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Male Submissive, 40, New York
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Male Submissive, 38
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Male Switch, 33, sheldon, Iowa
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About casper48861
24 yr old single mom looking for ltr with a sensual dominant So Im looking for a Dom to explore the sensual side of the D/s coin, as well as mental domination. I'm very much into the erotic side of submission and into servicing the Dominant sexually, but am a little more reluctant to give in to the personal servitude. I've not explored very much into the lifestyle but I'm interested in a 24/7 D/s relationship, however consideration for the needs and well being of my children must be taken. Punishment needs to be negotiated, I am NOT into pain or any kind of hitting or degradation,verbal or otherwise. My submission must be earned, I will not handover power before extensive trust is earned. Respect is very important to me, if you cant respect me don't bother messaging me.
1.The submissive's SAFETY will always be of top priority to a wise Dominant, both physically and emotionally.
2.ALWAYS respect and honour a submissive's safe word and never put him or her in a position to be afraid to use it.
3.Just as submission is a gift to be treasured, Domination is a talent to be mastered so BE educated and experienced at dominating BEFORE you take on the responsibility of another's life.
4.Don't be too arrogant to be able to listen and understand your submissive's viewpoints and needs. You might just learn something from them. After all communication is the foundation of a strong D/s relationship and can not be obtained if it is all one sided.
5.Never punish a submissive by withholding your affection, this is emotional blackmail. 6.Provide guidance and support when needed and stay tuned in to your submissive's moods. In return you will gain a submissive that is eager to please and serve you because they feel of value.
7.Provide your submissive with negotiated guidelines to stay within and when the submissive steps out of those guidelines CONSISTLY apply punishment.
8.Understand that just as a submissive's trust must be earned so must a Dominant earn a submissive's trust. This does not undermine your control but strengthens it.
9.Enjoy and use what is offered to you with kindness, harshness, pain and pleasure and have the wisdom to know when to use each one.
10.Never be too full of pride or blinded by your own "power trip" to admit when you have made a mistake and to even say "I'm sorry". Just as no submissive is perfect for their Dominant 24 hours a day; no Dominant is perfect either.
11.Don't be afraid to extend trust. Just as you prove that you are trustworthy only when the submissive trusts you, so you can only develop your submissive's trustworthiness by being willing to extend trust. Failure to do so may poison the relationship, either by setting the submissive up to "cheat" or by suggesting to the sub that he or she may not *be* trustworthy, or by creating distrust for you in a reciprocal action.
12.Nurture your submissive. The more the submissive knows and can do, the more valuable your sub is to his- or herself as a person, and the more valuable his or her submission to you will become to you both. It is more satisfying to have a strong person trust you by yielding control than to have control over a person who is a "doormat
i,____________________, with a free mind and an open heart; do request of __________________, that He/She accept the submission of my will unto His/Her and to take me into His/Her care and guidance, that W/we may grow together in love, trust, and mutual respect. The satisfaction of His/Her wants, desires, and whims are consistent with my desire as a submissive to be found pleasing to Him/Her. To that end, i offer Him/Her use of my time, talents, and abilities. Further, i ask, in sincere humility, that as my Master/Mistress, He/She accept the keeping of my body for the fulfillment and enhancement of O/our sexual, spiritual, emotional, and intellectual needs. To achieve this, He/She may have unfettered use of my body any time, any place, in front of anyone; to keep or give away, as He/She will determine.
i ask that He/She guide me in any sexual, sensual, or scene-related behavior, both together with, and separate from Him/Her, in such a way as to further my growth as a person.
i request of _______________, as my Master/Mistress, that He/She use the power in His/Her role; to mold and shape me; assisting me to grow in strength, character, confidence, and being, and that He/She continue to help me develop my artistic and intellectual abilities.
In return, i agree:
To obey His/Her commands to the best of my ability.
To strive to overcome feelings of guilt or shame, and all inhibitions that interfere with my capability to serve Him/Her and limit my growth as His/Her submissive.
To maintain honest and open communications with Him/Her.
To reveal my thoughts, feelings, and desires without hesitation or embarrassment.
To inform Him/Her of my wants and perceived needs, recognizing that He/She is the sole judge of whether or how these shall be satisfied.
To strive toward maintenance of a positive self-image and development of realistic expectationsand goals.
To work with Him/Her to become a happy and self-fulfilled individual.
To work against negative aspects of my ego and my insecurities that would interfere with advancement of these aims.
my surrender as a submissive is done with the knowledge that nothing asked of me will demean me asa person, and will in no way diminish my own responsibilites toward making use of my potential.
This i,__________________, do entreat, with lucidity and the realization of what this means, both stated and implied, in the conviction that this offer will be understood in the spirit of faith, caring, esteem, and devotion in which it is given.
Should either of U/us find that O/our aspirations are not being well served by this agreement, find this commitment too burdensome, or for any other reason wish to cancel, either may do so by verbal notification to the O/other, in keeping with the consensual nature of the agreement. W/we both understand that cancellation means a cessation of the control stated and implied within this agreement, not a termination of O/our relationship as friends and lovers. Upon cancellation, each of U/us agrees to offer to the O/other T/theirreasons and assess O/our new needs and situation openingly and lovingly.
This agreement shall serve as the basis for an extension of O/our relationship, committed to in thespirit of loving and consensual Dominance and submission with the intention of furthering self-awareness and exploration, promoting health andhappiness, and improving both O/our lives.
i offer my consent to submission to _______________,under the terms stated above on this the _____ day of ____________ in the year _____.
______________________________ signature of submissive
I offer My acceptance of submission by ____________, under the terms stated above on this the _____ day of ____________ in the year _____.
______________________________ Signature of Dominant |
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