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Male Dominant, 48, Sacramento Area, California
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About castellan
Intelligent, creative, experienced top with many interests but a passion for caning and spanking. I enjoy other aspects of D/s but I do think that, for me, CP is central.
Rugby coach and referee, book collector, English public school education, published writer, opera lover and much more to discover.
Looking for a lady who either wants to explore or deepen her submissive side or who feels the need for discipline on a regular basis.
How would I describe myself from a sub's point of view? I guess the first thing people say about me is that I am intimidating. Not in a violent way but in the sense that I make people feel nervous the way traditional authority figures do. Partly it is that I am physically quite big; a little over six foot tall and muscular. Partly it's that I have a very penetrating and acute mind and it tends to show. A second aspect is that I am thorough. If I decide you need a good hiding it will be a couple of days before you are sitting comfortably again.
I am in a relationship but it's open and my partner knows what I get up to and has no problem with it. |
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I'm a bit of a paradox or, at least, a complex bundle of seeming opposites.
I can be a strict, perhaps even cruel, dom.? Certainly I have no qualms about giving a girl a caning that she'll have marks from for weeks.? That said, I'll get up in the middle of the night to bottle feed orphan kittens.
I'm a sophisticated intellectual.? I like opera, collect fine books and will happily debate with a medievalist friend the proper English and Latin translations of the German "vogt".? I was also, until a couple of fairly recent career ending injuries, an aggressive and highly physical rugby forward.
I know my way around a wine list, have a decent tailor and generally enjoy the finer things in life.? I'm also quite capable of canoeing through the bush for two weeks with everything I need in a backpack.
I'll happily squire an elegantly dressed lady to a black tie gala but all the time I'll be thinking about getting her gown off her and the cuffs on and how much sexier she would look with a well striped bottom.
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This is intended as a reflection of where I am with BDSM and what I want, maybe, out a site like collarme.com.
I was active in the Toronto scene for several years and in an active, if unclassifiable relationship throughout that time with the woman who was, and is, my best friend and partner.? The relationship could hardly be classified as D/s, maybe DD, and it certainly included a good deal of corporal punishment and occasionally other stuff.? My partner lost interest in that side of things several years ago and anyway, for all sorts of reasons, we had drifted away from the 'scene'.? So, no BDSM for me, at home at least.
The problem for me was compounded by body image issues.? Several rugby injuries had curtailed my physical activity level and left me feeling unattractive.? I had put on weight.? I didn't like that at all.? Despite that, I couldn't entirely cut myself off from BDSM and I goofed around on-line with very occasional forays into r/l (which my partner was quite happy with).
Where am I now?? The weight is pretty much back off.? I'm fit and energetic and feeling good in myself.? I want/need to exercise my dom/top side more.? I need a play partner or a secondary relationship that includes spanking/caning and maybe other things too.? I would not mind exploring my boundaries with the right partner.? I'd certainly want the relationship to be sexual as well as disciplinary.
Issues?? Time I guess.? I'm a busy guy, especially in the rugby season.? I don't want to neglect my primary partner though that relationship is almost celibate these days.??? I don't have any experience with a longer term secondary relationship so I'd be working out the bugs as? I/we went.
Bottom line; am I crazy?? Is there a woman out there who could relate to an experienced, intelligent and introspective dom/top and cope with the limitations what I have described would impose on a 'relationship'.? Might they even be plusses to some?
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