Intro:
I'm sweet and innocent on the outside, total freak on the inside. I'm a sensual, loving Domme. My preferred tools of domination involve the fine arts of teasing and denial rather than those of cruelty and sadism. But don't let that fool you; I expect to get my way and I always do in the end.
I've been exploring my Dominant side since I was 18. In the years since I've grown and learned a lot about who I am and the best way to fulfill my desires. Key to that was the realization that this is about me. My tolerance for "do me" subs has fallen to less than zero. If you claim to be submissive, act that way. Your first and only concern should be my desires, not whatever gets you off. Understand that, and you'll be in good shape.
In no particular order, the qualities I'm seeking in a submissive are:
1. Love, kindness and respect. Towards me, towards all women, towards everyone really. In my mind, these are necessary traits for a submissive, as they reflect an "others first" mentality, and they're also what make a good human being and someone I'd actually want to date.
2. Obedience. It's shocking that this needs to be said, but it does. If I ask you to do something (let alone tell you to do something) understand that it's not optional. The inverse of this is that while you may ask things of me, you should not expect I will do anything unless I want to.
3. Masculinity. I've nothing but love and respect for my queer friends but that's not what I like in a male partner. So please, no transsexuals or crossdressers.
4. Commitment. There are no guarantees in life, especially with relationships. But please be sure that D/s is a lifestyle you're ready for an want for the long term, and not just as an experiment.
5. Physically fit. I live an active lifestyle with a fair amount of excersize my partner needs to be able to keep up.
6. Vanilla compatibility. We should have some common vanilla interests that we share. Related, I expect to be able to talk to my partner, and him to me, as a normal person. (I have a special affinity for geek guys).
The relationship I seek:
I'm looking for a long term, conventional appearing relationship. Meaning, I expect to be able to present you to family and co-workers and have them be none the wiser about our private life. I will, of course, reciprocate.
But beyond appearances, this will be a 24/7, total power exchange, Female (AKA, me) led relationship. Your input will be considered, but the final say will always be mine.
You will be cuckolded. Since there are a lot of ideas out there about what this means, I will lay out exactly how it will work with me. First, I respect my submissive cuckold - I love him for all he gives to me, and all he gives up for me. He should respect himself for the same reasons. Second, we will have a physically intimate sexual relationship. Affection, cuddling, kissing, hand holding, I want all this with my submissive. I will train my submissive to give me orgasms, which he will do often. I will give him orgasms... when I feel like it. But - and this is a big but, so pay attention - I will not have penetrative sex with my submissive. His penis will never enter me, nor any other woman. I enjoy that a sub would make this sacrifice to be with me. Meanwhile, I will carry on other sexual relationships with other men and women, at my discretion. Sometimes, you'll get a text letting you know not to expect me home. Or I may text you to say I won't be home. Or I may bring these lovers home, and you'll be expected to keep out of the way and spend a night on the couch. Or, I might make you cook and serve us dinner and drinks, undress me, and service him.
Yes, I said service him. I love forced bi. My submissive will suck cock and more. This is non-negotiable. I also love pegging, this is also non-negotiable. Most other kinks are up for discussion though.
These things are not for everyone so make sure they're for you before you approach me.
Addendum:
If you write, address me as Miss. Failure to follow this simple instruction will result in immediately being blocked.
Failure to use reasonably good grammar will get you blocked. Why would I or any other Dominant want a sub who's too lazy to type all three letters of words like "you" and "are"?
