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Sub WM, 62, PhD educator has been seeking very attractive dominant lady of color.
Looking for LT r/l r/t 1:1 situation with one very special Woman -- I am not a slut -- who can appreciate what I have to give, and reward and discipline me as appropriate.
Prefer you to be over 35 [over 45 better still, but if I find you sufficiently attractive age is not a barrier], very dark complexion, long hair [extensions, etc ok], thin to voluptuous build, intelligent, humorous, compassionate and understanding but always in control thanks to your inherent goodness and worthiness of being worshipped. In other words, I'm not interested in the commonplace egomaniacs and megalomaniacs. My attraction to women of color is based on beauty, not some racial supremacy thing.
I am strictly straight -- no "forced bi" or anything along those lines. I do have a few other hard limits, which are not unreasonable and are fully consistent with maintaining emotional, mental, physical, and financial health for both my partner and myself.
I have a broad range of interests in the arts, science, literature and history -- so I'm fully capable of intelligent conversation. I also have a keen if somewhat warped sense of humor [which may not show here in this personal, but most likely will in any subsequent correspondence]. I believe that vanilla compatibility is an essential component of the overall relationship that I seek.
D/s IS a 2-way street -- if I get what little I need to keep me happy, your satisfaction will come naturally, readily, and cheerfully. If your own statement includes something along the lines of "It's all about Me," then by all means feel free to continue pleasuring yourself.
Ultimately I'm looking for a real lifestyle relationship, but for the present a professional relationship is also a possibility. In such case, I will initiate contact, so please do not announce your availability. Note: the word "professional" encompasses far more than an exchange of money -- it also implies the highly competent provision of the agreed-upon 'services' in an ethical manner, with full adherence to the limits stated. In any case, please bear in mind that this would be a stopgap measure, not my primary preference...
One [unsolicited] correspondent has described this profile as "self-serving" -- as if any other profile on this site isn't! duh!... We're all here looking for what we want/need, if this one isn't your cup of tea, no problem!
Dare I 'humbly' suggest that you read my journal below for additional insights into the character of this 'character'?
Looking for r/t, not cyber, although there will of necessity be extensive online contact prior to any f2f meeting. Wallet-rapers, man-haters, empire-builders or race-baiters need not bother to make contact.
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I removed my pics several weeks ago and afterward went invisible because I was becoming involved r/t with someone [not from CM]. Well, apparently it hasn't worked out, so the profile is live again. But I'm leaving the pics off -- they can always be individually sent... |
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Do those who put up these dumb "video greetings" actually check them first? Seriously deficient production values, folks -- especially if you're trying to steer people to a pay-for-view site LOL ... |
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LOL, another irresistable quote [emphasis added]:
Remember being the submissive is not about your pleasures. Its about severing your Goddess.
No doubt she's into knife play, apparently as a switch ;-) |
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new year, CM back to the old format.... yesssss |
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I've never before seen the act of adoration referred to as "whoreship" .... lol |
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I originally posted all this here over a year and a half ago, so it was buried deep below....
● N.B. The candle in the pic does NOT indicate an interest in either fire or wax play.
Some of my favorite quotes:
● A foolish consistency is the hobgoblin of little minds
-- Emerson
● The pen is mightier than the sword -- Edward George Bulwer Lytton
● The truth is an offence, but not a sin -- Bob Marley
● Power corrupts, absolute power corrupts absolutely -- Lord Acton
● You ain't all that -- unknown [yeh, I know I'm not, either -- but it's knowing that makes all the difference]
● If it's not fun, why bother? -- ProtagonistLily
● Your actual results may vary -- unknown
● Blessed are they who expect nothing, for they shall not be disappointed -- Edmond Gwenn, "The Trouble With Harry"
● The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results -- Ben Franklin
● When you're over the hill, that's when you pick up speed. -- Quincy Jones
● Sucking chest wounds really do suck -- unknown
● Side effects may include... larger and more frequent bowel movements, a sudden urge to have them, and an inability to control them -- Olestra commercial
● "To play the part of a severe but loving Superior requires an ethical and sensitive heart. Performing as the delicious one who yields up everything requires a great deal of strength. The point of these exercises is to leave you both feeling elated, pleased with each other and yourselves - to give you release, not resentment; affirmation, not despair."
-- Pat Califia Thank you, Pat!!!!
● "One thing that learning about Feminist theory taught me is to be respectful and supportive of the psychotic and emotionally unstable weird kinks that other sick people subscribe to."
-- Sinergy, on the CM message boards
● "You can listen to the voices. Just don't do what they tell you to do..........."
-- Steve
● "It's not every generation that gets to watch a civilization fall. Looks like we're in for a hell of a show." -- farglebargle
● "Man will never be free until the last king is strangled with the entrails of the last priest."
-- Denis Diderot
and you thought Marx was way out there....
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Quotable quotes from yrs truly:
● A thin skin is usually a sign of an overinflated ego.
● Believing your own bullshit is a recipe for disaster.
● I'm not into people who are incapable of laughing at themselves on occasion. I laugh at myself all the time (with good reason).
● I'm no less serious than anyone else about my interest in BDSM -- just a lot less extreme than some about my practice of it....
● There are 6 billion stories on the naked planet.
● The best defense is often simply avoidance...
[something I often practice after reading the profiles here lol]
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Globalization? we've all seen the ads from Nigerians and Ghanaians claiming to be in LA and Miami, but now some Eastern Europeans are claiming to be from Accra and Cotonou -- that's real desperation... |
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been doing a little long overdue housekeeping here... pruning the journal, culling the deadwood from the so-called 'favorites'... it's about as exciting as r/l housework but a lot less rewarding...
btw, blank profile => cybercypher
a lot of folks here [no, not moi] could save tons of typing by simply saying "only the sickest of the sick need apply" |
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What a bleepin' joy -- I try to upload a new photo -- that's all -- and suddenly my laboriously constructed main text, which I hadn't touched, has disappeared. gee, thanks CM!!! Luckily yahoo [but not google] had the old page cached, so restoring it wasn't too hard.... speaking of photos, I reset my default search to include only those with pics, saves a lot of time |
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spending less and less time here.... the "prospects" are just too depressing.... Lots of people will try to sell you the idea that BDSM has nothing to do with sex [hogwash!]... then you read some of the profiles here and realize that for many, it's all about money....
Meanwhile, the poster of the following seems to have trouble finding a partner. Gee, I wonder why ;-)
"Your feelings, needs and wishes are irrelevant to me." |
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OK, the likelihood of finding a suitable partner here seems as slight as it is in vanillaland. But since those probabilities are seemingly independent of each other, they're additive. So I figure that it doubles my overall chances of success [.0001 is perhaps now .0002]. Reason enough to be here. |
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<another pointless post rescinded> |
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hmmm, "Mancheatercity, UK" -- nice to be upfront about it, even if it is a freudian slip.... must be the 'bad twin' of the dupe profiles. |
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Another horror story is promoting frozen glass dildos as the route to nirvana.... Remember what happened on the playground in winter when you touched the metal jungle gym with your tongue or lips? Is sticking a frozen object up into 'mucous membrane central' really a good idea? Maybe a cherry popsicle would be a safer way to start... |
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Hmmm, took a second close look at a pic and realized that what I had thought was a nice head of hair was actually a T-shirt pulled up as a hood... lol, that one just lost major points.... |
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here it is, months later, and she's stilll the finest-looking woman on this whole site....
[as usuall, alll misspelllings are deliberate] |
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assorted ripostes:
from a profile: "it is MY way or the highway!"
A. guess I'll gettin' my kicks on Route 66...
from a journal: "Physical submission? So easy to find. LOL Mental submission? Almost impossible to find."
A. One shouldn't expect to 'find' something that in actuality requires a lot of hard work and mutual give and take...
from a different profile: "If you have needs or expectations... I am NOT looking for you..."
A. Thank goodness... I have plenty of both lol |
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Hmmmm. an entry from "Manhatan" NY... is that a cute pun of Manhattan + man-hatin'? Not interested enough to find out lol.... |
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No pic on profile? "Shy" is not such an encouraging sign in a domme.... of course, even the hottest pic won't make up for a sick-assed presentation....
No TEXT in profile? Duh! Well, maybe it is an improvement over some of the statements I've been seeing lately... |
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Hey, all you would-be "slaves" -- would you settle for being a serf instead? All you have to do is keep sitting on your butt and wait a bit, 'coz that's exactly where Bushco & Associates are taking us...
Needless to say, there's no sex involved, unless they need to breed some more peons or clay pigeons locally instead of importing them... |
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"WIITWD" lol, what a misleading phrase.... more often than not my reaction is "WIITYSAMFD" [and at those times I'm usually shuddering, not laughing] |
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OK, I just pulled a snotty comment moments after putting it up... after all, we don't want to discourage truth in advertising, no matter how revealingly repellent it may be! lol
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anyway, it does seem like I'm getting that 'dark energy' back again -- a good sign... |
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Sigh... Even though I'm a leg man, I've always been drawn foremost to a pretty face, and recently I've seen one that really rings my bells.... the kind where you say to yourself, "I wish I could be alll hers," but you know you're just dreaming.
The 3000 miles [sooo typical for me lol.. if you've read the earlier entries, you know the drill] is its own problem, and probably not the only one.
any misspellings are deliberate |
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I just haven't had the desire lately to make any new snotty entries here. Sorry to disappoint my fan club. A kindler, gentler me? More like an older, feebler one... ;-) |
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Memo to Turner: time to post a face pic! You can hardly whine about people saying "I like your legs" when leg shots are all you have shown.....
[added 12/9/06] ahhh, finally some better pics, not full-face but certainly more revealing... the travel shots are still nice... the body shot is hot... |
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Hmmm, dommes aren't the only ones who get unsolicited form mails. Typical shotgunners -- if they have even read the vic's profile, they certainly haven't absorbed the salient info there... |
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Q: What's 'normal'?
A: Within +/- 2 'standard deviations' from the 'mean'
of course, when your deviations aren't so standard, all bets are off... Life can be -- and normally is -- so mean! |
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hello CM, what's the most important word in e-real estate? BANDWIDTH! get some more! |
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LOL, direct quote, emphasis added:
Only answer if you are totally submissive and feel the need to be owned and collarded by a very dominant woman
so get moving, all you hamhocks! |
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Hmmm, multiple instances of multiple profiles... of course, one of them generally lacks a pic or the game is over. The 'arctic twins' have relocated to 2 different states -- split personality or just fishing a bigger pond? [Update 12/06: they're reunited... in yet another state]. Meanwhile, is smalltown usa 2 a clone or do we have a mother/daughter team at work? Not curious enough in either case to find out... Oh, and let's not forget the 'triplets' from the big apple! lol
Btw, in another unrelated case, 5'9", 345 lbs... I'm guessing the pic isn't all that recent..
sigh, yet another set of 'twins' noted... do these people think that simply not having a pic on their second profile is enough to conceal their dual identities? Especially when one sees the recycled/shared text -- and to think that so many of them complain about cut-and-paste approaches.
Or are they running some kind of sociological survey? Difference in number or type of respondents?
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Oh yeah, another winner:
"you must do as i say and be treated like the shit you are in return.
I am the Dom you are looking for."
I don't think so! |
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Signature quote from a forum poster: "To learn the art of submission a slave must first give up the desires that drew him to submission in the first place."
Or, he can just give up the desires now and save himself a whole lot of grief.... LOL |
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from another profile: "My list of interests is not all inclusive."
Just great, 'cause there's no interest list there at all! LOL |
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I'm not ignoring you, I'm reading the forums... |
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Today's tip: selecting the "Admirers" button keeps the left side of the screen nice and uncluttered ;) -- works for me!! |
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Went to Vegas last weekend to celebrate turning 60 -- now officially a dirty old man LOL
Came back with a few more pesos than I went with.... |
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"Hostel" -- it ain't SSC, or even RACK! LOL
What a depressing flick, should do wonders for the Eastern European tourist trade... |
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The candle in the pic does NOT indicate an interest in either fire or wax play.  |
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I love how easy it is to navigate here -- new windows when I want, no dysfunctional fancy-ass features to mess things up. Good work, CM! |
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Kind approbation received from an intelligent, humane, sane correspondent. Thank you! |
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Another peeve from this would-be pet: The "W/we" mangling of the English language. Yeh, I know what it purports to represent, but it's clumsy, ugly, and utterly unnecessary. But Y/you knew that already, didn't you? |
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Hey, CM, why isn't 'branding' on your interest list? [btw, been there, done that] |
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sigh... So, I try to un-bold the font in the main section so that it's a little less screamy in appearance [the tone, unfortunately for some, will remain the same]. Will it let me? Does the button work? Haw!  Yeh, I know of ways I could get around this little glitch, but it's late and I'm not in the mood right now. ... 10 hrs later -- done! |
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ah, yes... "lives for" Christianity and "loves" CBT -- I'm experiencing severe cognitive dissonance here, folks...
WWJS? [probably "ouch, dammit" for starters] LOL... Even the Romans didn't sink that low, somehow I don't think He would have been quite as forgiving if they had 
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My, my, my... yet another email out of the blue from someone who claims to find my writings amusing [apparently, as with similar prior communiques, this is not meant in a positive way ] . Maybe it's good just to know that occasionally someone is actually checking this out. And online rejection is a whole lot less painful than f2f. But I'm beginning to understand why so many people here have found it necessary to include an "if you don't like it, don't bother telling me about it" statement... not that it will do that much good, I'm sure. I've seen plenty of stuff here that's not my cup of steam -- do I email all of them whining about it? Of course not! I whine right here on my own page.  |
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Kind of amazing how many people say they don't want a doormat... then you read the rest of their statement and it's so evident that that's exactly what they want ;) |
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Some of my favorite quotes:
● A foolish consistency is the hobgoblin of little minds -- Emerson
● The pen is mightier than the sword -- Edward George Bulwer Lytton
● The truth is an offence, but not a sin -- Bob Marley
● Power corrupts, absolute power corrupts absolutely -- Lord Acton
● You ain't all that -- unknown [yeh, I know I'm not, either -- but that makes all the difference]
● If it's not fun, why bother? -- ProtagonistLily
● Your actual results may vary -- unknown
● Blessed are they who expect nothing, for they shall not be disappointed -- Edmond Gwenn, "The Trouble With Harry"
● The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. -- Benjamin Franklin
● When you're over the hill, that's when you pick up speed. -- Quincy Jones
● Sucking chest wounds really do suck -- unknown
● Side effects may include... larger and more frequent bowel movements, a sudden urge to have them, and an inability to control them -- Olestra commercial
● "To play the part of a severe but loving Superior requires an ethical and sensitive heart. Performing as the delicious one who yields up everything requires a great deal of strength. The point of these exercises is to leave you both feeling elated, pleased with each other and yourselves - to give you release, not resentment; affirmation, not despair."
-- Pat Califia Thank you, Pat!!!!
● "One thing that learning about Feminist theory taught me is to be respectful and supportive of the psychotic and emotionally unstable weird kinks that other sick people subscribe to."
-- Sinergy, on the CM message boards
● "You can listen to the voices. Just don't do what they tell you to do........... "
-- Steve
● "It's not every generation that gets to watch a civilization fall. Looks like we're in for a hell of a show."
-- farglebargle
● "Man will never be free until the last king is strangled with the entrails of the last priest."
-- Denis Diderot
and you thought Marx was way out there....
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Quotable quotes from yrs truly:
● A thin skin is usually a sign of an overinflated ego.
● Believing your own bullshit is a recipe for disaster.
● I'm not into people who are incapable of laughing at themselves on occasion. I laugh at myself all the time (with good reason).
● I'm no less serious than anyone else about my interest in BDSM -- just a lot less extreme than some about my practice of it....
● There are 6 billion stories on the naked planet.
● The best defense is often simply avoidance...
[something I often practice after reading the profiles here lol]
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They're right, what's the point in criticizing other users? Life's too short to waste time, especially for us superannuated types, so I just move on and keep laughing when/if/while I can... and cringing the rest of the time. I do appreciate it when people are open and honest about where they're coming from -- it makes it easy to realize that there's no point in initiating contact with 97+% of them, .
BTW, a pic really helps... |
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I had found a beautiful domme on a different website at the beginning of February and made contact. We got to know each other better online and things looked promising, so I travelled 2500 miles to meet her at the end of March. We had six excellent days together. I planned on returning for two weeks this month, and had already booked the plane and hotel. We had discussed my permanent relocation and I had begun to look for jobs there.
However, in late May the relationship began to deteriorate.... maybe I'm not as sub as I had thought, but her pettiness and paranoia, and unwillingness to seriously listen to my concerns sure didn't help. The trip I had so looked forward to now began to seem like a potential nightmare. Over the next several weeks, things continued to get worse, with occasional minor bright spots. By the end of June, my stress level was maxing. After a particularly unpleasant IM session [no pun intended], I cancelled the trip. The relief I felt was immediate. Less than a week later, the relationship was totally over.
I have no regrets for trying to live my dreams. The tuition was expensive, but the lesson was valuable. I'm going to New York tomorrow for vacation, will see some old flames there and see whether there are still any sparks... if not, I'll be back here. Of the 200+ dominant black women on this site, there are only two or three that seem like possible matches to me [I have had some limited contact with each of them, so you know who you are]. Wouldn't you know that the closest one is still 2000 miles away ;-) |
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| Age: 37 |
| Nottingham,
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