There's no tickbox for women who aren't dominant, submissive or switch, but maybe there aren't many straight-up vanilla women on this site. Anyway, vanilla but curious is okay. I'm a beginner too so I'd always want to take everything really slowly, be in a proper relationship first, have safety gear on hand, and talk about limits, safewords, wants, etc. before doing anything.

I like a woman to have good skin, of course, but size is pretty irrelevant. Intelligence and class are a must. You should be in your 30s or 40s.

Ultimately I want love more than I want sex or a dominatrix, but I still feel too young to be getting attached to someone. Unless they are perfect. I can't really help liking the idea of (rough?) p.i.v sex, but I'd never ask for it directly or particularly make it a seduction goal. I enjoy giving vanilla sexual pleasure more than receiving and enjoy receiving the right amount of pain. If my tongue and fingers are preferred, I like that. But if you think you're the one who's been naughty, I can take care of that.

I'd try to convince you that I'm a safe, mature, sensible, non-criminal person to meet, date and play with, but you can only know that by meeting me. People who would convince you of that online are probably rapists or whatever. Be safe.

Unlike many of my sex, particularly those younger than I, I have managed to grow up knowing that women do not like to do the things typically depicted in porn. Women who appear in some reputably-produced kink videos are obviously having a wonderful time. Women who are gagging on cock or getting insensitively pounded in whatever orifice are almost definitely enduring a lot of discomfort in exchange for thousands of dollars an hour. The joys of capitalism! Uh.

I only like it when I can see the girl is enjoying it. Physical arousal is okay, but noises, faces and situations where the bodies become mere vessels for some brains to connect to each other is much better.

My standards aren't low. I'd be with actresses (kinky ones) if I could, of course. But it's a bit unrealistic. So heavy, some bush, hard limits, ultra-thinness, is all fine. Being thick, easily-led, seriously trendy or having low self-esteem isn't fine.