BeMused

Male Dominant, 65, Overland Park, Kansas

Male Dominant, 63

Female Switch, 37, Eugene, Oregon

Sometimes I read a chosen title and just hope its owner has a sense of humor about their self, the lifestyle, and life in general. I hope it reflects a release from day to day and perhaps a bit of centering into an alter ego. I have no doubts that often its just the need for a cyber nick to make contacts and chat more convenient-I've been asked to make mine more gender specific but have no inclination to. hubris is a dangerous attribute while humor seldom fails

one of the aspects of slave creation I find fascinating is that of resocialization, probably borrowed from animal training or prison but I refer to the guidance, strategy, support of a slave continuing to live her life with slave identity. I enjoy the centering, fearlessness, and pride a "new" slave feels interacting in job and communities and always seek to enhance the skills and strengths she had brought into the relationship.  I would recommend some study into the interaction of slaves in the ROME series with their owners and others for illustration that the more successful, the more skilled the slave, the greater his or her worth. I cannot imagine having a slave executive without helping her be assertive, fearless in leading, ambition in career which just heightens the release and My enjoyment of high protocul time at home. Well it gets too long, perhaps I will return to it, but the socialization of the slave to the complete spectrum of her new slave identity and what is often increased activity in her communities is one of the under appreciated benefits and joys of the lifestyle. By the way, can anyone name the Owner of the slave named Aesop?

it is pointless to pretend we can live by only exhaling.. if we think we have proceded regally through a day without so much as allowing a smile to break our resolve we will find we have avoided the joke by becoming one

"only where love and need are one, And the work is play for mortal stakes" Robert Frost

I continue to be bemused by the contrast in Ds- the relative ease of having "scene acquaintances" which I have stopped, not because they did not have their delights but because I felt increasingly guilty that I had settled for a distraction from life instead of living. ( sin is that which makes you feel bad in reflection-Oscar Wilde); and the long and often fruitless pursuit of the woman who will enchant me mentally, creativitally, emotionally and be that wonderful combination of compliance and just enough defiance that she tests my ability to bring to rein. And of course I am also bemused that I may fall in love and she at best into mild attraction. the temporal constraints of mortality keep the passage through the labyrinth from being easy

maybe its a sign of aging but my best recent dream was of Kurosawa"s Watermill Village from his Dreams; the flow of water, the tempo of life as slow but steady of the turning of the wheels and each with its garden, chickens. A wonderful place for a community of artists, wood shop, greenhouses, pottery near the clay. I am sure some naked slaves will pad into my village within the next few nights

If your eyes raise Me then words from your lips need not praise or engrandize me

as an artist let me write of painting. we all have as our own some variation of a canon, a selection of colors and brushes we find expresses our vision, a school in which we somewhat fit and critics and those who know the words can measure, describe anmd attempt to pin us to a board in a place fitting their vision of Art but mostly we just paint and each painting grows in its own way, tests us, leads us to adapt, to grow stronger. Each slave is like a painting because for all the philosophy, words, experience I have yet to experience her and the slave emerges from within her, not me, and each is a new lesson, a new growth. When it comes down to it, I just paint

one of the more interesting parts of Ds is the amount of time spent trying to make sense of its primal urge to Dominate or to submit. I find the exploration of "why" both amusing at times and tedious at others. I have made peace with the fact that is but a small subgroup of submissive women who "fit me like a glove" and perhaps somewhere just one that is perfect, perhaps none. The core fact I have learned is that when submission is right for a woman she is not merely excited but fulfilled. When it happens it is wonderful, when it happens for a bit it is delightful, when it lasys through a scene-I think I've outgrown that...most days.

I must admit that I have enjoyed meeting and learning the minds and unique personality of a number of women here. I do not mean that I have taken, captured, mesmerized but that I have enjoyed most whom I have communicated with here-not the proverbial "lightning flash" but certainly worthwhile awakenings

If I had to state the core of my Ds belief as a capsul it must be "naked slave". When slave is truly in mindset and centered she is naked or clothed only in that which accents her nakedness and also her condition: collar for many, corset for some, etc but she is naked. The air on her body, the feel of surfaces, the eyes uon her, the words spoken of her all remind her of her protocul, place, condition. This is the mindfulness of the naked slave. the same woman at work may remember she is a slave periodically and this should help her in her work but she should be centered on work. a woman with her family should be centered on her family and dressed as they expect. a woman at gym or jogging may push herself knowing she will be viewed completely exposed as Master's naked slave but she must concentrate on her work out. a sick woman is not able to be a naked slave until well, nor can a cold house easily hold a naked slave until warm. But once returned to her heightened state of naked awareness-then My expectations of her are very high indeed.

might I recommend short periods of meditation as a daily practice for a slave? and for Dominants if any read here. A simple mindful practice in a calm place, seated posture, where all doubts, expectations, fears, needs are just "let go" and you simply are, simply here, accept yourself... and isn't that the same as the beauty in being a slave? to simply be a slave as I simply be a Master

its a journey of both short and long stages and it is a mistake to think of the destination and miss the moment. I am not where I thought I'd be at 20, 30, or 40 but I am where those "mes" brought me

wanted to note that I enjoy friendships within the lifestyle and when it amuses me to peruse profiles I normally search but none Ds  criteria like painting, Art collecting ect -by way of explaining why a Domme or Gay woman might find I was reading. I am neither deluded nor desiring to change anyone's orientation

I am not a sadist and have no desire to "break" a woman into a slave, if indeed that is possible means to creating a pleasure and intellectual property-so I seek the companion slave who has found slave intrinsic to her identity and thus seeks an Owner who will value her positive assets and will strongly encourage her in addressing the negative. Such a woman would have many offers and coices and would choose a life suiting the rest of her nature. So I seek a slave who seeks the core meanings of My life-first of which is Art, then a Simple life with caring; achieved through discipline and work in body, mind, and spirit.

once it loses its flavor-throw it out. "I know you, you are neither hot, nor cold, and because you are lukewarm, I spit you out"- a slave must be completely a slave, in all spheres, at all times or she has never been a slave but she has her unique qualities, her passions, her spice. The simplest measure I can give to a potential slave is that the things she loves are filled with her passion and Who would dream of taking them away? Of you have no passion it would be bit cold devotion you'd have to offer

I feel it important that those who, for whatever reason, find some attraction to me that I delight in the total enslavement of women. I work hard to see them achieve and grow in all areas of life but centered on their identity as My slave property and I never stop trying to take them further. I am completely WRONG for those seeking both the romantic monogamous relationship and the intensity of play. The women who can be happy with me seek only complete surrender to naked enslavement

Are there truly consensual slaves? absolutely. Do they fit every category and definition you will find here, there, apparantly everywhere? absolutely not. Can I tell you if you are meant to be a slave? you must tell me. Do I care for my slaves? very much, they are my prime fascination along with Art. Is it love? I do not think so

Just on one day and enjoying the interesting women-have I just been lucky but good thoughts, whole people, with a real depth to their submission. Let us simply committ to be honest with each other and instead of a sort of competition a joining in making this "alternate" life one of healthy growth. I am not all things to all people and will survive rejection and appreciate polite goodbyes-so far each contact (except a few obvious intrusions by males and "sucker" trolling) have been people I am very glad to have met.

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