slave becomes not merely a possession but an extension of your own body, not to be used carelessly and thrown away, but to be used, nutured and protected.

Wouldst thou cut off your thumb, depriving thineself of dexterity, merely for a moment of pleasure? Wouldst thou leave a wound on thine breast unwashed and unkept, and express outrage when it becomes infected? Thus shalt thou treat thine Slave. Certainly, thou shalt be Master, but a loving Master.

If thine arm be broken, shalt thou not bind, restrict, and discipline it such that further damage is prevented? If thine finger is gangrenous, wouldst thou not cut it off, so that it does not harm thine other parts? If thine liver dost grow a tumor, shall thou not have surgery, in order to excise this malignant presence? Thus shalt though treat thine Slave.
Certainly, thou shalt be Master, but a strict Master

9/27/2005 7:04:10 AM
I am looking.  (I've gotten a couple messages asking if I am or not.)

I'm hoping to get an updated picture up here soon, too.

7/26/2005 1:29:06 PM
I was looking at profiles, and I came across a sub (quite hot looking) who said her master is 'very dominant'.  What, exactly, makes a dom 'very dominant'?  I've never really thought of dominance as having degrees.  I mean, I'm dominant by nature, and I usually don't even think about it unless my sub is extremely uppity.

I suppose it could mean 'very commanding', or somesuch.  I've just never thought about it.  Now I have some things to think about.

6/15/2005 7:09:30 AM
Who do you see yourself as?  Do you abuse sheerly for fun, do you punish for transgressions (imagined or real), or do you teach your submissive the proper way to serve?  Do you exult in pain for the hell of it, do you submit to your pain for past offenses (imagined or real), or do you wish to be taught the proper way to serve? 

Throughout everything, I think of myself as a teacher.  I can be sadistic at times, and, yes, demanding, but all that I do is through love. 

What, you find it incomprehensible that pain can result from love?  You must lead a sheltered life.  At least the pain I give is from the continuation of love, rather than the cessation.

3/22/2005 8:04:23 AM
FYI, I do have a submissive now.? I would?still like to talk to people, though I know that a lot of people here are only looking to hook up.? Feel free to contact me if you wish.

2/14/2005 9:59:10 AM
If you're younger, and in the Milwaukee, WI area, I'm trying to help some people get a social BDSM group (oriented towards people 18-35) started here.  Let me know if you want more information.

1/4/2005 6:46:36 AM
I'm sick of seeing crappy grammar in emails from subs who contact me.  I mean, if you're going to submit to someone, isn't it just common courtesy to write them with good English grammar?  I'm not asking for something which would please your grammar teacher, but use periods, commas, capitals and spelling with decent capability, ok?  Didn't we all at least get a high-school level education?

12/7/2004 9:50:56 AM
I collared you tight
But received no submission
I took care of you
But you gave no helping hand
You were no true sub
Since you lied and disobeyed
Honesty and truth
Confidence between us fell
True, I felt much pain
This pain made me hard and bent
The pain helped me grow
I grew much as a master
But I still have love
This love waits to embrace you
If you yet want it
True submission waits for you
This disfigured soul
Yearns to be matched with a soul
I search for a sub
A true sub who knows her place
A sub to be true
A true helper at my side

11/1/2004 12:20:48 PM
I will be travelling to Madison (WI), Rockford (IL), and Schaumburg (IL) in the near future.  If anyone from those areas would like to meet me, feel free to let me know--I'm always eager to meet people in the lifestyle, both doms, subs, and switches.

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 Submissive, Age:  18
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