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Male Dominant, 59, Cedar Rapids, IA, Iowa
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Male Dominant, 25
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Male Dominant, 44, Den Haag
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About authoritywithin
This is not something I'm prepared to go on living without. I have struggled all my life, with what I am. I'm not kinky. This is an emotional fix. I need to be devoted, whole-heartedly. To trust, without conditions. To shine and blaze and unfold under the guidance of a wise and wild, medicine-man-master. Give me the chance to heal myself. Give me the opportunity to express this deep need inside of me. Bear compassionate witness to the emerging woman within me that needs to crawl and beg and whimper and fall under the spell of your Presence.
For me the D/s lifestyle is about so much more than what happens between bodies, and for me to engage intimately with a man there has to be a profound connection. Emotionally. Spiritually. I am not the kind of woman who is here for cheap thrills. I want resplendence and transcendence. I want to find my soul in the heat of sex and love. I want partnership, in life, not just use.
Please understand, that I am not looking for someone to define me, or give my life meaning. I already exist; life has already forged me. I do not need a new shape. My life is already rich with meaning and purpose. I am seeking an avenue of intimate connection, presence, and expression of my secret inner life.
I like to think we're all grown-ups here and we understand that power exchange relationships are deeper and more complicated than vanilla relationships typically are. That neither of us can fully express our Dominance or submission unless there is a powerful connection, because we draw the expression out of one another via magnetic attraction/polarization. Personally, I'm very sensual. I'm not a maso, and yet I need my master to have a sadistic streak. I need to fear him, a little.
Probably the biggest issue that comes up for me when seeking my magnetic opposite is my spiritual sensitivity. I'm not a religious woman. I'm a gifted one. Some people might see psychic phenomena as madness, but the right master for me knows that my sensitivity and knowledge of how energy moves makes me a valuable asset. He also, senses things, and uses that to control.
If I have a fetish, control is what it is. I do not mean micromangement; I mean that when we are together, his control is absolute. When we are apart, we can feel each other all the time. There is that much intimacy. That much trust. I want to want to do whatever it takes, to please you. And I want to do it without losing myself, because, while undoubtedly flawed, I'm a deep, sincere, curvy bbw. An empath, a great communicator. A deep feeling person. A woman of character and honor, and someone who is driven to this by a need that goes far beyond sex.
If you get that, please, write.
I'm a real person going through a major transition in her life right now. That means that I'm busier than usual, and I really will only meet you if we have a very powerful connection established over letter-writing and phone. Having an intellectual conversation is not enough. Being nice is not enough. I really have to think we might have a shot at something very rare and worthwhile.
I am traveling, kind of full time. I recently decided to purchase a Class A motor home, move in, and go where the wind and the work takes me. It's new and its scary and I have no idea what I'm doing, only that I must do it. Only that I flounder in ordinary culture and all its hollow demands, its insistence on beige walls and sensible cars and paperwork.
This means that even if I am not nearby you now, I could be. It also means that if I am, I may not be, soon. But if we hit it off enough, well I just might find a way to make it work. The truth is, that if you're the right man and master for me, I will move heaven and earth to accommodate your Presence in my life.
I AM NOT POLY. NOT BI. NOT INTERESTED IN ANY RELATIONSHIP THAT INVOLVES MORE THAN YOU, AND ME. PLEASE: I AM A SINGLE WOMAN WITH NO CHILDREN WHO IS GENUINELY AVAILABLE. I AM NOT GOING TO GET INVOLVED WITH SOMEONE WITH WHOM THERE IS NO FUTURE.
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Sex should be treated as a spiritual exercise.
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Anaïs Nin wrote the following passionate letter to the "Collector" and made known her frustrations — frustrations caused by his repeated insistence that they "leave out the poetry" and instead "concentrate on sex.".......
Dear Collector:
We hate you. Sex loses all its power and magic when it becomes explicit, mechanical, overdone, when it becomes a mechanistic obsession. It becomes a bore. You have taught us more than anyone I know how wrong it is not to mix it with emotion, hunger, desire, lust, whims, caprices, personal ties, deeper relationships which change its color, flavor, rhythms, intensities.
You do not know what you are missing by your microscopic examination of sexual activity to the exclusion of others, which are the fuel that ignites it. Intellectual, imaginative, romantic, emotional. This is what gives sex its surprising textures, its subtle transformations, its aphrodisiac elements. You are shrinking your world of sensations. You are withering it, starving it, draining its blood.
If you nourished your sexual life with all the excitements and adventures which love injects into sensuality, you would be the most potent man in the world. The source of sexual power is curiosity, passion. You are watching its little flame die of asphyxiation. Sex does not thrive on monotony. Without feeling, inventions, moods, no surprises in bed. Sex must be mixed with tears, laughter, words, promises, scenes, jealousy, envy, all of the spices of fear, foreign travel, new faces, novels, stories, dreams, fantasies, music, dancing, opium, wine.
How much do you lose by this periscope at the tip of your sex, when you could enjoy a harem of discrete and never-repeated wonders? Not two hairs alike, but you will not let us waste words on a deion of hair; not two odors, but if we expand on this, you cry "Cut the poetry." Not two skins with the same texture, and never the same light, temperature, shadows, never the same gesture; for a lover, when he is aroused by true love, can run the gamut of centuries of love lore, What a range, what changes of age, what variations of maturity and innocence, perversity and art, natural and graceful animals.
We have sat around for hours and wondered how you look. If you have closed your senses around silk, light, color, odor, character, temperament, you must by now be completely shriveled up. There are so many minor senses, all running like tributaries into the mainstream of sex, nourishing it. Only the united beat of sex and heart together can create ecstasy."
~Anais Nin
(Source: The Diary Of Anais Nin, Volume 3; 1939-1944)
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I am a BBW, and I want you to love my body the way it is. If you are not passionate about my body type, kindly go away. I will not lose weight for you. I may lose it anyway. Or not. If this is a barrier for you, we are not a match. Don't write. You could never control me, because you do not have the depth to meet my submission anyway. Of all that I have to offer, my body is the least of it. |
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Sexual fulfillment is a side effect of love and trust. |
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If you want to start a conversation with me, please introduce yourself with at least a few lines of text, not a form letter and not a simple greeting. We are not meeting on line at the Home Depot. Small talk doesn't work over email. (It doesn't work in the real world either, for me.)
You needn't write a novel but I put lots of effort and thought into my ad and a dominant who is unwilling to risk five full minutes to write to me specifically is already showing no effort, which in this lifestyle is a HUGE red flag. I will not respond to emails that have no substance/nothing to respond to.
Thank you. |
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I am amazed at times by the sense of entitlement some people have when it comes to this website. A woman who is a submissive, is a whole person first. Your self-ascribed title does not mean she is going to sit at the computer all day and instantly respond to you. Throwing a goodbye tantrum after a couple of brief emails and a delayed reply is why you are alone. Christ! You are just a faceless stranger until you show up in the real world in some legitimate manner. She doesn't owe you anything! |
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When doms say they are looking for a submissive, "for fun" and to "serve them," usually accompanied by some ridiculous statement like, "Must love oral," or "Must love sex," the wise woman, whose submission is not isolated from her hard-earned womanhood hears:
I want you to come and give me things I did not earn. In exchange, I will provide you with nothing but the opportunity to give me, a stranger, something that is yours to give away. You can expect nothing from me in return. No taking of responsibility for the energy and consciousness I bring to this encounter. No deep thought about the vastness of your totality as a woman, a submissive and a human being. If I hurt you, I will leave you to deal with that pain alone, because all I can do is give you more pain. That is why I need you to gift me with your presence. I cannot hold this pain. I need to dump it into you. Isn't that what submissives are for?
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Wanting me is not enough. I feel your hunger, but not your heart. Where have you left it?
Wanting is so easy, so undependable, so easily broken over trivial matters.
Your desire, that draw that emerges between magnetic opposites: that is my desire.
Your Presence, the embodied mind and soul of glory and might.
Your power, a will like iron, like chain.
Your mighty depth, dug by the shovels called courage and honor, I greet thee.
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WHEN A MAN CHOOSES TO KNOW A WOMAN~~
Unlike a man, woman aren't turned off & on like a switch. A woman's desire builds over time and is connected to trust.
Women actually possess the ability for infinite sexual desire - for the right man.
The key to opening a woman's unbridled and uninhibited sexuality comes from a man's desire to truly 'know' her, not simply to penetrate her.
The man who can turn a woman on at will has taken his time to know her and approaches his woman with delicious desire and the confidence of already knowing she wants.
Most men make meager requests or insistent demands out of needs for their own sexual gratification and have yet to open a woman this way.
When a man chooses to 'know' a woman rather than simply penetrate her, his capacity to sensually connect evolves beyond 'one and then done'. In fact, 'multiples' are not a phenomena exclusive to women.
Seek to know her.
Once she completely trusts you she'll want to be utterly consumed by you.
This energy generates a spiritual Viagra and an unlimited ability for you to remain connected and fulfill her as well.
A woman's desire becomes infinite once a man never stops seeking to know the depths of her soul.
A man's performance becomes limitless once she's been opened so completely.
~Graham R White
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There are a lot of complaints about the women on here being fake, and I don't mean the obvious spam-farms asking you for money, but the real people who aren't meeting your expectations.
If you have rants on your profile, like "You make me sick," or "I just can't figure you sluts out," or some other angry rant, you should be aware that real women, with deep submission see this as a major red flag, because that kind of anger,
1. Has no place in the lifestyle, and
2. Comes from a place of SHAME.
Yes, "You make me sick," is a statement fraught with shame. If you are not getting the kind of women you really want, perhaps it is because you have a shallow understanding of yourself, women and the lifestyle.
Do you know what motivates a truly submissive woman? (If your answer has anything to do with her body, I'm talking to you!)
Your violent communication comes from the rage you have that protects your shame wound. A woman, not doing what you want, triggers that toxic shame, and you feel rage.
And hey--it's your profile. If you want to use it to alienate yourself from healthy, whole people that's up to you.
Stop externalizing your work.
It is not a woman's job to process your emotions for you. To accept the beatings of your own self-loathing. Deal with your own stuff before trying to exert your will over another.
If you call yourself a Dom, then the first thing you must do is control your emotions or you cannot be trusted. Period.
And if you call yourself a Master then, controlling your emotions is not enough. You must have processed them fully and alchemised them into art, even if that art is the art of control. |
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One of the things I appreciate about the lifestyle is the clear communication of what is expected. It may come in layers or levels, but it is a part of the culture.
Vanilla men won't even call a date a date. There are no rules. They don't know what they want. One day you rock their world, and a week later they are consumed by shame and flee the power of the connection. They make you try to guess where you stand, mostly because they are estranged from a big part of who they are and do not know where you stand with them. They are inconsistent and unreliable, and if you can't actually show up for what you want then how can you be depended upon, let alone deferred to?
I realize that most of the men on this site are, in fact, vanilla people with a kinky streak, and I can appreciate that too. But dominance and submission demands two real consenting adults. This means responsibility, emotional maturity, spiritual centeredness. To become an adult you must, at least once, do the hard thing that is right.
And a submissive needs to know that you will do that. What is right. She needs to know you will not be selfish. That you can control yourself. That you won't fuck up her life, or destroy her self-esteem. A mind fuck should leave her in a personally empowered place, not a ball on the floor.
Well I can't speak for other women. Maybe they like that. I know there was a time when I was hurting myself with men who were bad for me because of reasons I didn't understand, but I have matured. I have grown. I have done a great deal of personal developing and it took great sacrifice and the sheer labor of it gave me recognition of my value to myself.
You'd be surprised at what a turned on wild and soulful woman can give you, but you mustn't crush her under your boot.
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For me the D/s lifestyle is about so much more than what happens between bodies, and for me to engage intimately with a man there has to be a profound connection. Emotionally. Spiritually. I am not the kind of woman who is here for cheap thrills. I want resplendence and transcendence. I want to find my soul in the heat of sex and love. I want partnership, in life, not just use. Certainly not abuse. I am a psychologically healthy woman (speaking relatively). I'd like to stay that way! |
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I will be taking off of work for the next couple of weeks, to heal from a surgical procedure. I hope to find some titillating masterful conversationalists/pen pals to pass the time with. |
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I did this for fun, and out of curiosity. I don't know how accurate it is. It always seems to depend on the counterpart.
== Results from http://bdsmtest.org/ ==
90% Rope Bunny
81% Primal (Prey)
79% Submissive
64% Masochist
59% Girl/Boy
52% Pet
52% Vanilla
43% Brat
42% Primal (Hunter)
42% Ageplayer
31% Slave
28% Degradee
26% Switch
18% Dominant
11% Rigger
11% Experimentalist
10% Master/Mistress
10% Degrader
9% Sadist
9% Exhibitionist
8% Daddy/Mommy
5% Brat Tamer
5% Voyeur
4% Owner
3% Non-monogamist
See my results online at http://bdsmtest.org/result.?id=1032610 |
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Male Switch, 65
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Female Submissive, 53
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Female Dominant, 39, Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania
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Female Submissive, 49, Bellevue, Washington
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Male Dominant, 55, Reykjavik
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Female Submissive, 35, roanoke, Virginia
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Female Submissive, 50, Bellevue, Washington
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Female Submissive, 50
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Female Switch, 47
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Male Dominant, 48, London UK
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Male Switch, 23, westminster, California
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Female Submissive, 28
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