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At last the madness of Christmas is over and I have some spare time to write up a proper profile. I do have to admit there have been some elements of fun to having had a blank profile but now is time to get a bit more real and try to give a more fulsome picture of myself. Before carrying on, I feel I should state that none of the pictures on my profile are of me. “You don’t say”, I hear you chorus but some ask!
So about the real me! I am single. I have grown children and apart from work commitments, I am pretty much footloose and fancy free. I have a lively personality and am able to get with most people from all ages and back grounds. I am self-assured and forthright and only sexually submissive for the right partner.
I’m not here because I’m bored, looking for titillation or because I’ve read fifty shades of grey. I don’t feel or have ever felt that life is passing me by.
I love to laugh and can see humour sometimes in the worst of times. I am playful by default but have minimal brattish tendencies. I don’t play mind games and create dramas but I will go along with dramatic play. However like most people there are many layers to my psyche; most layers light, some dark, others simple, and a few complexes.
I am looking for long term because I would like to explore different intensities and aspects of bdsm and that’s not going to happen with a relative stranger or in a series of sporadic one offs. I am a sensualist, I respond to music, soft fabrics, restraints, warm heavy breath, a presence that subtly takes the centre of my space. My mind is strongly connected to my body and vice versa. In my experience intimacy and mental connection supercharges any physical interaction and it takes someone special or someone I trust to be able to let myself sink into the oblivion of submission.
Therefore I am not looking to be collared in a week! It takes time to develop trust and to be truthful respect on both sides. That doesn’t mean I am looking for or expecting to find romantic love and clinging onto someone into the sunset. However I do want something that is more significant than the odd booty call.
In terms of masochism emotional and physical I am fairly mild but do enjoy tormenting and impact play nonetheless. However my limits can be stretched exponentially by the ambience of the scene. I am pretty much putty in the right hands.
However I can’t stand anything public, so definitely no exhibitionism; I struggle even to hold hands in the street! I am happy to swap photos. I prefer to meet early on, initially to weed out the fantasists/wannabes and the lack of mutual chemistry in the flesh.
I am not a mainstream middle aged woman, I've never been mainstream anything anything but I pass very well for normal when required. I appreciate diversity and quirkiness and abhor fakery except when I'm in trouble with officialdom and then I'm as fake as a nine pound note.
Things I look for initially in a partner are excellent hygiene, intelligence, humour, conversation, imagination, depth of character and kindness. Confidence in one’s own abilities with a dash of humorous self-deprecation is a huge turn on; arrogance mixed with any forms of snobbery is sick making! Did I mention excellent hygiene?
I prefer men near my age or older. I will consider younger men who seek older women but will need some convincing of genuine interest.
Due to the amount of messages any sub receives it is impossible to reply to all communications. But one line or one word messages reveal nothing of the sender and leads me to assume you have no interest and are just fishing due to boredom.
Naturally if you have read down this far, it means you have some interest and I am very flattered and would love to hear from you.
Unless of course you live very far away and just want to chat. I love to chat I truly do, just not online with someone I’m unlikely to meet and you clog up the messages and it takes time to reply and then you reply and on it goes! So if you live far away I probably won’t reply.
I work shifts, so sometimes keep odd hours; I work odd weekends but the bonus is sometimes I have a few days off in a row!
I don’t drive and time is precious for everyone so someone near to Merseyside is essential.
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