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Male Dominant, 45, NW, Ohio / SE, Michigan
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Male Dominant, 34, Cleveland, Ohio
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Female Submissive, 26
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About appliedkilovolts
I am a relatively recent convert to the world of BDSM, and want to experience and learn more. I was introduced to the world of BDSM by my recent (now ex) girlfriend, who is (or at least was) a submissive. I was originally fairly naive to what the world of BDSM could offer and what it was all about. However, after having sampled it for a short period, I have found aspects to it that I like rather a lot, and enjoy. In fact, some have found it hard to believe that I was not a Dom. I have come to realise why - the fact is that I am a Dom, in ways I did not realise this time last year.
I have heard it said that BDSM does not have to include sex in any way - but I find this difficult to believe. Although perhaps it depends on what you define as sex. Personally, I think if BDSM involves being sexually explicit with our bodies, and includes physical use or abuse of our sexual organs, then it does constitute sex. Ask yourself this - if you have sex but do not orgasm (whether you intended to or not) is it still sex? I think it is, and I believe I am not alone in this opinion.
Besides, from the perspective of the submissive partner, who often submits to being in pain at the hands of the Dominant, the pain causes the release of endorphins in the brain, causing a sensation very similar to that felt following orgasm. So perhaps BDSM can be equivalent to sex, even if it does not involve any. I know that the pain itself isn't necessarily the point; that submission of control is what the submissive gets off on. But either way, you are getting off, so is it really so different from sex?
So here I am, hoping that the internet will show me whether I really do have what it takes to be a Dominant male. I don't yet know all the details required. But I do know that I enjoyed being a Dom, and I know that I would enjoy it again. Would I get off on it? Yes. I did, and I would. Hopefully, that would be enough to convince you.
So if you're still reading at this point, you're probably wondering what I have experience of, what I would like, and what I might like to try. I'll try and answer those as best I can.
I have it on good authority that spanking is boring, so I haven't tried that yet. Although that doesn't mean I wouldn't want to try it. I have done fisting, and absolutely love that. I have done nipple torture, both with my fingers and with nipple clamps - and I really like that. Clothes pegs make very effective torture tools - especially when used on the breasts, nipples, pussy lips and clit.
I like to tie my woman up - tie her arms to the top of the bed, and maybe her feet to the bottom of the bed (although that I haven't yet done). I will also use a blindfold (or simply a pillow over the face) to ensure she cannot see what I'm about to do to her - having that level of control is a big turn on for me.
I have on rare occasions used a gag - a ring-gag to be precise. But I think I would prefer using a ball-gag, although so far I haven't.
I was also introduced to anal sex by my ex - me being the giver, of course. I don't know if this really constitutes BDSM though. I suppose it depends on whether the dom gets off on it, and whether the sub enjoys it. I know that on the rare occasions that I did get to give anal sex, both me and my sub both enjoyed it a lot.
I would like to do a lot more than this though. I would very much like to try wax-play - dripping molten candle-wax over my submissive. I might like to try spanking or flogging, with a leather paddle or flogger.
Apart from that, I'm very open to suggestion. Just one limit that I will impose right now though - no blood play. The thought of cutting on my sub is a very big turn-off. In fact, causing any lasting damage or doing anything that would otherwise be considered GBH is very definitely over the line for me.
One more thing to mention - I do have a bit of a rubber fetish. So far, this has extended to using my hard rubber cock rings, wearing latex gloves while fisting, and of course I get turned on by wearing condoms. I have some rubber-coated chains that I haven't yet had the chance to use. But this fetish of mine is very open for expansion.
So if you're a submissive female, switch female who prefers her submissive side, or a submissive female who needs an extra Dom in her life, then please call on me. I'm open to experimentation as much as you are willing to let me.
BTW - if you are wondering what exactly I'm doing in my primary photo - I'm pouring two litres of neat alcohol into 40 litres of fruit juice to make punch for a chemistry department party.
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