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Meh. That's really all I have to say right now. Meh.

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12/21/2010 9:14:10 AM
Just had the most wonderful time ever with my Daddy Sunday night.  It was definitely worth waiting for.  i cannot possibly imagine anything more wonderful than soon having the opportunity to please and serve Him on a daily basis....except perhaps being allowed to be so close to Him regularly.  i do so love my Daddy!!!

8/16/2010 6:56:40 PM
Wow, i sound super duper bitchy sometimes.  i swear i'm not...well, not to most people, most of the time.  i just get irritated and agitated and tired of seeing the same old garbage again and again.

Oh well, people are people and they'll continue to be stupid and annoy me for years to come i am sure.

The important thing is, i love my Daddy, and He is on a mini-vacation and i miss Him and that's not nice.  i should be happy and delighted that He is having tons of fun.  And i am.  i really am.  i am glad He is relaxing and spending some time with people He cares about doing enjoyable things.

i just hate being bored.

Entertain me!  SOMEONE ENTERTAIN ME!  NOW!!

This is why i need a pet.

5/12/2010 12:35:06 PM
And also, while I'm at it...let me point something out to subs/slaves/Switches/Doms/Masters/Mistresses and everyone else bouncing around here.  This is an observation, based on a conversation I had earlier....

I see all kinds of profiles from bottoms (we'll use this term to include anyone who at anytime submits to anyone else) saying that they want only to please the Top (this term will be for anyone who at anytime dominates anyone else).  They only want the Top to be happy..."I want to be used", "Your wish is my command", "I have no limits", "Use me however You desire"....and then I see all kinds of profiles from Tops that say "I don't want a doormat", "I want my bottom to have a personality and a mind and her own opinions"....but how much of that is really true?

Most of the Tops out there want a girl who doesn't argue, doesn't complain, and submits as completely as she is able in nearly all aspects of life.  And yet most bottoms do not want someone to tell them they can never have chocolate again, or to dance around their family Christmas party naked.  You "Tops" out there say you don't want a doormat, and the bottoms say they're NOT doormats, but that they will do anything to please their One.

It just doesn't work, G/guys.  Okay, I won't say that....99% of the time it doesn't work.  Most people are complex beings with thoughts, feelings, desires, wishes, and dreams.  They want to be appreciated and loved and cared for...and more than that, they want to KNOW they're appreciated, loved, and cared for.  It's just as important for a bottom to know that the Top needs her/him, as it is for the Top to know that He/She completes the bottom's world.

Why would anyone want to be in a relationship where they feel as if they are easily replaced?  Where any girl willing to bend over could take their place if her breasts are larger, ass is rounder, hair is longer, face is prettier?  Why would any woman open themselves up to that?  And the answer is, out of desperation.

There are TOO MANY Tops out there who make bottoms feel as if the only way to be in a relationship and have their needs fulfilled is to be willing to accept any situation and any circumstances.  Otherwise, they'll end up alone and sad.  This SHOULD NOT be the way it is.  BDSM should be about love, commitment, devotion, and the fulfillment of needs...on BOTH sides.  It is not fair for the Top to get all of their needs and desires met, while the bottom sits quietly, scared of being shut out, sent away, or replaced if she messes up.  People make mistakes, no matter who they are....and losing the person who is suppose to be there for you no matter what happens, for the rest of your life...in response to any mistake is UNACCEPTABLE.

You don't like me, fine, don't message me, ignore me, pretend I don't exist...but I am SICK AND TIRED of seeing profiles and posts from hurt, scared, completely destroyed women of every age and background because of what some complete ass has done under the guise of being a Top.

Ladies, protect yourself...stand up for what you deserve and what you desire.  Do not think of putting the above stated things in your profile just to find a "Top"...because the ones worth having will want YOU, love YOU, treasure YOU, protect YOU, and they will let you know it somehow, every single day.  And the ones who don't will just end up breaking your heart, one way or another, in the end.


5/12/2010 12:24:44 PM
Why is it so difficult for people to understand that calling someone you just met a "slut" (whore, bitch, cunt, fuck toy, pet, etc) is extremely offensive?

You don't know me.  You have no idea if I'm a slut or any of the other aforementioned terms.  I understand that most often it is not meant in an offensive way, but it's like meeting someone at the grocery store or a bar and calling them my love as you point out that the oranges look nice today.

Stop it.  Just quit trying so hard to fulfill your perception of what a Dom is suppose to be, and if you really feel like you are not capable of speaking to me like you would speak to a normal human being for the first few conversations, then please don't even bother.  I would not marry someone I had only known for 2 hours and I'll not submit to someone I've known for a few hours either.  It's a commitment for me, can you comprehend that?  It's a deeper part of myself than just sex, and I don't intend to entrust it to any random Tom, Dick, or Harry that comes along.

I want to know YOU, not what others have told you you should be.  Not what you saw in the movie "The Secretary".  Not what you think a Dom is suppose to act like.  If you're truly Dominant, then it's a part of your normal personality, not a jacket you pull on when you feel the need for others to perceive you a certain way.

I don't answer messages that open with these terms, and often, if they are brought into play within a few conversations as an address towards myself, I have a habit of deleting people and tapping that handy little Ignore button....just so you know.

5/10/2010 9:18:22 AM
It seems like there is no one I've met yet who is capable of accepting me for me and growing with me, developing a relationship, growing old together.  Is it really too much to ask to be treated like a princess most of the time, while submitting happily to perverse sexual desires?  I LOVE so many of the sexual aspects of BDSM, but I don't want to be humiliated.  I don't want to be controlled every single moment of every single day.  I want someone who accepts that I am who I am and loves me for me and doesn't want to change me.  Is that really so difficult?  And why when people are just not right for me, do they feel the need to get offensive and defensive?  What's the point in that?  There is no future for us, so why get upset when I choose to walk away before we're both hurt and angry and disappointed?  Do You WANT to waste your time?  I'm probably not going to change too very much, so why try?  I am a capable, intelligent, self motivated, young woman who has values and morals and is dedicated to her children and her life.  Stop being angry that I am not a doormat who you can take advantage of.

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avanttout1
 
 Age: 27
 Cardiff-ish, United Kingdom