After being away from the site for some time, I have returned.  Someone had my old username, so this is a new one.

I'm seeking a woman for a long term, monogamous relationship.  I consider myself a Switch but tend toward Submissive.  That should not be taken to mean I'm neither not experienced as a Top, nor that I don't enjoy it.

I cannot currently relocate due to responsibilities to an elderly parent, but may be able in the future under the right circumstances.  As it stands, I have a very nice home in a very nice town, I'm hoping to find someone who might like it here.

I am serious and sincere about my goal to find a kinky partner but a partner is what I'm seeking, meaning to share the kink experience but just as much having as many or more interests outside of kink.  Variety is the spice of life, after all.  Truth told, I'm hoping for something closer to slavery than submission, but really a mix of the two that would be talked about and agreed upon before the relationship took on its final, official state.

I want for us to enjoy each other's company, to do things together, including travel, quiet days at home, day trips, museums and a lot of other things, all of it with an underlying current of kink and submission and slavery, but discreet and between us.  I'm not looking to be kept under strict control every minute of every day.  We can have periods of that, and when and for how long would mostly be up to my Lady.  If I meet the right woman, I'll know we understand things mostly the same.

So far in my search I have found a lot that want TPE in extremes, meaning the concept of the sub or slave giving up all rights and even control over their resources.  Sorry, but I'm not doing that.  I have a plan and we'd live well on a reasonable budget.  She can enjoy that with me.

I also find a lot of folk that want to have poly relations, a stable or harem, etc.  I'm monogamous and seek the same in my partner.  I want us to focus on each other for our remaining days, hopefully.

I'm not looking to waste time on long online courtships.  The contact will hopefully move from messages here, to texts and emails, to video to meeting within a couple months.  I will offer my phone number after we have talked a few times.  There's too much living to do to waste time.  I don't mind driving a bit to meet and spend time together.  Right now my time away from home is somewhat limited.

I have encountered a lot of profiles in the NYC area that demand a phone number from the start.  The reason I am reserved about sharing my phone number is the sheer number of catfishers and other scammers on this and similar sites.  A phone number gives you my full name and address.  Incedentally, those that demand my numbe refuse to give theirs, and the one time I gave my number, they called anonymously.  So no.  Not doing that.  I will Video chat, you can see and hear me.  I'll give you personal information when I know you and that you can be trusted with it.  Please bear with me as we develop at least a basic level of trust.

I value honesty, openness and very much an adventurous spirit.

I will try to respond to all messages.

I won't write many, I rarely write anyone as it is.  If I write you, its that I am genuinely interested to know you, but I ask without reservations or expectations.  It's hard to find the right person, but I intend to try.

Fair notice, I am a politically active liberal, I am agnostic and I have cats.