What to say in a profile introduction? Am sure everyone here has sat staring at a screen, pondering this same question at some point.
Appreciate me now and avoid the rush? hmmm, ok, maybe not.
Part of the problem is my steadfast refusal to bare all in public.
I am a submissive male. This does not mean that I lose my right to privacy.
I happen to believe the discretion is a virtue. To those I trust or whom I feel have a right to know (friends / potential partner), I am completely open and honest about who I am, and happy to share my inimate thoughts, if asked.
The rest are entitled to a smile of goodwill, courtesy and the offer of friendship, unless or until they prove themselves unworthy.
That said; in the spirit of glasnost
The man
From a young age, I have tended to put girls/women on a pedestal. The drawback to this was that, the more I liked them; the higher (and more unreachable) they became.
One of the most significant things I have learned over these past few years in this scene is that Dommes are just like the rest of us : human. They have feelings and emotions too. They have bad-hair days; have to stand in queues; pay their taxes; cut their toenails; dodge trolleys in supermarket; get put on hold (telephone); eat vegetables; try to find parking; suffer hangovers just like the rest of us.
Good heavens, they even liked to be hugged!
As ever, this seems blinking obvious with hindsight.
This does, however, bode well for my longheld hope to find mutual happiness with one of these wonderful beings in a loving, long-term relationship.
I envisage this relationship as being a partnership of equals, but with one partner holding all of the power. On the surface it may seem to others to be a vanilla relationship, but she and I will know that one look, word or gesture from her, and I revert back submissive mode and am hers to command.
Yes, of course I scared; only a fool wouldnt be - but its what I seek.
The Lady
Bearing in mind that none of the following is set in concrete:
She would be unattached! If, once a sound relationship was established, her needs required additional participation, I could handle it as long as I felt secure.
She would have a sense of humour. Dry preferably, but anything except slapstick.
She would be intelligent. A subjective attribute. A book-lover perhaps?
She would be emotionally mature. Deals with problems calmly using logic and reason.
Im not looking for a babe. An engaging personality is far more precious (and enduring) than drop-dead gorgeous looks.
Whilst on that theme; dress, too, is of little consequence. If she feels more comfortable in jeans and t-shirt or even a terry-towelling bathrobe and fluffy slippers, so be it. Clothes do not maketh the person.
Cosmetics can undoubtedly enhance, but I personally do not think make up is necessary for inner beauty to show. Besides which; I appreciate the natural look.
BDSM & D/s
Bdsm play is all very well and enjoyable if its with someone you like and trust.
Knowing that someone cares about my wellbeing means more to me than their skills with a flogger or ability to tie knots.
I do not often play, and then only with friends. The D/s aspect means much more to me.
It is only when you develop an emotional link with someone that the D/s dynamic begins to grow and makes the experience spiritually fulfilling. The closer you both become; the deeper the experience. Add love to this and the depth of intensity grows exponentially.
Odds
I am unaware of having any dominant side, but have topped a couple of lady friends and enjoyed doing so because they derived pleasure from it. I was comfortable enough after Id convinced myself that I was merely bottoming-from-the-top.
Whilst I think the checklist is a valuable resource, but it lacks any way of adding notes to clarify ones particular shade of grey and can thus be misleading.
Also sadly lacking is any mention of queening considered by many to be a vanilla activity, I know. Nothing else comes as close to symbolising the D/s rationale for me.
I do, of course, have a complete checklist prepared.
