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I have been chatting with one or two Doms recently. It has been a disappointing experience in the main. I am staggered at the lack of finesse and the absence of good manners of some of the men on this site.
It often starts the same..... a polite friendly dialogue. (Methinks....this is going well). A photo exchange.....mutual admiration...... (going very well). Then there is the exchange of likes and limits. (I feel this is unnecessary as likes and dislikes are listed on profiles). “tell me more about your likes and dislikes” is the usual message. A barrage of questions follow demanding details of what turns me on.
Somewhere along the line I mention that I have little experience. I am assured that I will be “cherished” by the Dom. He’s experienced and a teacher. He loves to mentor. He tells me how great a Dom he is. He is used to teaching novices. Lack of experience is not important as he will teach me. Blah Blah Blah
Next is the list of demands. Do this. Wear that. Call me Sir. Obey me. Kneel. Suck. Then a meet is demanded. I’m told how to dress and make up for this first meet where I will be collared and owned.
I politely suggest a short meet for coffee and a chat. I explain that I will not be taking him back to my house for a full-on session five minutes after we meet. This will definitely not happen I say. Guess what happens next?
He tells me that vanilla is not his scene. He will not compromise who and what he is. Because I don’t agree with him I am accused of dishonouring his trustworthiness. I mention that it would be unwise of me to invite a stranger into my home after the briefest of introductions. I ask what advice he would give to his sister or cousin were she to contemplate taking the same action. He then says he respects my opinions but doesn’t share them. He then ends the dialogue abruptly.
True submission is inspired - not demanded. Not taken for granted - and certainly not just taken
Earn my submission, do not demand it. Show your dominance, do not make me feel a lesser being. Inspire. Not unsettle.
My thanks to the few genuine Doms I have spoken to or met. You won’t be surprised to read of my experiences with the many “dumbinants” on collarspace.
I shall sit back now and watch the “dumb c**t you haven’t a clue” messages come rolling in.
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