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Sometimes people wonder where I am as far as what I look for in a relationship. I wrote the list below recently because a straight limits list or negotiation questionnaire totally fails to address what I would really submit for. I'm going to add something seemingly petty and superficial at the top here, because some are not reading to the end of this profile: I generally date men in the 35 to 52 year age bracket, no younger, no older. And LOCAL to Boulder, Colorado. Something not-so-superficial: please read my Writings on this site before you ask about my history and desires. Much of it is answered in those articles. If you still have questions when you are done with those, feel free to write me. What really floats the little man in my boat is a Dom (yes, Dom, not Top, preferably a Master) with hair to his ass, beard and mustache, perhaps a goatee, who would look quite at home on a pirate ship in a poet's shirt or some type of SCA garb. A resonant deep voice helps, and piercing eyes are a plus. That said, I do not play in SCA because I'm not interested in drinking and posturing and roleplaying. Go figure. As a young teen, I had a crush on Gene Wilder. I still think he's hot. Now. With that out of the way - I'd pass Patrick Stewart the crackers in my bed, any day. So, there are exceptions. I know one or two men below my age range and above my age range who can actually meet with me and connect. I want a relationship with more peace than stress, one in which both partners take full and complete responsibility for ourselves without blame, and if we find ourselves blaming, we inquire and find the truth. I want the spontaneous right action that arises when truth is engaged beyond our illusions of me/you, self/other, right/wrong. Oh, is that all? "Same world. Different story." - Steven Sashen "No story. No world." - Byron Katie Anyway, here is a list I came up with when someone asked what I look for in sexual relationship: Connection - that blissful, rolling, energy-exchange that happens when two people are blissed out together and the energy moves between them. Both of us connect in that space. Trust - I want my partner to so thoroughly know and trust me that we can fully relax. Relaxation - relaxing into the moments together. (i.e. no stress, no games, no putting on an act) Just being there and being open. Love - it either can’t be defined or has too many definitions to be meaningful. These 3 less-abused words above combined would be something like it. But i still can’t describe it. Commitment - a stable, monogamous (unless otherwise discussed) commitment to be wtih each other and not fly away at every little upset, but to stay and use The Work, IAM, or whatever works to investigate our own thoughts without blaming the other. I am pretty sure that each person taking full responsibility for themselves is the key, the core, the essence, the essential piece of the relationships I have watched that seem to work really well. I know - where’s the sex? you may be wondering. Without the above, sex is just rubbing the slippery bits together. Submission - I would love to some day be able to trust my partner’s lead, not just in bed, but in other things. To have our values and goals and lifestyles aligned so that we could easily speak for one another - but don’t because “whose business are we in if we do that?” From this trust, flows trust in the bedroom, letting my body bend to your will whether you are spanking my ass or f*king my pussy or talking to me (dirty, sweet, whatever). Yep, still not much on specific sex acts. Those aren’t the most important at all - in sex or in life. Peace first, then let the details arise. Still, I suppose I should give you a list of that sort of thing, too. Just for fun. Orgasms - yeah, that’s not exactly a sex act, either, and honestly, I don’t care how I get there. Never stop at 1. Always a minimum of 2 even for quickies. Sometimes as many as 20. There’s an exception to that, though - at times when I am totally blissed out - it’s all orgasm and counting is pretty meaningless, though there are physical peaks that go with the full-body high. I play for orgasms. Domination - a general description of many acts - getting closer. If you have read this far, and have some perspective, I suppose I can list a few details: I like to be manhandled, spanked, called names, talked to, told what to do, bent over, bent back, turned over, hair grabbed, mouth forced down on your cock or kissed. I like being f-ed in the ass. I like being f-ed in the pussy and in the mouth. I like being f-ed between my breasts and anywhere else you want to f--k me. Come? Anywhere. Come on my tits, my face, in my ass, in my pussy. Just come! I am meant to serve and be used by a man. The only question is: Who? Sure, I like deep and sweet, too. That is a lot harder for me to describe because it varies so much from person to person. After Care - and then I like to cuddle, be held, maybe start all over again. Post comments if you like, and please keep it courteous! I have a regular limits list I can send to interested parties. And by the way: the game called "confuse the sub" is a hard limit. I've recently admitted that my health improves considerably even when I'm just flirting - keeping my libido and hormones up is a Good Thing (tm). So I'm relaxing my boundaries and allowing the possibility of Play Partners for the season, but I'm still looking for one man, and when he shows up, all bets are off. Because it comes up so often, I am only interested in men in the 35 to 52 year range - and it takes someone who is very much on the same page as I am for me to date at all. I put a lot of time and energy into a relationship and I've studied these things my whole life, so I am very good at knowing what will and won't work for me - why? Because I've tried nearly every permutation I've ever thought of. I also want to be perfectly clear: I am no masochist. I am a Hedonist. I have taken more pain than I thought I could... twice... ever... did I enjoy it. That was due to extreme chemistry between me and the Top (thank you, Paula; thank you, Goliath). The endorphin high of pain is not a goal for me because I know faster, easier, less physically damaging ways to be in that space through IAM (Instant Advanced Meditation) and other methods. Professionally: I am listed on Kink Aware Professionals, a resource we should all be aware of: Kink Aware Professionals If you want to know more about me, reading my posts to various discussion groups (below) will give plenty of food for thought. ~ Stacy “What this world needs more of is loving: sweaty, friendly and unashamed.” - Robert A. Heinlein To Sail Beyond The Sunset “Those whose power is genuinely absolute are incorruptible.” - Spider Robinson In both “DeathKiller” and “Time Pressure” WARNING: Sydney University and all other institutions using this site or its associated sites for projects - You do not have permission from me to use any of my profile or pictures in any form or forum both current and future. If you have or do, it will be considered a violation of my privacy and will be subject to legal action. ( I suggest the rest of you post this notice)