How does one go about writing one of these?!?
Perhaps I should begin with what I am not seeking...
I am not seeking to have more children, I have one and want to give birth to no more. If you want a child of your own, and have not had one, you would be better off with another partner.
I am not seeking a play relationship, or a member of an already existing relationship. If you are married or have other partners, I am definitely NOT for you.
I am not seeking to have my life micro managed by a man who feels the need to control every aspect of my daily life. If you have this need, another partner would work much better for you.
I am not seeking Mr. Right for right now. I am seeking Mr. Right for me forever, but not necessarily Mr. Perfect.
I am not seeking an unemployed man. He must be able to not only obtain a J O B, but must also be able to keep a FULL TIME J O B. I can not respect a man incapable of providing for himself, therefore could never let go of control to someone who did not support himself financially.
I am not seeking a man who believes leather is appropriate attire for all occasions.
I am not seeking a man who has not yet done serious soul searching regarding who and what he is, nor do I want one who is unsure of what it is he is looking for in a partner.
I prefer no narrissistic men, please, I have no patience for them!
I do not want one who seeks a "gorean" slave nor one who lives a life where living "gorean" 24/7 is possible.
I seek one who understands the frisson felt from a hand on the back and a gentle request can make one melt immediately. One who understands a look from across a crowded room can say enough to make a blush rise to my cheeks and my knees weak.
What do I want?
I dream of the man who is knowledgable in who and what he is. In fact, so knowledgable he is a sturdy, dependable partner in real life, yet sensitive enough to desire an emotional connection. He should be emotionally healthy. One who is strong enough in his convictions and decisions to stand up to any test or struggle I may provide.
I dream of a man who understands parenting and the commitment it takes and does not try to interfere or supercede my decisions regarding my child. Discussing decisions, when we become a "couple", (if we do) and make certain decisions together, sure; but in the end my child will always be my responsibility. He will have to cultivate a relationship with my child and have a type of "stewardship" to my child but he must understand he will not replace the birth father, my child has a father and does not need another.
I dream of a man who understands I must always work at my occupation simply to feel I contribute to the household. It also does not complicate things later and allows me to always know I have the freedom and ability to care for my child without his income. Besides, men, which of you would want a woman who was so dependant on you she would not leave, because she was incapable of caring for herself and her other responsibilities? How would you know she was there because of love vice necessity?
I dream of a man who understands it is our bed, and not one I will ever request to get into, unless he would rather I never entered our bed again. Likewise one who would like to watch a movie with me beside him on the couch, not on the floor at his feet. Being my Dominant, would not depend on an appearance of being unequal in the relationship. When I meet a Dominant, who I believe deserves the position, I do not need a "visual" reminder while simply being a couple. Either you are my Dominant, or you are not; the fact does not reflect where I sit, sleep, eat, or if I kneel or refer to you as Sir (or some other variant). You either are or you are not.
I dream of a man who knows much can be said with eyes alone. Sure there is verbal communication, however, eyes can tell one much, and say it in a much sexier way!
What am I?
I am an attractive HWP single lady. I enjoy quiet times as much as times with friends and family. I enjoy the simple things in life as well as the more refined things life has to offer. I enjoy humor and laughing. I value people for who they are, not what I want them to be. I am emotionally healthy, and openly acknowledge I have baggage, just as anyone who has lived does. I am not one to jump quickly into a relationship. I am slow and steady, although can be somewhat hesitant. But once one makes it into my circle of affection and you will always be there, because my affection is not given easily.
If you think we may be a match, let me know!
