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	First the name is an old name from years ago when I helped a friend out of financial trouble. I don't change it because my account will go under review for weeks and I can't use it. I am a professor at a local university. I teach sex education and sexual divergence. I have had several encounters (personal and instructional) in this lifestyle as well as having taught it to many of students in a classroom. Fetishes are still taboo but the industry has been moving them towards the middle to become more acceptable. I have a private practice where I see clients for sexually related issues for 6 years now. I didnt want to go into therapy but with all the changes in the laws over the years it kind of fell into my lap. A lot of times woman feel they are broken. I promise you it is more a lack of knowledge than being broken. Im the lead research professor that is mapping the genitalia and neural pathways to the somatosensory cortex during genitalia stimulation in females leading to an orgasm. We are the first fully funded team to bring science into the bedroom. I cant post a pic because I did on another site and some of my students became aware of my posting. It put me in a very uncomfortable position and because of this I took them down. At any time I will share one with you via a private email. Years ago the lifestyle was built on respect, trust and communication. The issue is the newer people into the lifestyle dont understand about those things. With the release of 50 Shades of Grey newer people to the lifestyle often think a sub has to listen that is not the case. I often get messages asking what makes a good submissive. Here is what I wrote for my classroom. Subs Responsibility 101 A good sub wont play with those who seek to belittle or undermine they will only play with Doms that have shown themselves to be worthwhile partners. They will always safeguard their own health and well being and wont be chided into unsafe situations. They will choose play partners that compliment and challenge their own roles, allowing them to grow beautifully in their own BDSM experience. Its easy to think that its only the Dom that is responsible for the wellbeing of those involved in a scene. Everyone involved has an equal role. A Dom should be someone that you respect and someone that can be in control of a situation no matter how intense it gets, but as the submissive, you also play an important role in ensuring everyones safety and enjoyment. You should make sure that your Dom is aware of your physical and mental state at any time. If you have certain triggers, or physical vulnerabilities, or if you have boundaries that should not be pushed under any circumstances, you should make this clear. A subs job is to please the Dom but a Doms jobs is to please his sub A good submissive takes care of their own mental stability. You should not become a submissive because you are waiting for someone to save you nor because you want to allow a Dom to save themselves through using you. A Doms job is to please his sub and the subs job is to please his Dom. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Each year I update different definitions. Since the Brat role is being chosen more by subs I have updated my definition for the classroom. Opinions are appreciated. Im trying to be all encompassing this definition. Also covering if someone is interested in a Brat as well Brat- is the term for subs who consciously disobey or test their partners to get a reaction out of them. Usually a brat acts out if they want a king or some sort of attention. It can be frustrating for Doms, who only see their sub acting disrespectful. Many Doms struggle with brats because they dont take the time to understand them and their behaviors. Digging deeper Brats need attention. Punishing a brat by king typically doesnt work. You will need to be more creative with your punishments. Orgasm control, making them count their orgasms, tickling (brats typically hate tickling), timeouts and the biggest one is You have disappointed me (brat will beat themselves up for days over that one while trying to be as pleasing as possible). DO NOT forget to take care of your brat when they do behave. Brats need positive reinforcement and like treats, gifts and old fashion kindness. They dont have to be lavish. A simple chocolate bar or pair of underwear will go along way. Brats tend to induce incitement, they are coy (when they are silent watch out), like to play pranks and will find every loophole in the rules they can to test their Dom. The Dom needs patients, a sense of humor, have lots of Tylenol , thick skin and a big imagination. Without it, you are going to struggle to find ways of getting your own back. Brats are generally very intelligent, sometimes very devious and youll have to at least match them in ingenuity for punfunishments. You will also need your imagination to pre-empt their antics. Brats find a comfort level on what is and is not acceptable and test the boundary. It is up to their partner or owner (if they want to be owned), to set those boundaries and stick to them. With an understanding of what a brat does, why and when, you will gain valuable insight into how their mind works. How to keep a brat perfectly happy and healthy. It is a crime to knock all bratty behavior out of them. It is a denial of who they are. If you want a doormat a brat isnt for you. Are you up for the challenge?

4/28/2014 9:35:40 AM

Well it became official today.

I'm searching for a new sub. After 3 years with a wonderful woman we had to part ways today. She received a employment offer that she couldn't turn down and now she is on her way to New Mexico. We both knew this was happening for the last month but today it's official.

So I'm looking for a new sub. One that will have to prove herself worthy.

If your new or just entering into lifestyle that is fine. I'm very easy going and will give you all the time to learn. I'm a very easy going person and not looking right away to get serious.

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