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Male Submissive, 31, Boston, Massachusetts
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Male Dominant, 50, Yakima, Washington
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About applewallpaper
So I'm new at this, but after sometimes trying to have normal relationships, and sometimes just being happy being single, I have come to realize I want what seems to be called a female led relationship. I really want a relationship that is about the woman, making her happy, and also, she makes all the major decisions, and I only decide things like what kind of toaster to get. Not like a completely silent voice, but definitely that the decisions she made would be final.
Now, I really don't want to waste anyone's time, so there's two things I have to put as early as I can, but everything but these two things would be 100% what you want:
I want to be a homemaker, I really really don't want to work outside the home. Now, with that said, I'm not trying to be like a trophy wife, you know, suntanning, lunching with my friends for hours, and watching day time television. I really do mean tending the home, cleaning, making complicated meals. And when I say cleaning, I really mean cleaning. On the interest page, there was something that was like, "intentionally failing at housework so as to incur the dominant's wrath." I don't mean that, I really mean scrubbing the toilet until the ring is gone. Yes, if weren't children involved, these tasks are not quite full time, but it isn't like I would be doing nothing.
Now, is that a dealbreaker? I don't know, I realize in the modern economy, especially with the wage gap, this sort of life is harder than it used to be. And obviously, when I'm still alone, I need to work. If I can't find a woman who both wants this and can afford it, I'll have to reconsider I guess.
(I should say too, if there's a certain housework task you like doing, I know someone who finds washing dishes relaxing, for instance; I certainly wouldn't insist on doing it. Since this is about pleasing you, that would make no sense to me.)
Second, I'm not interested in the bondage part of this, just the submissive part. If you want to tie me up, that's fine, but I really don't want you to hurt me. Like, I was going through the interests lists, and in the three bondage pages, about 85% of things were items I couldn't imagine doing in any circumstance ever. Even light spanking sounds really unpleasant. I don't know, maybe there is some kind of point to punishing a submissive for failure, but I definitely don't want to do those things for their own sake, and I don't understand the appeal of punishment. After all, I'm going to be obedient either way.
If you've somehow made it this far without thinking either, "Too many rules" or "nope not interested" then I want to again say that every other part of the relationship would be about you. The first few pages of the interests pages were about specific hobbies. and for every single one, I would put, "if that's what my woman is interested in, than I will learn what I need to make our time in that hobby enjoyable for her." Like, one choice was Renaissance Fairs, and if that's what she liked, I would learn whatever I could about the time period, the etiquette of the fairs, and what makes them fun, and I imagine there are specific outfits, which I could try to learn how to make, given enough time. Same idea for all the other various interests on the list (and any that aren't of course).
I'm scared to put a photo, I know these sites are always more male than female, so that's a mistake, but I just can't show this to the world yet. If you happen to be interested I can send you a generic picture. But as for appearance, I'm basically generic looking, a little above average I guess. If I were a woman interested in this same lifestyle, and equally attractive, I couldn't land a CEO, but probably some kind of local lawyer. Also, I'm willing to shape my body in whatever direction you want. If you want thin, I'll research diets, and go on one, if you want muscles, I'll go on like p90x. Also, I'd wear what you want. I've never thought about crossdressing in my life, but if that's in your thing, alright, especially in private. This may sound like a lie from a man, but the physical is the least important part of all this, so that's really all I have about that.
Alright, that's what I'm interested in. If it's out there, Super Yay!, but if not, luckily I'm not one of those people who needs to be in a relationship at least.
(And yes, I realize this profile became more personal essay than a string of words designed to present myself in as good a light as possible to strangers, that probably means I'm more likely to chat with people in the lifestyle and meet people, than find any romantic hopes, but maybe making new friends is nice too.) |
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Ok, well, I looked at a bunch of profiles, and seems there are no potential matches out there. Guess it was worth finding out. Time to go back to being okay with being alone. |
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