Bbare45

I was recently talking with some friends in the lifestyle and the topic turned to 'taking care' of your sub and the different ways it can be done.

There's the money faction - those that think that you just support them financially and the sub repays you with their devotion.

There's the devoted sub group - those subs that have completely and totally engrossed themselves in their Dom.

- Just wondering what your thoughts are on these two? Are their others?

I then started thinking about how I would care for a 'daughter' of my own. Besides the obvious ways such as feeding and guiding a daughter, there are the little things that make the memories of our time together last a lot longer. You know, those little actions that put that little 'fox-in-the-hen-house' smile on her face. Things like brushing her hair every night before bed. Washing her hair for her and using it to massage and relax her scalp. Other things like fixing a special dinner for her, for no other reason than I want to. In short, it is doing a lot of little things that some on here might call 'submissive' but I prefer to think of as 'taking care of someone I care for'.

Thoughts?

Still lurking after all these years.

I noticed recently there are a spate of fake women's profiles on here that claim that cancer of one type or another has taken their former 'masters'. Makes me wonder if being dominant is a cancer-inducing risk?

I wonder if the Government has studied this? ;P

Ok, first a bit about the fakes that I find humorous; I saw one the other day that said 'she' was six feet tall yet weighed a whopping 110 pounds. Ok, I can see that, if they're anorexic or something similar. But the picture showed a woman with at least 'c' cups, maybe 'd's. And a well-fed young lady it was. Oh, and the blond-haired woman was classified as a 'Native American'.

Yep, the fakes have NO idea.

On to another item. In the past 3 years I have lost more than 70 lbs off of my frame. I didn't lop off a leg, I just lost the weight by watching what I eat. I'm still not 'thin' by any stretch of the imagination, but at least I'm doing something about it.

If a lady is interested in a 'well-filled-out' man, feel free to contact me.

Another item, ladies that state they are willing to relocate. If you're in say, Los Angeles or one one of the coastal big cities, are your REALLY willing to move to a small town in 'fly-over' country? Do you have ANY idea of just what changes you'll have to go through when you do move there? I've lived in cities and in small towns. In places from more than 3 million people to towns as small as 8000 souls and I can tell you that there is a pretty big adjustment in all manner of things when you change from one area of the country to another.

It might be a bit helpful if you put a journal entry on your profile to the effect of what size area you might be willing to move to or what part of the country you'd like to move to. It might help weed out those that won't fit your desires.

Maybe you could put that as one of your 'questions' when you start talking with a dom (or a domme for that matter).

Ok, the fakes are at it again (do they ever really stop?). I just went through a bunch of the 'new members' and saw a number of women that weighed in at a 'whopping' 40 - 50 pounds.

Seriously? If you're going to try and scam us, at least figure out the conversion from metric to english pounds. There are a bunch of conversion tables online just for the asking.

And what's with nearly every one of the fakes putting an email address? I guess there are enough male wanna-be's out there that they can fill their yahoo in-box. More power to them.

On a more serious note, ladies, if you're real, please post some sort of photo of yourself. Don't consider yourself 'attractive'? Fine. Post something. Guys are just like the women, we all like something different.

Just remember, guys are visual, posting a picture of a butterfly or a unicorn may be nice but it tells us nothing. Putting a photo on your profile that is actually of you is the best. At least from my perspective, I have some idea of what you look like and I, personally, have a WIDE range of 'likes' when it comes to the female form.

And to the fakes out there, if you're going to put up a picture of a 120-130 pound woman, at least GUESS at what the correct weight range is! Sheesh!

I noticed a sub talking about the difficulties she is having finding someone in her area. I know the feeling well. Being out in a dark-red portion of a red state you don't find too many 'munches' or 'local BDSM scene's' going on.

But in talking with another sub, something popped into my head (yea, ok, sometimes that does happen). Many of the subs and I'm guessing doms are the same way, will talk about their kinks and even their likes and dislikes on certain aspects. The list on each person's profile allows them to list them and many certainly go into the details of what they enjoy in the BDSM part of their lives. What I don't see but rarely is where anyone is talking about what their day-to-day life would be like? How do they envision their day being?

Many doms will talk about their sexual preferences and how 'each morning my sub will do xxx to me'. Ok, fine. You've had your blow-job or flogging or whatever. But, how is the rest of your day oriented to help, control, live with your sub?

And to the subs, we're all looking for the 'right one'. Having a list of your likes and dislikes is all well and good. And you SHOULD list them, right down to your hard limits. But when you wake up in the morning with Mr. Right, what would YOU envision your day being like? Do you see yourself caged or flogged EVERY morning? "Oh, wait dear, let me get my make-up on before you flog my ass red for work." Or, do you see more mundane things during the day.

Most of us are not able to live a 100 % dom/sub world. We can't have our subs going out in the vanilla world wearing nothing but 5" heels and a corset as much as we might like it. So, just a general question to be answered, what and how do you envision your day to day life with Mr. or Ms. Right?

Was perusing the site and looking at a few of the folks whose journals I enjoy reading. One made a comment that to her eyes a lot of the doms from India have moved to Africa. I was just wondering how many of the subs from 'Africa' but have a Georgia USA city or some other US state on their profiles have the foggiest idea where any of the towns in the US are?

Scamming pictures off of facebook or from porn sites and using them to set up people at least gives the guys some eye candy to look at and occasionally a good laugh.

Ok, enough ranting, on to some questions for the subs out there.

1) When you state you are looking for a 'Daddy' style dom, do you even READ any profiles or just lay back and sort through the hundreds of emails from every lame-ass guy on here? It's no wonder people cut and run from this site with all of the bitching I read on women's profiles about the untold numbers of emails they get even before their profile has been up.

Is it too much to ask a submissive to actually READ a profile? I realize that they are 'subs' but still, you'd think SOME of them would be capable of actually reading a profile and sending a note to someone if they thought them interesting?

2) When a sub receives an email ( and as stated above, I understand about the probably hundreds they have to wade through) would it be too much to ask to just hit a reply and say to the few of us that ARE real that you aren't interested? I mean, look at the profile, if you don't like what you see, let him know.

Maybe all doms aren't gentlemen, but some of us are. And a nice declination email doesn't break our hearts nor cause me to want to castigate you in a return note, I simply move on and keep looking.

Enough

Just saw a new 'ad' on here for a lady that only weighs in at 1327 POUNDS (that's what, 600 Kilo's or so?). That's right, over half a ton, and she's only 5' 4" tall! (about a meter and 3/4 to those on the metric system).  Gotta love 'em!

Still looking and still interested. Wondering if the women looking for a 'Daddy' actually read any of the profiles out here? I know I'm not the only one searching, but you'd think by now someone would have at least commented on the profile.

Oh well, back to the fray.

Have you ever noticed....

- The fake ads that portray some woman wanting to be 'sold' or relocated? They seem to all have lost their parents at an early age.

- Pictures on the fake ads all look like cut and paste jobs

Ok, enough of the rant.

Personal update. I thought I had found a 'little girl'. She was 18 and looking for a Daddy figure to guide her through life. Alas, maybe 18 is still a bit young to really know what you want in life. So, it's back to the search.

This part of Texas got freezing rain, sleet (about an inch) and snow (about 3") in the recent storm. It finally got above freezing on Friday (35) and yesterday was absolutely beautiful with a high of 62. Today is starting out the same way, but there's another front coming. I just hope it brings some more rain. This country needed rain 3 days after Noah got off of the Ark.

Mom's house closed and she seems to be adjusting well to living on her own. I'm glad to see that. Now if the real estate market would just pick up a little bit around here.

Ok, so it's been a while since I posted an update. It has been busy in my world. Let's see, where to start....how about at the end and back up?

My 86 year old Mother finally sold her house. We received an acceptable bid on it, took it and started the closing process. That's when the mortgage company (Wells Fargo) decided 'it just isn't enough, please go back to the buyers and request a higher selling price'. Are they OUT OF THEIR MINDS?

The bid, as it was, would have paid off the mortgage and all of the late fees as well as left my Mother with some cash to live on. When the bid went to them, they promptly found another $25K in 'fees and legal costs' to take whatever funds there might have been.

I wrote a letter to the state banking regulators and included a copy of the letter from WF. Three days later, miraculously, they (WF) decided to allow us to close the loan at the amount offered.

Amazing what a little pressure can do.

Mother is now going through her second big adjustment in two years (the first when my father died) and is living in her own apartment and working on making do with a lot less space than before.

Work-wise, the year ended down. I missed goals by $90K but hit the goals otherwise. Ah well, time to work on the future.

On the personal side, I've been invited on TWO blind dates so far. I get a feeling that these folks really don't know me all that well from the choices they had.  Nice ladies, just not what I am interested in.

On to something I found a bit humorous. The obvious fakes on here. I enjoy looking at the pictures of the actresses and facebook stolen pictures they show. I've also figured most of them have never learned anything about the English/American units of measure since I see a LOT of 50 Lb women coming on. That and the one's that at least TRY to come up with something close to reality, weight-wise but show an obviously thinner woman and state their weight as being 225 or one I saw was 350 Lbs! Good enough for a chuckle.

Then there's the grammar. They don't know how to use the personal pronouns like English speakers do. Sure give-away that they are a fake.

Still it is interesting. Some are getting pretty good at their fakery though, so to all you out there, keep a sharp eye out and keep letting everyone know who's real and who's not.

To the ladies out there; I can't say what the 'fake' guys are doing. Some may just be wannabe's and some are probably fakes, but don't hesitate to let everyone know that they are fakes. Let's take CM back!