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Female Submissive, 29, Savanah, Georgia
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About BadCompany1947
OK, you're new to the lifestyle, Then let me tell you some things that you need to know! Submissive (sub): are both male and female, Dom:is a dominate male, and Dom me is a dominate female Now all of them, the sub, the Dom me and the Dom start out as untrained Vanilla's (see below). Master and Mistress: are gentlemen and Ladys who are trained as a Master (who is a male) and Mistress (who is a female). Vanilla: it's a name that we who are in this lifestyle, call the ones who are not in the lifestyle, A vanilla is someone who does not know about this lifestyle called B / D / S / M. and at this point that is you, until you get some training. First, you must learn to stop being in the mind set of a vanilla any more. and start thing like a submissive or as a Dom. In the world where the vanilla's live, it is the guy who makes the first contact. He is the one who ask the girl out on a date, and this is the world where you live now. Here in our world it is the sub who makes the first contact. (you will still see a lot of newbies like yourself, who just can't stop being a vanilla, and still want the other person to come to them). Maybe if I explain in this way will help you understand me better! Your Boss/employer are like being a Masters and a submissive are the same a being a employee and the switch are like a supervisor (they have some one under them (an employee) and someone over them(a boss)). OK, as a sub/employee you want the Boss/employer to place an AD in the Classifieds of the paper, so you as the sub/employee can go read and YOU pick the JOB you want. (classifieds is the same as placing a Profile in here or in a personnel on the internet)
So the Boss/Master do put and ad in the Personals asking you to read there profile and pick them as your next Master/Dom. Now (back in the VANILLA world again) when you are looking for a job, does the boss call you, OR do you call him? As an employee/sub who is looking for a Master/teacher to work or to belong to, you go look over classifieds/personals to see who's hiring? fine the best boss/teacher who has placed an AD/profile asking you to read it, and called for an appointment for an interview. This is how it is done in this world. If you want to fine the best Master/Dom. WHY? will lets answer that question. There are want to bee's out there. And how you think they fine a sub like you? will the want to bee is the one who is sending you the e mail asking you to be there sub!! they are the ones who is making the first contacts like you are sub post to be doing. Why because they are still a Vanilla like you are. So you go to the Boss/master after reading there profiles/ad's and you pick the one you want. Don't let the so called boss/master/dom's who are really a want to bee be the one who e mails you. and you ask the questions and get the answers from the Master/Dom you have picked out. Are you beginning to be under stand what I'm saying and why? Any real Dom doesn't have to go ask for a sub to be his,,,, they are lined up at his door all the time ask him to let them be his. I get 2 or 3 every day. I do read there profiles and see if they are a real submissive or just a kinky person wanting to play sexual games. The ones who are real sub and 99% are not, I do ask them questions and get to know them, to see if I can help them fine the right master or Dom If you have send me a request and I didn't answer, it is because I feel you are kinky and not a sub. if you were sick in need of a surgeon would allow a untrained Doctor work on you? then why are you turning your body over to a untrained Dom? Thank about it! Also I have accounts under these names: badcompany24 badcompany28 |
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Finding a Potential Dom..questions that should be asked: finding an appropriate Dom is something that should be approached with a great deal of thought. Just because a man is Dominant does not mean he will make a good Dominant for every submissive. If you are new to submission then you MUST be careful. A true Dominant says: "I feel privileged to have gained the prize of your submission. As your Dominant, it is my obligation to guide you, teach you, care for you and do my very best to ensure your overall happiness & well-being. Yes I will make demands on you, both physical and mental. And yes I will also set you tasks, some of which may be mundane; others may challenge and take you out of your comfort zone. But these will only ever be designed to aid your development as my submissive, never simply for my personal gain. And all I ask for in return is your submission, nothing more." A poor or fake Dominant says: "I own you. Do as I say" Note the difference, especially online!!! There are several things a submissive needs to look for in a potential Dominant.. But before doing that, she needs to first look inside of herself and decide what she wants and needs from such a relationship. Is she looking to be a sub or slave....is the potential Dom looking for a sub or slave. a submissive needs to then ask her potential Dominant the following questions to see if they would make a good pair. Doing this can make the difference in life and death in some cases. Safety should always be foremost in a submissive's mind when seeking a Dominant partner. Is he looking for a short term or a long term relationship? D/s relationships can be anything from occasional play partners to committed lifetime partnerships. It is very important that a submissive is looking for the same kind of relationship as her potential Dom. What aspects of the scene is a potential dominant into? Is the potential dominant sadistic? there are Many things to be taken into consideration and asked. If in doubt....Ask. There is much a submissive must consider in choosing a Dominant. It is very easy for a submissive to get swept away under a Dom's control without asking the important questions first. But by asking the questions, she will be saving herself a lot of heartache down the road. She will also increase the odds that she will be entering into a relationship that is safe and consensual in every aspect.
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WHY
Why does almost everyone in here do this same thing wrong! BDSM is a life style, we can agree on that? and a VANILLA is anyone who does not know anything about this life style... can we also agree on that? Now just what is the difference between (a vanilla and a BDSM lifestyle)? OK, I am a CEO of a company, I would never read the classifieds of a news paper looking for a new employee. and as a Vanilla person you understand that. So why would a Master/owner of a sub/slave do anything less than a owner/boss would do about hiring a new employee/sub? But every day a so called Dom/master sends out a e mail to a sub asking her to be his. WHY? because this so called Master/Dom is still untrained and still acting like a VANILLA that they still are!
So again I ask what is a Vanilla? and the answer still is (like it says above) anyone who does not know anything about this lifestyle, even if he or she calls them self a Dom or a submissive... A vanilla is a vanilla.
Making first contact!how important is it! have some question ready to ask them, about what they expect you to do and to know. Look as if you have done your home work on that company. Know something about the person or business you are going to ask to go to work for. So why is it we don't do this when you are asking a Dom to be your Master/owner?
showing up with your hair not combed and you dressed as if you were hanging out in the back yard, and you didn't bother to take a bath... get the picture?
And here you set waiting for this Dom to COME TO YOU!! and you wounder why all you get is the bad one's...
What is the one thing you can count on with a liar? that they will lie to you again and again, every time they feel the need to! and you can't stop them, nor can you till when they will do it again |
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In these "taken in hand", "50's household" circles, groups, discussion boards and blog's, the overwhelming majority of contributions are about the Women. What THEY should do, what THEY should say, how THEY should behave. Very little is ever said about the Men, their responsibilities, the standard of measures that they should have to live up to. I find that abhorrent, and I believe that mentality is at the source of why Feminism ever came about to begin with. Now, Women are free to post their two cents here. But understand as you read this dear and gentle reader, that I am making this post as a Man speaking to Men. Thus I am speaking to them as Men do to one another when not in mixed company. Not a lot of equivocation here, not much pussyfooting around or going out of my way to be delicate with any ones feelings.
1. Men. You're fat and soft. That is your fault. Not someone else. Hit the gym. Get a P90X program. Stop eating all that damn sugar and corn syrup. Whatever. Just take care of it, and take care of it yourself. Your Mommy may love you unconditionally, but no one else does. Nut up. No one expects you to be Jack La Lanne (google it, kid), but If you can't at least half ass-ed take care of yourself, what the hell makes you think anyone else would want you to take care of them?
2. You're dressed like your clothes came off the bathroom floor. This is your fault. Not society's'. You don't have to have or spend a lot of money to dress better than you do. My Grandfather worked the farm, drove a milk delivery truck when he was 14. He grew up to be a San Francisco dock worker in the Pile Drivers Union. He built docks, railroads, was a carpenter, 72 through 77 he was a site foreman working on the Alaskan pipe line. he worked up until two months before his death. A 40 hour work week was to him, semi retirement. Yet when he took his wife out for dinner, he was dressed like he was on his way to an awards ceremony. He was never anything other than blue collar, but even if he was just taking his pre-teen grand kids to Round Table pizza in Dublin Ca, he wore slacks, cowboy boots, a dress shirt and a bo-lo tie. So did the majority of his friends. Some of you assholes can't be bothered to tuck in your "no fear" T-shirt into your poorly fitting jeans on a date. Your boss or coworkers don't really respect you? Women don't respect you? How you present yourself is probably a good place to start, dickhead. Man up.
3. Grow the hell up and take out the piercings, stop with the stupid ass tattoos (they stopped being cool, novel or unique 20 years ago. Fucking' let it die, already) and for Pete's sake, get a damn hair cut. You want to be treated like a Man? You can start by looking like one. Maybe if you start to look like one, you'll start to feel like one, and if you feel like one maybe you'll start to act like one. And when you act like one, you'll be one and when you are one, you'll be treated like one. And spare me the feel good-ism bullshit about the clothes not making the Man. That's an intellectually vapid cop out crock of shit, even if your mommy told you otherwise.
4. Stop hanging out with Women, and start dating them. Stop treating them the same way you treat your male friends. They deserve that much respect and consideration. They are not your buddies. You wonder why a Woman does not regard you as her alpha? Because you don't treat her like you are. She's not your "buddy". She is not a "dude". She is a Lady. Act like a Man, and treat her like a Lady, even when she does not act like a lady Herself. Stop swearing like Andrew Dice Clay around Women, even if they are themselves speaking that way. If you take your own standards for yourself up a level, it WILL rub off on how others view you. The loss of distinction between men and Women has also meant a loss of novelty, mystery and mutual consideration. Be a Man and reclaim those things. Got "friend zoned" ? There is a reason. It's because that is what you made of yourself. The Lady didn't "Friend zone" you, YOU "friend zoned" you. Stop treating her like she is one of the fellas, and she'll stop acting like one of them. And just maybe, she'll also stop treating you like you're one of the girls.
5. Time Management. If you are over 20 and still own a "Game console", you should have your ass beaten. If you have time enough to use a game console, you REALLY aught to have your ass beaten. Put it down, turn it off, go outside. Visit with your family. Go do volunteer stuff or something. Clean your damn house. Whatever. Anything besides sit there like a baked potato spacing out passively on the couch.
6. Urban culture. Just knock it off. It wasn't cool back when it was cool, so let it die, too. To "chill" is not an activity or a hobby. An inverted, backwards peace sign makes you look like a dickhead in photographs. If you like rap music, fine. Whatever. That does not however, require that you go about behaving like an advertisement for Eminem.
7. Man the fuck up. Stiff upper lip, what what. Face and deal with your problems head on. Be the predator that your UFC walk-in music makes you feel. Sometimes there can be legitimate problems and stresses in life, true. But 99.999 percent of the things Men today whine about are absolute bullshit. You need to stop your emotional bullshit, accept that life is sometimes going to throw you a curve and deal with it head on. Grandpa, at 17 years old, sat in the cold metal hull of a navy ship and rode across the Atlantic drinking shite Navy issued rum and smoking Camel cigarettes, leaving his family and home behind for three years. He went to go kill Nazi's. At 17. He went cold, he went hungry, he went tired, he went into real danger. And most notably, he went voluntarily. He came home proud of himself, his brothers, his family and his country, and he went right to work, capitalizing on the freedoms he won for his world. Some of you little pussy boys' today throw temper tantrums in your 20s' when you can't get your i-pod to download Lady Gag-gag. You squeal more than your girlfriends do at snakes and spiders. Carrying the garbage out makes you feel icky. Get the sand out of your vagina and fucking' deal.
8. Learn how to manage your finances. Why the hell should any Woman trust you to provide if you can't balance your checkbook? I mean,, seriously.
9. Clean your living space. If you respect yourself and your home, she'll respect you as well.
10. Hygiene. Here is a good rule to go by: If you would like her to suck it (Whatever "it" is), shave it and wash it before presenting it.
11. It's responsibility, not privilege. Being head of household means responsibility, not privilege. Don't waste time on what you "get" to do to her or have her do, instead worry on making sure you deserve those things. It is not "Do I get a blow job? ", it's "Do I deserve a blow job? ". And having a cock is not enough reason to get it sucked.
So Man up. Pull your damn pants up, watch your language in mixed company, treat her like a Lady, dress like a Gentleman, work more often than not, stop screwing off wasting time, deal with your problems instead of whining about them, be responsible with your money, your home and yourself and for fucks sake, face the fact that it's NOT all about YOU.
Dickhead.
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