BlackOwlNight

I am certain I'm not the only person here that has experienced rude emails, but sometimes they just make me wonder. I received one today from a man that was angry because I didn't respond to his previous email.

Ok, well let's see...1. He acted as if he'd known me here before, but I don't remember him. 2. He's significantly older than my profile states I am seeking. 3. He's in Ohio, which is also way outside the region where I live. 4. Like most women on this site, I receive a lot of emails, and answering all of them just isn't feasible unless that's all I do as an activity. Then too, sometimes I read emails, but real life requires I answer the next day or I just have something I want to word a certain way that requires I step back, consider the wording, then answer.

So I went out the other night with my friends, as one of them is having a birthday, today. Very surreal experience. One of my other friends drags this guy over from out of nowhere, and tells him how cute I think he is. Cute. That was the word she used. Anyway, the guy was intelligent, good-looking, etc and did ask if I would even talk to him again after that night. I got his number, we texted a few times, and I think that was that. My being a parent, and a person with an actual life (a missing kitten), seemed to have run him off too.

It echoes what happens here, where I write people back (or initiate), and that's that, after five or fewer exchanges. People spend a lot of time talking about how they can't find someone, but very little time getting to know someone once they do meet them. Hello, we're human beings. Not everything we do is going to be amazing, we do have faults, and we have actual lives. So do you.

Random rant of the day. I'm done now. :puts her soapbox back under the kitchen sink:

I was reading a post on the message boards about what a normal email communication is like with a domme. It's actually something I have wondered as well, because I do spend so much time communicating online, and most of it isn't kink related.

I know my own style tends to be laid back, sometimes slightly flirtatious, but I am not a big flirt offline. I'll be going out later tonight with vanilla friends, and suspect it will be like it often is in groups like these, where I spend half the night wondering if there is a possibility of finding a kink match either offline or on. Historically, I hate going on dates. At play parties, I tend to be a bit of a voyeur, and that was actually one of my nicknames in the kink group I did hang out with in California. Am I sorry for it? Not really. I like to people watch, but I am also aware it could mean I never find that match I am seeking, because on the surface I am not construed as fun.

Side note...who let Taylor Swift and Justin Bieber have their own fragrances? Oi.