bitterlystung

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year to all!

I am open to thinking about and discussing being in a relationship again with  poly being possible.  Have had a bad experience before but I know if it is built correctly it can work.

The friendlier folks are coming back out - nice to see and thank you for your kindness.

Damn there are a lot of haters out there.  You should see my inbox.  Someone get me a firefighter to fight the flames. 

Interesting email exchange today. Him: That is true,however, the only time that is truly yours is the time that someone spend with you the other time doesn't belong to you, exclusivity is not reasonable in this day in age

Me: I disagree. If you find someone and want to build a long lasting committed relationship it should be expected and lived as though those 2 are the only ones in the world for if they matter to each other then they are.

His attitude is what turns me off when I have been dating vanilla. It seems that no one values the commitment to one person anymore. Of course that would not be expected when you are testing the waters and meeting new people and dating others. As long as each of you know you are still in the dating others phase it is fine. Once the two agree they want to pursue a relationship with each other then seeing other people should cease. I find it even worse in the D/s, BDSM world. My experience has been that the dominent men I have been interested in or who were intested in me seemed to think it is fine to sleep with others once they expressed an interest in developing our relationship. It seems to be the beating his chest and shouting out he is the man and can do what he wants. Wrong.

I am not painting all men, vanilla and non with this brush. It seems though that this brush is pretty broad. I am 45 years old. Been dating since my teens. Have had some good relationships. I am bitter now though. I thought maybe it was just me but it is not. Many of my girlfriends have experienced a lot of the same and I get a lot of messages from women here who have had this happen to them to. As in the vanilla world there are many users here. They just use the excuse that because they are The Dominant they are entitled. Fuck that shit.

If you use the term or any variation thereof or BELIEVE:  Because I am a Dom I can see or date or use whomever I choose whenever I choose (and you, the sub/slave don't have a say in the matter)  then you are a CHEATER and are just using the lifestyle as an excuse.  Goes for you married guys (and gals) too.  STOP hurting the good people out there who are too trusting or in love with you and always want to believe you have scruples when you obviously don't.

I don't owe anyone anything.  Certainly not an apology.  Perhaps it is your guilt that is getting the better of you.

Cheaters be damned, each and every one of you, male and female.  Don't you know that yes, somebody gets hurt, no matter how you try and justify it?