badinplaid

The best laid plans of mice and men never turn out as planned.  I am still out here looking for one special girl who wants to try and build something special.

To me the most important things in a prospective relationship in tht BDSM world is honesty and communication.

Honesty, in what your interests are, how you are feeling and is importatnt in building trust.  With open communication two people set up their limits, what they are open to, what are hard and soft limits. 

Long ago my first mentor in the BDSM world said this is the tennet that sets everything in motion "A Dom/Domme can not take by force that which the sub doesn't willingly give."    The D/s relationship isn't one where the Dom is to regularly take liberties. 

When trust is gained a good Dom/Domme will push his sub.  Push into the soft limits and see if They can take things a little further each time. 

Each couple or group's relationship is unique to them. My personal preference is to build a long lasting strong relationship and see BDSM as an extension of that.  I keep my mind open to new experiences, but have long ago learned that when there is a conncetion between two people the experience is heightened significantly.