I think that ultimately I would like to be a 24/7 slave. Stay at home, clean, cook, be a good slut and take care of any of my Doms needs. I'm a good hostess and a very good cook. I know I'm destined for taking care of another, it's really the only thing that I am good at outside of sex. As long as I know I am useful and needed, I will be happy. All of my life I have always felt like an outsider, like I didn't belong, lost...

One thing I learned when I went to visit Jay was that I am very good at being a slave. The whole week I was with him I served. I cleaned, cooked, did the laundry and pleased him and actually felt right. Something Wulf once told me comes back to my mind...

"You are a slave, a wanton beast. No rights are given you unless I give them, and said rights can be taken away. The life you led in the past is gone, as you have grown past it. Being a low beast does not make you a lesser being. Indeed, it means that you have become more than probably anyone you know, because you have embraced yourself and relish in the freedom I allow you, and the freedom you allow yourself."

That has always stuck with me as being important to keep in mind when I serve, to embrace who I am and am allowed to be and when I embrace my inner whore she celebrates, my inhibitions fall away and I feel like my soul is bared. With the right person, they manage to soothe the lonely terrified child I am and tell her that she is safe, will be ok, and that they accept her fully. I have built up walls to keep people out because I always get hurt and I didn't want to hurt anymore. The pain I get physically helps to dull the pain I am always carrying with me.

Call me old fashioned, but I believe in male superiority. Basically this means real men are in control. I suppose that’s why sissy boys always bother me. Of course this doesn’t necessarily mean that male submissives are inadequate I just don’t like them. I think Dominants need submissives because we’re their better halves, and they are our better halves. We crave each other’s companionship. I know as a sub I need the strength and guidance a Dominant can provide. I’m sure we help the Dominants as well. I know as a submissive, we have to help them become better people, just as they do for us. Everything is power exchanging give, get, give, get. That’s the way it should be in any healthy relationship whether it’s a D/s relationship or a vanilla one.

Submission isn’t all about sex. Most of a D/s relationship is about building trust. I find that since we don’t keep secrets like in vanilla relationships it is a deeper, more passionate and more loving relationship. The Dom has to trust the sub because she sees a part of him he has to keep leashed in the public view. A Dominant is very animalistic and to “normal” people, probably considered dangerous, controlling, and manipulative. To a submissive a Dominant is loving and protective, a rock in her otherwise chaotic, swirling, vortex of a life. He is her safety net. Just like he can be his true self she can be her true self, as slutty and sexy as she wants because the scene is a no judgment zone on both sides. Of course submission isn’t always sexual, it can be seen in the little things the sub does for her Dom, getting his favorite food, drink, underwear just because she knows it’s his favorite. Let’s say he worked a long day comes home bone tired, sit him down on the couch and get your massage oils out and give him a long leg/foot massage. It’s about doing the small things he can easily do for himself, shaving, undressing, dressing, getting him whatever he needs. Let’s say for example, he’s really busy with homework, make him a snack and or lunch/dinner. Offer to make flashcards to help him study, proofread his paper…the list goes on. Being submissive is about being helpful, but not so helpful you become a hindrance to him.
There’s this one quote I love “If a Dominant wants you in his life he will put you there. You shouldn’t have to fight for his attention.” This feeds into my theory that subs shouldn’t hunt out Doms, it should be the other way around. I think when a sub approaches a Dominant trying to get their attention, they are desperate. And there’s no way to know if the Dom will even be your type, not that the ones who contact you will always be your type but then you can gracefully tell them that. Most Doms if you start the conversation won’t even respond to you. I prefer letting them come to me, that way I know there’s something interesting about me that pulled them in in the first place. I’m fairly lucky, I tend to be pulled towards Dominant type guys, and it seems that true Doms are pulled to me as well.

Everybody needs somebody who can handle their dark side. Honestly I think that’s what D/s relationships essentially boil down to. Both parties typically have doubts, society tells them that bdsm is wrong, or dangerous, that woman should be treasured, that bdsm is nothing but an excuse for abuse (which in the wrong hands it’s exactly that). Bdsm, when done correctly is so much more, so much deeper and more wonderful than imagined. As a submissive it gives justice to my desires, allows me to say yes it’s ok to tie me up and choke me while you fuck me. It’s ok to crave serving someone stronger than you. It’s ok to lean on someone else, you don’t need to be a single ship alone in the dark any longer. It’s validation for yourself as a person, that even though you submit, you can still be strong to everybody else. Some people would fight and try to deny who and what they are and that as the saddest part of our world. Anything considered different is smashed and broken into a billion tiny shards, but a clever person can turn those billion little shards into something new and more beautiful than the original. Bdsm is about constantly improving yourself. It’s about becoming the best you that you can possibly be, thru the guidance of a caring and loving Dominant. The problem is a lot of subs are scared because there’s a lot of fake doms that take advantage of a subs nature. If as a sub you never run across a true Dominant you might feel that these abusive controlling ass hats are all there are to this and it will put you off of the lifestyle sometimes for good, but you’ll always be left craving something more and never being able to find it would be sad indeed. Being in sub-space is…well…very hard to explain in mere words….the word euphoric comes to mind as does peace and comfort. In subspace, the outside world ceases to exist, all that matters is your Dom and how you can best serve him. Serving is the key to submission, you can’t be self-absorbed because then you think more about your own pleasure than your Doms pleasure and that is unacceptable. Submission is about pleasing your Dom and if his pleasure is to please you then so be it, but if he just wants a blowjob and to leave you empty and aching that’s completely within his rights.

“Take me as I am and I will submit to your Dominance. For you are my Master, therefore I will be your slave. We shall have no secrets, thus making the bond unbreakable. Till the day I cease to please you so. For you are my Master and I am your humble servant for all time…” -Anonymous