Here's why I don't like responding to those I'm not interested in:

A 50 year old man sends me a message which is very nice and seemingly well thought out. It goes into my bulk mail (since I have it set for anyone 40+ to be sent there) and after reading it I felt like even though he was out of my age range, he seemed to be sincere in his message. I responded with the following.

Thank you for the message. You're out of my age range but I always welcome new friends. :)

BB

And now I have this lovely response in my bulk folder from him: "No thanks.  I don't need some uneducated fatty for a 'friend'..."

Now, usually I just ignore these idiots. But in this situation, my profile quite clearly states that I am a BBW/curvy girl. So if he doesn't want a "fatty" for a friend then I can only assume that his first sincere message to me was not so sincere after all but a copy/paste that he chooses to send to many women, hoping for a bite.

When I message someone, if he's not interested in me, I get the message when he doesn't respond. There's no need for me to read a message saying he's not interested. Which is why I usually don't send those messages out. I have read on a lot of profiles though that it seems men would prefer a "no, thanks" versus no response at all. So for those who do put that extra effort into the message or for those who seem nice and/or sincere, I sometimes do respond (out of respect) to let them know I received and appreciated the message but am not interested.

To this gentleman I say: Thanks for making my night! Now please go fuck yourself. But before you do that, you old cock-sucking piece of shit prick, hear this: next time you message a 23 year old woman make sure she's your type. Now go call the AARP. Geriatric fuck.

^ See what a fucking bitch I can be?

I leave you with two pieces of information.

Guys: If you don't receive a response from me because I'm not interested, this asshole is the reason.

Girls: Be wary of any messages you receive from FinallyForever because if he's not sending you a copy/paste message, he's just a dick.

-BB

So. Where are all the good men?

I've been single for a while now and I feel like I'm ready to find someone with similar interests for a long term relationship. I don't want just sex and I try to make that very clear to anyone who chooses to message me. Likewise, when I post a classified ad in a "Seeking LTR..." group I expect the messages I receive to be tasteful and appropriate.

Unfortunately I seem to be getting a lot of inappropriate first messages and a lot of men who seem sincere in what they are looking for and then turn out to just be really good liars. Here's my question to those men: why?? Why waste your time? There are women out there that are looking for just play partners and one night stands. Why would you waste so much time and energy playing someone who isn't looking for that? Is it fun for you?

Men: Are you looking for a woman who is fun out of bed too? Are you looking to find someone you hope to be able to settle down with in the future? Are you looking for a long term relationship with someone who has kinks/loves sex? I feel like why go from one meaningless encounter to another when you can have one great woman to have sexy fun with for the long term? If you feel similarly, please message me! Say hi! I don't bite unless you like it.

But if you're looking for a one night stand...if you're looking for cyber sex...if you're just bored/lonely but not looking for a potential partner...if you're looking for play partners or friends with benefits...move on. I'm past that point in life. There are plenty of other kinky women who are looking for that so go find one of them!

Good men come out of hiding and sweep me off my feet for fuck's sake. :)

Hey everyone... I am back on CM. For now. I don't really know how long I'll stay but I'm really hoping to find Mr. Right. I've been single for a while now (TOO long!!!) and it's really time to get out there again.

I was going to create a new profile but I love my user name so here I am. You may see some changes as I re-vamp my profile pictures, interests, summary, etc. It has actually been a couple of years since my last visit to Collar Me so it's past time.

It took me a little while to figure out what I want exactly but I finally did! Woo-hooo!

I want a Dom to share my life with, I want a relationship, I want dates, I want fun in and out of bed. I love vanilla activities like going to a movie and dinner but at the same time I need and crave submission.

Are you the right one for me? Well what are you waiting for, message me already!