Trust is the most important factor in developing a D/s relationship, after trust is communication. Once these two are achieved they you can develop a loving relationship. What does all this mean for the type of Dominant I am? Well, I can tell you I am fair, honest, caring, and kind. I demand respect but I give it back. I promise to always listen and try to understand where a submissive or slave is coming from first before I make a demand or decision. I am more of a pleasure oriented Dominant but I do enjoy a plentiful measure of pain. I will provide a safe, sane, and caring environment for learning and hopefully love. I also believe strongly in aftercare for those that scene with Me and that aftercare goes both ways.

I feel that as lifestylists, we are born Dominant, or born submissive (and sometimes we’re born a little of both). However, just being born that way doesn’t give you the right to call yourself a Master or a slave. That is something that must be earned through hard work and practice. As such, I never demand that any sub call me “Sir” until she feels that I have earned the respect of that title.

So some things about me. I am a 21-year-old male living in Indiana attending college. I now have spent the last seven years in touch with my Dominant nature. I am certainly a young Dom, and would not be so arrogant as to call myself an expert in all aspects of the lifestyle when there are people here who have been doing this for longer than I have been alive. That said, I am confident of my abilities, sure in the knowledge of my tastes, and proud of the hard work and long hours of research and experimentation I have committed myself to.

My specialties include, but are not limited to, mental submission and bondage, slave training scenes, pain/pleasure play, and power exchange.

I see collarme as a place to share and express ideas, concepts, and stories with others in the lifestyle. I am happy to talk with experienced Doms, Dommes, submissives, slaves, and switches of any gender about their lives, but I also enjoy helping along those who are brand new to the site or to the lifestyle.