CEOsubbie

You know, this is a truly sad observation, but I must say that to most women, or at least most of the women on CM anyway, Domination doesn't mean the same thing as it does to the men.

For years I've heard women complaining about how a man isn't truly dominant if he feels it must be gained by fear and intimidation, and brute strength, yet it seems the same rule doesn't apply to women. Because it seem women aren't for the most part satisfied with just asserting their dominance, they almost want to punish the man, humiliate him, degrade him, and for some, destroy him.

I venture a guess as to say that many of these women were at one time Submissives themselves, and quite possibly had a bad experience themselves, and as a result, resorted to playing a Dominant role out of self preservation.

Yet they don't seem to have learned from their experience, and vowed to be better, they seem to have held on to the resentment, and as a result, want to punish all men for what they had to go through.

I'm tempted to say that MOST women aren't Dominant at all, and are in fact quite submissive, yet in order to hide that submissive trait, and to assert their so called Dominance, they feel as though they have to go overboard in their cruelty so that no one would ever think to point out that hey, they may really be submissive.

TRUE Dominance doesn't come through fear, nor through force, nor through ridicule and destruction. True dominance is exhibited through subtleties that only a true Dominant understands. Like a teacher who knows her students are wrong, but doesn't belittle them, or make them feel stupid, but rather guides them, molds them, and HELPS them to see the truth for themselves. THAT is the true sign of a Dominant, not the pathetic display I see before me most days on CM where so many women just seem ANGRY.

I've seen Domme's profiles that say I want you to obey PERIOD, and you're not allowed to ask any questions unless I allow it. Really? Why is that? Because you're afraid that if they question your commands, they are really questioning you, and your dominance? A TRUE Dominant wouldn't automatically assume that a simple question meant the submissive was questioning their dominance and their authority. They would in fact welcome questions, not run away from them, because it would allow them to have an insight into the mind of their submissive, and help them understand their concerns, and fears, and be able to better guide them.

After all, aren't the same women the ones who say this lifestyle isn't just about the sex, its about the mental connection? How do you expect to make that connection when all you are doing is beating the crap out of someone, or forcing them to do things that they would consider humiliating and degrading, to what end? To prove you're the boss? To prove your superiority. You know who you are, the same ones who are reading this and fuming right now, thinking how DARE he.

Way too often we underestimate the POWER of a whisper, a simple look of pride, a touch, a kind word that guides and builds your submissive to be better, to WANT to be better, and the end result is that you both flourish. That is TRUE power, not beating, humiliating, causing your submissive to resent you and want to rebel, push your buttons, fight back, lash out, act up for your attention. Because that does nothing but add to the daily struggles you have, does nothing to bring about harmony, and ultimately will lead you to question if this submissive is right for you. But NOT because of their lack of abilities, but YOUR lack of being able to lead, inspire, and nurture.

Think about it. Is it because women aren't true leaders, and therefore are unable to lead?

PS. As flattered as I am that all of you FinDom's seem to be drawn to the successful businessman part of my profile, but as I said, I'm submissive, not a fool.

So with saying that, if you have FinDom, or Financial Domination, or Piggy bank, or reference to any sort of financial domination written in your profile ANYWHERE, I will simply block you.

Theres a sucker born every minute, and a fool to take advantage of him or her, and I'm neither. I didn't get to where I am by being one, so what makes you think I'll be one now?