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Male Dominant, 38, Chicago, Illinois
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Male Dominant, 40, Chicago, Illinois
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Male Submissive, 35, Naperville, Illinois
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About chiguy
This profile is a work in progress. It will change again and again, just as I do.
I'm looking for all sorts of things in a relationship. I look for someone who is nonplussed by contradictions, someone who is independent and keeps her own counsel. Someone who is wiser than I, and probably smarter than I. Someone who can view herself with detachment and remove. Someone who will worship my cock like it is the center of the universe. Someone who often is uncomfortable with her choices and how she has made them and struggles to be comfortable in her own skin. Someone no longer tempted by sarcasm or self-reprisal. Someone who can be a friend and a companion and a kick toy.
I am flexible: not because I'm a service top, or because I'm vanilla at heart, but because I respond to how far someone is pushed. I'm relatively gentle with someone who is shy and afraid of giving offense; I'm vicious to someone who can take it. For me, play is all about the emotional space and the intensity of that space.
And please: real time only. A couple of emails, maybe a phone conversation are enough to vet the basic stuff. If you panic at the prospect of meeting, please don't start the process in the first place. I read people much better in person, and probably you do too.
I have been in the scene for over ten years. I'm a top by disposition and often a sadist by choice. The labels are for convenience-don't take them too awfully seriously, and remember that the emotional space and the intensity is what is all-important. I create spaces, spaces that I want to live in, often again and again. Tourism is for children: adults claim the land that they want and live it as their own.
My day-to-day workaday world is vanilla, and I'm hyper-responsible and quite close to being a sub in that realm; the world in my head and the shared realm of friends is perverse and kinky and always turns on itself. I have my foibles and my weaknesses; let me become that person who, in my best moments, I already am.
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Added profile and picture last night. And so I'll watch and post and listen; I'm in no hurry. I've watched the frenetic pace of those who post every three hours and check their email every hour; I can't live like that. And there's something to be said for letting a thought or an idea sit for a day or three, like tea steeping in summer sun.
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