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| A woman who is similar to me - professional in public, kinky sub in private. In a perfect world you are petite, college educated, employed and located in downtown Chicago - although I am the first to accept that life is not perfect so don't be too shy to say hello. I am not that concerned with how you relate - Dommes, subs and switches welcomed.
As a Dom, I spend a lot of time thinking about power. That is, I think about how much I enjoy it, though not very much about how to obtain it.Let me tell you a secret: I don't work hard to establish control. But it's not because I'm lazy. It's because the most satisfying control for me arises naturally from my partner's affection. For me, affection and love are the very foundation of the strongest and most satisfying s of power. In an erotic DS relationship, neither is well-ed without the other. I've been to classes, read books, and participated in many discussions that focus on strategies, tactics, and tips for cultivating power. I understand that many doms have benefited from these things, and therefore I don't completely dismiss their merit. But for me, I have never experienced any greater control than when a woman looks at me with affection or love in her eyes and says, "I will do anything for you." And the only way I have ever gotten a woman to behave this way is by being my natural self--100% open and honest, with no strategies and no tricks other than the pursuit of a genuine connection. When I was a younger gentleman and a fake, gaining control was always challenging and frustrating. Now my life has become much easier and happier. As a result, I tend to treat people around me a lot better too, and everyone benefits.
Bonus points if you practice yoga, meditation and/or eat clean.
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