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As of 10142019 MASTER2spanku is currently taken a walk inside this slut girls chaotic labyrinth ....... I have been exploring the BDSM stuff for quite some time now, 1996 is when I started. I have changed, sooo much and I am sure I will change again, again, and again. I now have a little bit better understanding of myself, and of what I want. I have been getting to know me. I have not quite got everything figured out, but, seriously, does anyone?

I can tell you that I know MASTER2spanku Dominance is about inspiring trust. Its about being willing to accept the trust I place upon his shoulders. Its about being willing to set his wants, needs, and desires aside in order to be the person worthy of that trust.

and .......

I can tell you that this slut girl know her submission is about giving Him trust. Its about NOT knowing why He inspires me so, just knowing he does. Its about trusting him to lead me where we both want to be. NOT blindly, but faithfully. Its about exploring that trust with Him, learning to have faith in it, and allowing it to be a force in my life.

I also can tell you that the most important element is chemistry ....... I want MASTER2spanku to enjoy inflicting pain and pleasure on me, teaching me how to be his slut, and well, whatever he dreams up within my limits, smiles

I can tell you another thing, when MASTER2spanku reinforce consistency is very important to me. Especially, on a daily, consistent basis truly reinforces the power exchange in a deep and profound way. Likewise, him telling me, good girl or equivalent phrase contributes mightily to the dynamic.

Anyway, If I still have your undivided attention, allow me to let yall know that I am NO longer pursing on an intense power exchange inside and outside of the bedroom as I have found an amazing Sir to serve. I am most definitely pursing on this path with MASTER2spanku getting to know him more on here, through text messages, and as well through our meetings.

However, In this chaotic labyrinth , Dominance and submission are powerful words. Words NOT to be chocolate covered like candy to be eating up. Neither happens overnight. Neither are given for a moment, or and hour, or until the scene is over ..... Neither are choices, they just are ........

Otherwise, I would like to take this time to say Thank You for taken your precious time just to read my long thoughtful profile, smiles

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3/30/2018 11:41:00 AM
In my own opinion, there's a lot of people that know how to talk the talk, but when it comes down to walking the walk they do NOT know how, time wasting, and VERY frustrating! I'm NOT a newbie I already know my basic stuff. I want, need, and desire to be taken further from the basic stuff with CONSISTENCY, so I wish some people WILL either know how to deliver it or skip on over me. Now, with ALL that being said, I get to spend a whole weekend by myself in a motel/hotel room starting tonight.Thankfully my friend works there and this weekend is her birthday, so I WILL be celebrating her birthday with her by putting jigsaw puzzles together, smiles =^.^= 

9/13/2015 5:54:36 PM
i'm a smart girl, even though i maybe one hell of a bratty girl, but let me inform You, Sir one thing to consider on. this girl feels like she is someone in a hot climate, sorta speak. she has to drink only water because  nothing else does the job. this girl can try soft drinks, wine, beer or sweet drinks, but when push comes to shove she must have clean water as the others don't cure her thirst. this girl might allay it some, although, when the heat is VERY fierce, water is the only solution, so by being owned means having a FULL TRUE LIFE of being proud of who i am and discovering my real soul with passion as without passion you, Sir know there is no energy in me and if there is no energy then i have nothing. what i am trying to inform you, Sir is that by providing this girl passion is the soul idea of leading her life, take her to a level she never able to achieve on her own, unleash her powers into a different level, and watch her grow everyday with the insight as being her Master, smile =^.^=

2/9/2015 7:15:09 PM
i want to feel your hand smacking my ass and the flogger whipping me. i want to be feeling you nibbling/biting on the side of my neck. i want to feel your fingers one by one filling my pussy up, until i can take your fist. i want to feel you put clamps on my nipples and my pussy. i want to feel you slide a plug up my ass. i want to feel the single tail tap dance lightly on my back. i want to feel each different evil stick in my toy bag get flicked onto my skin as each one leaves a welt. i want to feel the collar wrapped around my neck along with the chain dangling down. i want to feel a knife being dragged all over my body without cutting me. i want ....... you get the picture, real time stuff and none of this online BULLSHIT! 

1/16/2015 8:28:30 AM

the "challenging brat" "IS" kat and she wishes the ones that are interested in her will learn it and understand it, please!


The Challenger:
A submissive that likes to push back (whom I call Challengers) have often many of the same voices and fears that the Pleaser possesses. The difference is how these fear manifest in their behavior. While the Pleaser will often suffer in silence until the last possible moment, for fear of not meeting expectations or causing displeasure, the Challenger will push back in order to invoke conflict.


Conflict is at issue with both, and where the Pleaser will seek to avoid it, the Challenger invokes it in order to fulfill an expectation. These expectations are typically found in two adaptive behaviors to their early attempts to gain approval and acceptance or manage negative consequences:


(a) they have accepted there will be conflict, and so will seek it out to "get it over with" on their timetable or schedule. Conflict to this model is inevitable, and so to take back some control will try to cause it on their terms.


(b) they will test by challenging, used to being promised patience and understanding, and only to have it backfire or be treated badly anyway. This becomes a self fulfilling prophecy, for the more patience you try to show, the more push back and challenge is given - ultimately escalating to a major event that will create a bad situation.


I have found that firmness, resolve, and clarity are the best path to helping address this.


Firmness in that one needs to communicate the recognition of the behavior, and sticking to consequences of bad behavior (be it correction, discipline, punishment, etc).


Resolve in that the dominant cannot afford to waver in their self-control or keeping to the regimen or framework; that's exactly what the Challenger is trying to test, your consistence and predictability.


Clarity is needed in terms of expressing the expectations of service and outcomes - both in terms of rewards or discipline.


The worst thing you can do in the face of the Challenger is show cracks under pressure. Showing your stress, or starting to show inconsistency by pulling back on rules, protocols, etc, sends a signal that you will just meet their worst fears and expectations - you will lash back in anger, or pull back and become emotionally distant.


Of course, neither should that be unexpected. Unless the dominant enjoys the fight and challenge of holding themselves under complete self control, it is natural to wish to find ways to defuse the emotional conflict. A perfectly normal response is to create some emotional distance from the aggravation and instigation, or to believe the Challengers responses are a result of being overly stressed and lay off on the demands. Of course, this backfires completely when the pull back to de-stress is perceived as emotional withdrawal from disappointment and seen as a form of punishment.From my experience, this is a VERY difficult type of personality to manage - but that's my opinion.


The Brat:
The brat is often a personality that is caught between the seeking of approval through pleasing, and testing your limits. As their name suggests, the dynamic is very much like dealing with the child-like struggles for the need for love and acceptance while, and trying to understand boundaries while testing you for consistency, structure, and acceptance (even in the light of conflict). Nothing is perhaps as frustrating and empathy invoking as the child that say's "I know I'm behaving badly, but why don't want to be with me, don't you love me?" That is usually the same as the brats puzzle.


With the Brat, you need to hone a balance of expectations, outcomes, and patience. You have to manage the difference and be highly aware of language that is criticizing a behavior or decision, versus criticizing the Person. If it sounds like being a parent, you aren't too far from the truth. Its not uncommon for brats to seek out "Daddy Doms" to help fill early influencing needs for both acceptance and direction and find an under developed sense of balanced love and understanding. Those dominants that are drawn to models of daddy or teacher are often strong lures to these submissives.


4/20/2014 12:08:03 PM

This girl refuses to cam with anyone when her roommate and his boys are home, so don't waste your time asking her if you don't have the decent to ask why she won't cam for you !!!


5/2/2013 7:28:52 AM

I am really realizing that some DO NOT realize anyone can beat, degrade, and abuse you then call themselves MASTER/DOM or MISTRESS/MA'AM. This doesn't mean they really are some of the things I've seen in real life whether it be the local dungeon in my town or the private parties I personally attended NOT to mention reading profiles, chatroom conversations, on different websites, it really scares the hell out of me. People with NO clue to what being a MASTER/MSTRESS is really all about playing at being one. To those of us living the lifestyle knows it's NOT a game its a way of life. We may call a session playtime, but it is NOT a game. A true MASTER/MISTRESS realizes that their submissive(s)/slave(s) is still a human being with wants and needs of their own and makes sure that they are taken care of in the process. A good happy submissive/slave is a gift and a treasure to their MASTER/MISTRESS and needs to be treated accordingly. I know its hard to tell the real ones from the pretenders. I know there is two main things i have been taught to look for when talking with a potential MASTER/MISTRESS. Below are the two things i been taught and i hope whoever is reading this whether it be submissives/slaves, Masters/Doms, Mistresses/Ma'ams, Sadists, Swithes, etc.

FIRST  tell Him/HER that you WILL set up a check/code call for during your session. (I personally call this a safecall.)

SECOND ask HIM/HER if HE/SHE plays using safe words. If HE/SHE says NO to either one or wants to discourage you from having a safecall DO NOT meet this person HE/SHE could hurt you. If NO one knows about safecalls and safewords wish they would learn them.

Some people need to get to know the person for at least a week or two before agreeing to meet. As you talk with them discuss what they want, need, and expect from you and in turn let them know what yours are. Basically, i am just saying some people need to be careful if for any reason you don't have a good feeling about this person DO NOT meet them, the life you save could be your very OWN.

Overall. I wish all the submissives/slaves good luck finding the good MASTER/MISTRESS or vice versa they deserve.

 

above is just an important message to remind me the importance of safecalls and safewords and hopefully teach some of my journal readers too. i started typing this up after speaking with both doms and submissives as i cringed when they told me they DO NOT use safewords or deal with safecalls.


4/16/2013 1:46:34 PM

I am being contacted by Doms/Masters from nigeria west Africa claiming to be in the usa. I am posting this to alert other single submisives/slaves to watch out !!!!


1/15/2013 7:38:50 PM

im seeing Doms have more than one profile. i am wondering why do they need more than one profile for, seriously?


1/6/2013 5:40:41 AM

below is my own determination on what an explanation about micromange should be. i have heard other Dominants talk about micromange and i have personally talked with way too many dominants that would like to micromange "ME". then i realized some submissives do NOT know what micromanage means by talking to a few of them. personally myself i knew somewhat of an idea what micromange was, but i still asked about the topic to make sure i got a clarification on it. i even asked a few Dominants what they mean by micromange as like everything else in this bdsm lifestyle ALL Dominants have their own unique styles for the way things go. there are some Dominants that has mention to me there is NO reason for the submissives to know what micromange means. i called that statement ....... ahem ....... BULLSHIT! i strongly believe in every submissive should in MY own opinion know what they are getting themselves into before embarking on it. another thing when you tell a Domiant that you are NOT interested in their style of micromangement as you wish NOT to embark on the road of being micromanged. then if the Dominant in return reply back saying "i decide NOT you, bitch, is this clear?" let it be known ALL submissives have every right in a polite way tell them "GOOD RIDDANCE" like i have done personally to some Dominants.

 

lets start off with the most importnt part of micromange is the meaning of it. i will provide you two versions of micromange. the first one will be from a dictionary that i pulled from the internet and the second one will be my own personal version what micromange means.

below is the version of micromanage from the dictionary off the internet and the website is

 

www.thefreedictionary.com

 

mi·cro·man·age

 

tr.v. mi·cro·man·aged, mi·cro·man·ag·ing, mi·cro·man·ag·es

 

To direct or control in a detailed, often meddlesome manner.

 

micromanage

 

vb (tr) to control (a business or project) with excessive attention to minor details

 

below is "MY" own opinion what the version of micromanage should be.

 

when the Domiant demands/orders the submissive to keep a clean house (that is macro~management) and then stands over the submissive during the whole time telling how to do the cleaning (that is micro~management), or if the Dominant request the submissive to cook healthy, well balanced meals (that is macro), and then proceeds to inform the submissive what to cook and how to cook it. that is what you call micro~management, yall.

 

now, you are probably wondering "why do Dominants micromanage", sooo pull up a chair and make yourself comfortable. i am about to explain in six reasons why Dominants micromanage in "MY" own opinion.

 

1.) they have NO clear sense of their role within the relationship. they think this is what they should be doing. going into a 24/7 total power exchange is definitely a major step and one NOT to be taken lightly, sooo when a Dominant goes into this type of relationship clearly NOT knowing what is expected of him, then they automatically assume this is their role.

 

2.) there has been NO previously agreed upon set of terms between the Dominant and submissive. the Dominant believes that micro management is his role. this is NO clear set of rules to define which decision belongs to the Dominant and which decision belongs to the submissive. here for example take my definition on micromanage. the Dominant may want a healthly home cooked meals and demands that of the submissive, that is macro management, but if he then goes to stove and informs the submissive of how and what to cook, then he is now micro managing. with NO set terms and guidelines, or any prediscussion of these issues, then Dominant WILL have a tendency to venture into the submissives area of responsibility, simply because there is NO one there to tell them whch way is right because basically in this bdsm lifestyle there is NO right way or wrong way of living styles.

 

3.) management of day~to~day issues is what the Dominant know from real life. some of the Dominants do NOT "lead" in their every day lives, but some of the Dominants "Do." some of the Dominants are in positions of control and power outside the home. that does NOT end when he returns home at night. and with engaging in a bdsm lifestyle may only intensify that "leading" for some Dominants.

 

4.) they are Dominants; they are here to lead us, the submissives. sooo, they have every right to micromange. which is absolutely true as long as one is aware of the "dangers" in doing sooo. (see below for dangers)

 

5.) remnants of crisis. if the relationship or the submissive has just experienced a crisis then the Dominant jumps in with both feet. trying to correct the situation and make sure the submissive comes out as a survivor. in times of crisis most people will micromanage in order to get past the situation. once the crisis time is over, though, then things should return to normal. the danger here is that the memory of crisis becomes institutionalized. lingering long after the crisis has ended. the Dominant continues to act as if there is a crisis long after the crisis is over, micromanging from some cellular level.

 

6.) fear. at the root of virtually ALL micromanagement is fear in my opinion. fear that if they do NOT do it, NO one else will "or NO one WILL do it as well." fear that the submissive WILL fail WILL have horrible things happen to them. fears about money. when Dominants micromanage, they ARE usually concerned about the health and safety of the submissive. if you can keep in mind that Dominants micromanage because they care and therefore, have fears and concerns, and NOT because they ARE power hungry control freaks, then we ARE better equipped to deal with the issue of micromanaging.

 

ok, now, i got you wondering about "benefits of micromanaging," sooo lets keep on moving on straight into the benefits of micromanaging, shall we?

 

1.) the Dominant is completely and totally in control

 

2.) the Dominant is aware of every move the submissive makes

 

3.) the submissive can and will be come completely dependent upon the Dominant


and moving into the "dangers of micromanaging" too.


1.) it will ultimately limit the growth of the submissive.

 

2.) can stifle a submissives success.

 

3.) it is bad habit thats difficult to break.

 

4.) there is a high rate of failure, anxiety, and depression, caused by the inability of the Dominant to step aside and let their submissive bask in the joy of efficiently and elegantly serving the Dominant and showing him what they created.

 

5.) micromanagement can be tiring; the Dominant can get bogged by the minute day~to~day task of managing and controlling everything the submissive does. this can result in confusion for the submissive and her inabilityy to prioritize.

 

6.) when a Dominant is involvd in every aspect of the submissives actions, her ability to focus on any one area is diminished and signs of pending problems are often missed. and since there is NEVER a break from the submissive and her actions, Dominant, bdsm burnout is a common consequence, which often leads to relationship failure.

 

7.) it is inefficient and in effective to micromanage a submissive. if the Dominant is watching over her every move then what is the Dominant accomplishing.

 

8.) dependency.

 

9.) can stifle the submissives creativity.

 

10.) submissive burnout.

 

11.) low self confidence due to the dependency upon the Dominant to make and control ALL decisions and aspects of the submissives life.

 

12.) rigid structure permitting little or NO flexibility

 

lets just face it, it is very difficult to define macro management, but in general terms it implies on a larger scale. more freedom and liberties are granted where the manager allows the staff to part take in more of the business operations. in the bdsm sense, i personally strongly believe it implies the managing of a submissive on a larger scale. as stated above, ordering the slave to prepare healthly meals would be an example of macro managemet. it is usually more efficient to macro manage numerous submissive activities then it is to try to micro manage ALL of the submissives activities.

 

now, into the "dangers of macro management," yes, you are probably saying dam this is a long explanation at this point, of course, i am making this explanation nice and long i want EVERY submissive and Dominant to understand what micromanage is ALL about, hence that is why above i told you to make yourself comfortable.

 

1.) too much freedom will result in confusion within the submissive.

 

2.) macro management can result in the Dominant NOT having or exerting enough control upon the submissive.

 

3.) feelings of inadequacies within the submissive due to NOT having enough control exerted upon them.

 

"benefits of macro management."

 

1.) the Dominant is able to maintain appropriate level of control over his property.

 

2.) if a crisis arises, the Dominant will be able to focus his control on the crisis at hand and micromanage that specific situation,

 

3.) teaches the submisssive responsibility.

 

4.) allows the submissive to prioritize.

 

5.) allows for a well~rounded development.

 

6.) reduced risk of burnout.

 

7.) provides flexibility for the submissive.

 

8.) enhances productivity of both the Dominant and submissive.

 

9.) greater flexibility for both the Dominant and submissive.

 

10.) increased self~confidence and self~esteem for the submissive as she contributes and makes daily decisions based on what her Dominant has taught her and what she believes he desires.

 

11.) consistent approach to managing the submissive.

 

12.) macro management allows the submissive to maintain some of her independence even if the Dominant gives that independence to her by allowing and trusting in her to make her own decisions on certain aspects of her life.

 

by looking at other Dominants and submissives relationship, as well, in my own past relationships there is a balance between macro and micro management, this balance is dependent upon the two partners and what they desire. we often in this bdsm lifestyle fantasize about doing or being micromanaged. however, in reality, to completely perform this tasks is almost impossible. environmental influences have to be correct in order for a complete micromanagement situation to occur. as a submissive, the Dominant cannot micromanage you if you work. for he then is NOT there to tell you how to catch the bus who to talk too, or how to drive, and what station to listen to on the radio. how to deal with issues at work. these are your responsibility. hence he is NOT micromanaging.

 

the whole important of discussing this topic is for individuals to become aware of what exactly micro and macro management is. and that in fantasy micromanagement is appealing, but in reality there are many issues and consequences to actually achieving 24/7 micromanagement. each relationship is unique and each relationship incorporates some aspect of both micro and macro management. it is a balancing act and problems arise when the scales become unequal or when the transition is too intense or too rapid. a Dominant cannot just walk into a submissives life and begin to micromanage, as with everything else within the bdsm lifestyle, time, trust, honesty, respect, and integrity are paramount in the building of a healthly bdsm relationship.

 

i strongly believe in my opinion if you are a micromager, or have a tendency to micromanage large parts of your submissive actions and life, then you need to change if you want your submissive to thrive. only by letting go WILL you create a submissive that can operate without you, yet still maintain in her heart and her actions what WILL please you. operating without you does NOT mean independence, it means the submissive knows what brings you pleasure and is capable of making those decisions to reflect that. submissives that are capable of operating without the Dominant are also more likely to survive a crisis, to survive the relationship, to maintain their level of self~confident and self~esteem. this is needed to have a healthly relationship.

 

i will enclose this explanation by admitting to yall by doing this explanation i have discovered that i thrive on some micromanagement, but NOT all of it. anyway, the end result is that i hope this explanation has been of some assistance whether you are a Dominant or a submissive.


12/27/2012 5:07:59 PM

below in my own determination on what an explanation about flogging should be. i seen and talked with way too many newbie/novice dominants that do NOT know what they are doing with the object. they dont even know the object comes in different styles, different materials, and how to use it. they dont even read up on it to know some are thuddy and some are stingy, go to classes that is offered in their local community to get hands on training, etc. over all they dont know the bad or good consequence with it. therefore, the point here is to help those newbie/novice dominants to learn about flogging in my own determination.

lets start off with the most important part of a flogger are the falls also called lashes, thongs, strands, etc. these falls are made of different materials, in different styles and with different ends or tips. handle and knob designs are mostly a matter of personal taste as well as the makers signature (especially in the knobs). but the falls make a very real difference in the sensation delivered by the flogger.
when applied to your subject most floggers most fall somewhere between being thuddy or stingy. a thuddy flogger delivers a deep, pounding sensation. used moderately, it can feel something like a massage. stingy floggers deliver a much sharper sensation. some people say they feel two sensations, one when the flogger hits, and another a second or two later. Which flogger you will want to use will depend on the effect you are after, as well as personal preferences. practically every aspect of the falls contributes to how stingy or thuddy a flogger will feel.
width: the wider the falls, the thuddier the sensation; thinner tails mean more sting.

number: fewer falls equals more sting; more tails equals more thud. the typical flogger has about 15 to 25 falls.

points: rounded and square cut tips are the most gentle; pointed tips are stingy and forked points, doubly so.

length & weight: the longer the falls, the heavier they are and the faster the tips will be traveling when they hit their target. heavier generally translates to thuddier, while faster can mean stingy. the exact effect will depend on the other factors controlling sting versus thud. about 16 to 24 inches is an average length for flogger falls.

materials besides the weight, width, length, and point cut, the falls material matters most. there are a wide variety of leather and other materials available, and each provides a different sensation.

chamois: the same thing you use to dry your car, chamois is buttery soft and very light. its rare to find a flogger made out of this stuff, and with good reason: chamois will provide almost no sensation at all! you will get some noise, a very light skin level sensation, and not much else.

plonge: a thin, lightweight, buttery soft cow hide, plonge has a shiny finish and a lush suede side. It is extremely gentle, although it can produce significant sting if used with force. Very few whip makers work in plonge.

deerskin: a light and velvety hide, deerskin is great for caressing the body, and makes an excellent "warm-up" whip. lots of noise, but very little impact.

light cowhide: slightly stiffer and heavier than deerskin, light cowhide is used by some whip makers as an "in between" material. it generally has a light thuddy feel.

Elk: heavier than deerskin, elk is still fairly soft and compressible. it delivers almost pure thud, but gently so: you can put a lot of force behind a blow without risk of hurting someone.

full suede: a bit harder and stiffer than elk. mostly thuddy, but can sting a bit if the tips are flicked quickly. many floggers are some sort of suede, and this is a very versatile and useful material for most players.

top grain cowhide: these leathers are smooth on one side, creating less friction with the air and more sting on impact. whip makers seem to generally steer clear of these, perhaps because of the "mismatched" look of the tails.

0il tanned leather: a soft, oily leather that tends to stretch.......mostly sting with a little thud. moose: a dense and supple leather with a nice surface texture. mostly thuddy, with some sting.

buffalo or bison: a thick, dense, yet soft leather with a very distinctive and defined grain. very thuddy, but can sting if used correctly.

bull hide: heavier and less stretchy than buffalo, bull hide produces a lot of thud and some sting.

latigo: a very dense and tough cowhide, heavily tanned. latigo produces intense sting with very little effort.

leather is not the only material available for whip making. some very interesting floggers have been made from non traditional materials.

rope: unwind or unweave a rope, add a handle, and you have an interesting and versatile flogger. widely frayed ends result in a very gentle toy; knotted ends can be more severe.

horsehair: horsehair floggers deliver the sensation of being scratched. this is one of the few floggers that grow less powerful as you make the fall thicker; more hair slows down the swing and reduces the impact.

rubber: most people will caution you that rubber whips are very severe. but it depends on the type and cut of rubber. the cardinal rule for rubber floggers is, "When in doubt, try it out."

chain: fine metal chain, or the ball chain used to turn on ceiling fans, is sometimes used to make floggers. very intense, these should be used with great caution. since they are made of metal and hold temperature well, they are more popular for dragging over the skin after being stored in a freezer than for actual floggings.

posture/stance: the bottom can be positioned in various positions depending on the part of body to be flogged. back or front to the top as they request, demand or negotiate. this ranges from standing, lying down, bent over, suspension hanging, kneeling, etc. keep in mind that each posture can create a change in the way you can use a flogger on them.

there are many possible postures for the top, and you will have to experiment to find one that is comfortable for you. most important thing is that you strike as accurately as possible. the most common stance for flogging is a modified fencing stance or a martial arts "ready" stance. The legs are separated with the front of the body pointing to one side. the foot nearer to the bottom points toward the bottom, and the rear foot points to the side. the knees should be slightly bent, to facilitate easily crouching lower (to ease lower strikes) and side to side motion (to ease the use of different angles of impact). the ideal stance is a flexible one, as the top may want to move quickly from one position to another as the different strokes require. good floggings often remind one of a dance.

gripping the flogger. hold the flogger in your strong hand. your grip should be firm but your wrist and arm must not be rigid, as a fluid motion assists in accuracy and control. think of it as holding on to a small bird firm but not crushing. experiment with the flogger to see where on the handle to grip. holding the handle near the end will allow for more forceful blows, but may be more difficult to control for beginners. the flogger should feel well balanced, and it should swing with a minimum of effort. good balance is one of the differences between a cheap flogger and a good flogger.

fall of tails to determine the fall of your tails lightly swing your flogger in an underhand fashion straight out in front of you (palm down), and move forward or backwards until you see the tips just brush your target. this is the outside of your swing. you should extend your arm fully at this time to reach your target without leaning at all. now.......lean forward a bit until you can see the lashes fall a little flatter in the middle of your target. this is the inside of your swing. any closer and you risk wrapping the tails around the side of your subjects body, which is very painful.

brushing with the tip can cause a stingier/softer effect depending on the type of flogger used and the force behind the throw. when the lashes fall a little flatter it causes more contact and will produce more of a thuddy feeling.

flogging techniques/tips do not try and do all the work or fight against the flogger. simplify the motion of the stroke as much as possible. use the weight of momentum and the leverage of the arm/flogger combination as much as possible. in other words let the whip do the work. you can also lean forward and backward during the course of a stroke to put your weight into the stroke or to take some of it out.

if the falls of your flogger tend to splay out too much on impact you can slightly twist your hand halfway through the stroke to help bring the tails into line with each other. for a lighter stroke, you can slow the speed of the flogger as it reaches the top of its arc, and let the tails fall gently on the bottom.

generally, the more directly the tips strike the bottom, the thuddier the sensation is. when the tips of the flogger falls brush against the bottom, and do so quickly, the sensation is often stingier.

the tips of the flogger, as they strike, convey the greatest force of the stroke. this, when one is flogging heavily, it is helpful to strike in such a way that the tips land first, this will also help avoid wrapping, which occurs when the middle of the tails strikes a good area, but the tips (which land later) wrap around to strike over the shoulder, around the torso, etc. this is generally considered bad form. also the tips speed up and wrapping can leave very interesting marks with a lighter flogger.

its difficult to judge what strokes and floggers to use on a bottom at a particular time if you dont know the bottom very well or if you are just starting out in flogging. the key is to ensure proper communication beforehand, and proper feedback verbal and non verbal during the flogging (hence you might not want to use a gag when starting out or with someone new). but as with most things BDSM related. GO SLOW.

flogging strokes one basic stroke is the overhand stroke. it consists of striking overhand, with the palm toward the bottom. throw the flogger back over the shoulder of the arm your holding the flogger in (be sure to grip the handle, dont want a flogger flying off behind you somewhere). holding your elbow higher at this point can help increase the arc and speed of the flogger but isnt necessary. now throw the flogger forward in an arcing motion by straightening your arm at the elbow and allowing the weight of the flogger to carry it down. this is a great motion to use to allow the tails to gently splay across the body. but if you increase the speed of your arm it can become a very powerful stroke. another basic stroke is the forehand stroke. its much like using a golf club. it consists of a side armed stoke with the palm toward the bottom. starting with holding your arm out to the side and bring your arm across the front of your body. this naturally leads in to the next basic stroke.

the backhand stroke. this can consist of an overhand backhand stroke or a straight backhand stroke. the overhand backhand stroke consists of striking overhand with the palm towards you. with the flogger over the shoulder of the opposite arm your holding the flogger in. throw the flogger forward in an arcing motion by straightening your arm at the elbow and allowing the weight of the flogger to carry it down. keeping the elbow high will help increase the arc and speed of the flogger but personal preference should prevail.

the straight backhand stroke is very similar but instead of starting with the flogger over the opposite shoulder it merely starts out across the opposite side of the body your holding the flogger in. with the palm towards you straighten your elbow in the direction of your target and allow the tails to come around to the other side.

the underhand forehand and underhand backhand strokes are merely a variation of the forehand and backhand strokes. by starting with the flogger handle pointing down to begin with and bringing it up. these strokes take more skill and strength than those above and can require alot of practice to get them right.

the punching or flicking stroke, which may be overhand or backhand, but includes flipping the wrist to provide more of a sensation of the tails going straight into their target, rather than striking them obliquely. this is commonly perceived as thuddier than other strokes, and is valuable for providing a different sensation, as well as allowing strokes in body areas (especially lower ones) that might otherwise be difficult to strike. it is often easier to learn the punching stroke if you use your non flogging hand as a guide for the flogger tails as they begin their motion.

the figure eight stroke is a combination of strokes on each pass. forehand and backhand, overhand and overhand backhand, etc. you will find it work your muscles more evenly and is a bit easier for longer flogging sessions.......plus it has a certain fluidity and flair to it.

start with a normal forehand stroke. as you come down towards your target, however, dont go straight down; instead, cross in front of yourself. rather than bringing your flogger down along your right side, bring it down to your left (for the right handed person). now swing up on the left and cross back; you will find your palm naturally turns for a backhand shot. swing down and back to the right, then repeat the eight.

this one will probably feel awkward at first. one key is not to travel back as far as you do for a forehand or backhand swing alone. just let the flogger follow a gentle figure eight in front of you. with practice you will find you can hit the same spot with the same intensity on both the forehand and backhand strokes.

as you are practicing the various strokes, keep an eye on the target and whats happening to it. are you seeing marks that extend from the center around the edges, a clear sign of wrapped falls? be careful to watch how your falls land and adjust accordingly.

while not exactly a stroke spinning or pin wheeling a flogger can provide a gentle breeze, a fast caressing touch, or a barrage of stings. the technique is simple: hold the floggers handle firmly, and whirl the tails around in a tight circle using your wrist. At first you might find it easier to get the tails spinning, and then move them into contact with your target.

the line stroke is also a combination of strokes on each pass. forehand to backhand (a side to side motion), and overhand to underhand (a up and down motion). in both, the stroke merely moves in a straight line from one stroke to the other.

the biggest concern here is just be careful and start out slowly.

now who needs a willing target/victim or should i say wheres the start of the line at as i want in, smiles


12/19/2012 7:50:22 PM

please, do me a favor, please, if you are a newbie/novice Dominant do NOT contact me, thank you !!


11/6/2012 12:43:34 PM

below is a poem i typed up about "ME" wanting, wishing, desiring to play with rope. my mind seems to be racing with thoughts of rope as it has been a while that i have been placed in some form of restraintment, along with my body wanting, wishing, desiring to be controlled, smiles

bind kat,
tie kat,
use kat

kat long to feel the grasp of the rope on her wrists,
the strength of the hold,
the heat of the session.

control kat,
sedate kat,
show kat.

take kat and guide kat,
soothe this raging beast that screams to come out,
show kat Your strength.

screaming
crying
raging

do You hear kat?
tears flowing incessantly
heart spinning out of control

insane
wild
crazy

mind racing through it all
body seeking to be controlled
crazy thoughts of running .......

bind kat
tie kat
love kat


10/4/2012 11:10:43 AM

below is a little bit about a chat i had with a Dominat. my purpose of sharing this little bit of chat is that i hope all Dominants/Masters/etc. that are lured to me whether it be by interest or curiosity who is considering on taken the time to actually learn "ME," instead of trying to get in between my legs, my ass, or my mouth. i feel and believe this bdsm lifestyle goes in and out of the bedroom. therefore, in order to win "ME" you have to get into my mind first, then my heart second, and the rest will follow, but you got to have patiences to learn "ME" or you my as well keep on walking because you will only waste your time and mine. the conversation started out with me pleasing Him as He was beginning to think i am learning my place. until, He asked me a question containing my pictures. well, once again i screwed up. i learned by reading articles on the internet about bdsm lifestyle with me redirecting Him instead of me answering His direct question is called topping from the bottom. i never new i topped from the bottom as i never been told or shown what i was doing had a name for it, i was answering the question the way i thought it should be answered. anyway, when i realized i srewed up again i apologized not once, but twice because i was regretting my error as i was trying my hardest to be obedient towards Him. well, after i screwed up and said i was sorry twice He told me He will be heading to bed soon with me to think of Him. i started crying at this point for i felt i was being punished for my screw up as i was enjoying our chat. i did have some questions to ask Him, but soon as i started crying it all went out the window and now i dont know what the questions were to even send to Him in a message or ask another Dominant. anyway, while i was sitting here crying over my screw up He had said good night to me which i didnt see as my eyes were filled with tears. He assumed i left already as He left too. although, i sent Him a couple messages saying night back to Him, saying sorry again to Him, and letting Him know the reason why i didnt answer Him. now, i am curious to know why i even cried to begin with when i havent even met Him in person and i am also curious to know why is my connection with Him sooo strong as it is and He warned me it will get even stronger to the point of me getting addicted to Him. well, to be honest i dont think i can endure it to get stronger, but i am waiting for it to happen in time, smiles.


10/2/2012 9:54:22 AM

below is a little bit about a chat i had with a Dominat. my purpose of sharing this little bit of chat is that i hope all Dominants/Masters/etc. that walks by me learns what it takes to win a submissive/slave to be theirs just by simply getting into their minds, well, at least it worked with me, smiles, instead of sending "would you like all your holes used, tonight," "hey bitch talk to me, NOW," and much more demanding lines i am receiving.

last night, well, i should say early this morning i had an interesting conversation with a Dominant that i thought i would never ever come across again in this world. He made me feel like i was possessed as His property during our conversation. He really got into my mind as He made my mind race. He opened some doors in my mind from past playtimes/sessions up to the Dominants/Masters/etc. that had built a chapter in my life. He was pushing answers out when i was refusing to answer, whether it was me just being a smartass as i am, or whatever my reason was at that particular moment that made me hesitate on not answering Him. the conversation i had with this Dominant made a quick connection with me. the connection was, sooo deep it made me feel complete that i didnt want the conversation to end. therefore, i started to get a bit emotional on my end and a bit fiesty with Him when He wanted to go to bed.


10/1/2012 7:28:39 PM

below is my determination of what is a true Master since i have been asked by a few Dominants/Masters/etc.
A Man who displays sensitivity will be a Master who is sensitive to you

A Man who displays humility will be a Master who will show you respect

A Man who is not afraid to cry will be a Master who understands your tears

A Man who is quiet will be a Master who will hear your quietest whisper

A Man who knows fear will be a Master who will not leave you to face yours alone

A Man who will listen to a child will be a Master who will always work to understand your words

A Man who can stand alone will be a Master who will not crush you under His weight

A Man who controls Himself with ease will be a Master with the ability to control you in the same way

A Man who does not have to prove His point will be a Master with many worthwhile points to share

A Man who makes clear demands will be a Master who treasures what you give

A Man who doesn't run after you will be a Master you will never need to run away from

A Man who is calm will be a Master who can weather your storms

A Man who has walked the path to peace will be a Master able to guide you along that path

A Man who does not shout will be a Master who will never deafen you

A Man who knows Himself will be a Master who will have time to know you

A Man with an open mind will be a Master who never stops learning

A Man who never stops learning will be a Master who never stops growing

A Man who always seeks to be the best He can be for you is the only Man truly worthy of being called Master


10/1/2012 6:59:40 PM

i typed this writing below where i am feeling all different emotions being thrown at me all at once.

somedays kat feel like i am not wanted

somedays kat feel i dont get heard

somedays kat feel i am misunderstood

somedays kat feel i am appreciated

somedays kat feel i am forgotten

somedays kat feel i am placed on the back burner

somedays kat feel happy

somedays kat feel sad

somedays kat feel confused

somedays kat feel incomplete

somedays kat feel complete

somedays kat feel i dont think straight


9/28/2012 3:19:04 PM

below is something i typed up after being asked over and over and over again what i am looking for, soo below is what i am looking for.......

kat is looking for someone with eyes that are sooo very firm at times,
yet always filled with love

kat is looking for someone with a mouth that can speak harshly,
but never demeaning or cruelly

kat is looking for someone with arms that are strong and forceful,
yet warm and secure

kat is looking for someone with hands that can give punishment needed,
but never lack to show the love within

kat is looking for someone with legs that are fast in walk,
yet never leaves her behind

kat is looking for someone with a heart that is extremely large
to hold all the love He shows to her

all these things kat is looking for in someone who will
care, love, and look after her


9/28/2012 1:47:39 PM

i typed this poem below for sometimes it hurts to love some one because i have loved, trusted, and believed in many just when i started feeling comfortable for them to walk away from me. i also begged for them to stay too. i have learned i cant make them stay as i wanted them too, but, let them walk away. yes, it hurts to watch them walk away. anyway, the end result is that i have learned to be careful with who i give my heart too. 

love is like a burning candle, if your not careful it will burn

as kat get too close, and get hurt, she will soon learn

kat can not always trust the one she think her love and trust

being careful with who kat give her heart to, is a must

just when kat feel comfortable, they get up and walk away

kat beg them all she want, to try and make them stay

if they are not really in love with her, the way kat want it to be

there is nothing kat can do, she must set them free

as much as this will now and forever hurt kat

she know it is something that she must do

not being with them will break her heart

and tear her world all apart

there is only one thing that kat can blame

that is the candles burning flame

it made kat think she had a love sooo true

but all it did was end up burning kat

maybe one day kat will learn not to get to close to the candle

just remember sometimes it is too hot to handle

if kat dont want to get hurt that way

it will hurt, but kat must walk away

even though it is like a stab in the back

walk away and never look back


9/27/2012 9:17:03 PM

i just love getting messages sent to me telling me this "you are an ugly fat pig................put some fucking clothes on" with all respect if you do NOT have something nice to say to me then do NOT waste your time sending the message to me because i can careless what you think. this is me if you cant accept me as i am, well, you are NOT for me. however, if you are a submissive and sending me messages like that, well, nice job skippy and very nice support there to pass down to other submissives.......NOT! (i was being sarcastic there in case you havent noticed) over all, if you dont like what you see then keep on moving on, thank you !!


9/27/2012 11:59:58 AM

i typed this poem below to show my way to love someone is through submission and that many dont understand how to make me happy because they are NOT allowing me to submit or they are too blind to see what i need.

 

kat want His possession ~
the safety in His strong hold,
unable to escape.
NOT wanting to escape.
but unable even if she wanted.

kat want to be tied down,
at His mercy,
a vessel for His pleasure ~
NO more, NO less.

soft words can come after,
gentle murmurings,
sweet kisses,
soft warm breath.
later.
Now ~ kat want possession.

hot breath on her neck,
strong hands fisting her hair,
her neck pulled taught,
cuffs biting into her skin,
the crack of the singletail whip,
reddening skin as it lightly tap dances all over her skin and flowing tears.
her body and soul ~
at His mercy.

pain and pleasure inextricable,
to be used, taken, abused,
a slave to His will.
the safety of powerlessness,
the contentedness of being taken,
the pain of being tested,
the pain of pleasing Him.
kat want to hurt for Him ~
show her loyalty through pain,
kat love through endurance of pain ~
for Him.

it cannot only be candlelight,
chocolates and roses,
sweet promises and softness.
there must be more.
there must be pain ~
of submitting to His will,
His desire.
kat pain becomes His pleasure.
His pleasure becomes her own.
kat pain is her pleasure and ~
her testament of love.
her suffering shows her love is true.
the outward manifestation ~
of the suffering inside.
to love is to suffer.

kat take His pain upon herself,
sooo that He NO longer hurts ~
kat exchange His pain for her own.
that is love to kat.


9/26/2012 4:52:50 PM

below is a story i typed up about a dom showing his submissive just how much pleasure can be found in pain. at the sametime, tossing bits of my secret fantasy i hold in my head, but for those that wish to know which parts of this story are my secret fantasy will have to discover it on their own, smile. enjoy the story!

 

kat stands nervously before You, her fingers linked tightly in front of her. You begin to walk a slow circle around her, Your fingertips and eyes possessive as they take in what You consider Yours. "are you nervous, sweetie?" kat only answer a jerky nod. Your gruff laugh sends a shiver along kat spine, You step behind her and lean down. the sharp edges of Your teeth sink into the tender lobe of her ear. "good, just as it should be."

callous hands smooth over the curves of kat body. learning each round hill and nip valley, You shift closer until Your chest is press tight to kat back. she makes a move to step away and Your hand clamp tight on her hips. "NO, you move only when told, nod if you understand." kat nod and You growl in approval. Your head lowers running the tip of Your tongue along kat silky skin from one shoulder to the other. nipping lightly, "sweetie, I will not be happy if I am disappointed and I will punish accordingly."

 

You move slowly around kat, her eyes darting up to Yours and You shake Your head. "NO, keep your eyes down." Your fingertips move along her collarbones, taking in the fragile feel of her skin. then You move Your fingertips lower. Kat gasp. shivering. wanting. Your touch feels forbidden. she shouldnt be enjoying this, the submissive You are trying to make kat, its foreign. oh, but she wants it, tries to hide it, be obedient, the way You wish her to be.

 

kat wonders what Your hand will feel like coming down on the curves of her ass. kat waits for Your gruff commands. can feel Your eyes moving over her bare body. kat cant help the gasp as You roughly tweak a hard nipple. kat back arches slightly. "like that, do you?" you do have promise to please me greatly. You smile. You pull something from Your back pocket, hold it out drape over Your fingers. a pink chain, kat thighs clench as she sees the clamps attached at the ends. You smile is nothing more than a smirk.

 

rough fingertips pluck at an already hard nipple. the cool clamp pinch kat nipple unexpectedly, she gasp and moan at the pleasure/pain, and then both nipples were caught in the tiny vices. a shuddering breath escapes and You pull gently on the chain. kat back arches and You watch the ecstasy on her face and You lower to Your knees in front of her. You reach behind yourself grabbing the hand shape crop easing it between kat slightly parted thighs. tapping it back and forth. "wider, sweetie ....... thats right. very good."

 

You bring the crop forward tapping kat bare mound. her eyes shut and You moved lower, softly tapping, moisture glistened on her lower lips showing her desire. Your cock pulsed behind Your zipper, with Your free hand You reached down easing the zipper down. leaning closer to inhale the scent of kat desire. lifting the crop, holding it between Your fingers, tapping up against kat pussy. satisfaction filling You with each buck of kat hips, Your eyes going back to her face. she has her head tipped back, her breasts heaving and You pull on the chain.

 

a wave of pain washes over her, flushing her skin. the pain You are inflicting just enough to cause pleasure to tighten the muscles of kat body. moans and gasps, the small slap of leather against wet flesh filled the room. kat fingers flexed at her sides. "wider still ....... let me see that secret treasure box ....... that holds the pretty pussy ....... all pink and bare." kat obeys and You get harder, kat submission perfect. a few more taps to reward her and then You flip the crop, the hilt easing between her folds, pushing slightly at her tight entrance. her pussy clenched and a tremor ran along her body.

 

"please ......." she didnt know what she was asking for, but kat needed something ....... more. a moan escaped as You pulled away. "you only do as you are told. speak when you are told. I will NOT warn again. once more and I stop, leaving you aching and wanting. nod if you understand." You smiled again as kat nodded still not looking at You. "good girl." bringing the hilt back to her entrance, fucking her slow and shallow as Your fingers curl around Your cock.

 

squeezing the thick base firmly then slowly stroking upward to the tip, running Your thumb over the moist tip.

 

dropping the crop, You surge to Your feet. "on your knees." Your eyes dark and hungry as Kat sowly lowers herelf to the floor, kneeling. "now, suck, nice and slow, show me how much you love my cock." Your words caused even more wetness to coat kat inner thighs. licking her lips, her tiny hands settle on Your denim covered thighs. her tongue peeks from between her lips, laving the tip. Your taste, salty and bitter, Your smell musky and masculine and the lips part, slipping around the thick flared head.

 

with a soft, slow suction kat takes You to the back of her throat. eyes water with the need to gag, but the fingers of one hand fist in kat hair forcing her forward. You groan loudly, feeling her throat spasm and You nudge Your hips forward. "relax and swallow, do it." kat does as told and You smirk. "good girl. earn your reward, sweetie." with the flexing of Your fingers You pull and push, Your hips moving, fucking kat mouth her long, deep strokes, making her take more each time. her throat convulsing around You with pressure.

 

Your head roll back on Your shoulder focusing only on Your pleasure. kat has to earn hers. Your sac draws up tight, gritting Your teeth and jerking her away roughly. pulling kat to her feet, turning her back to You and leaned down to whisper in her left ear. "bend over." with a gentle pressure You pushed her forward, her ass high up in the air. "farther." she bends sooo far she places her hands on the floor, a squeal passes her lips as Your hand came down on the curves of her ass, one cheek then the other, repeatedly until she feels the skin of her ass heat, the sting of her abused flesh.

 

the pain takes her breath away and still she tries to lift her hips higher. You cease only to run Your rough palm over her reddened ass then lower until You tap her swollen dripping lips. teasing her clit but never lingering long enough to satisfy. "beg for it," each word punctuated with another tap. "you dont get it unless you ask. what do you say to me? want me to leave you like this?" her head moves back and forth, You wouldnt let her get away with it.

 

You tapped one last time and stepped away. her frantic little whimpers pleasing You, but You didnt move, You wait until You get what You want. "please ....... dont ....... dont leave me like this ....... i will do anything ....... just please ......." You step forward. "please what? what do you want me to do? say it." her head shakes, fighting her needs, but she has to give in, shes passed the point of stopping. kat needs it too much. "fuck me ....... please. i cant ......." kat shudders and stops speaking as Your hand turns, Your thumb pushes into her tight quivering pussy then moves up to the rosette of her ass.

 

"no ......." You push, stroke around the pretty pink hole. Your thumb pops passed the tight ring, fucking and stretching her. "still want me to stop. tell me." You remove Your thumb only to push two fingers deep, her hips lift and she push back onto Your fingers. "answer me." the roll of her hips enough answer, but You want her to say it, want to hear the desperation in kat words. "no ....... dont stop." You scissor Your fingers, then dip into her pussy once more.

 

Your free hand brings the wetness up lubing her and You jerk Your fingers free. stepping closer, taking Your cock in hand You nudge kat with the large flare tip, taking her slowly inch by agonizing inch. kat begs incoherently, her head thrashing and then You seat all the way in. kat muscles clench around You, causing You to groan. You pull back until only the tip remains and thrust forward, grabbing her hips to steady her. each thrust brings Your sac against her aching clit. virgin tissue being stretched.

 

You ride kat hard and fast, You can feel the warm skin of her spanked ass each time You pull out. "touch yourself while I fuck you. do it." feeling her body shift and a gasp sounded, You retreated and thrust. You could feel kat fingers working furiously over her engorged clit. kat ass tightened like a vise around Your cock almost pushing You out. a scream filled the room, You waited for her to relax then You slammed into her harder and faster until Your sac tightened and You spilled Your seed into her. You curled Your body around kat shaking one, slipping Your arms beneath her and lifting her back against Your chest. "you were very good and obedient, sweetie. you definitely earned your reward." You kissed the curve of kat shoulder and smiled.


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 Age: 26
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