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It has recently been brought to my attention that I seem "harsh" here. I now correct that misperception: I like puppies. I like sunsets. And, furthermore, if I am crowned, I pledge to use my Mr. Fluffy-Feel-Good crown to work towards World Peace, "Hang In There" kitty posters, and "huggles and smooshie-kissies" for everyone, everywhere, forever and ever.

I note a perplexing, and, most likely, self-defeating trend with respect to "submissive" or "slave" profiles here at CM. Let me confirm, right at the outset, that I know how to read, and that furthermore, given my natural disposition, I am capable of (and, in fact, insist upon) deciding what it is that I shall read. I don't think that I am unique in this respect. Therefore, I find it surprising how many profiles start out by shrieking at me, with the admonition that I must "READ MY ENTIRE PROFILE!!!", etc.? There are so many ways in which this approach is likely to have exactly the opposite of what I assume is the desired effect. And, because I'm such a helpful man, I'll note a few of them here, along with my own suggestions and final word on the matter. "Why You Should Not Shriek At 'Doms' and 'Masters' To READ YOUR ENTIRE PROFILE": 1. Do you really wish to present yourself, as a first impression to others, as a near-hysterical raving harpy? 2. Do you really wish to direct, control, and give orders to your potential Master or Owner, from the first instant of contact, thereby self-selecting for easily-controllable men? 3. Do you really wish to implicitly proclaim that your profile is so banal that, instead of compelling interest on the part of the reader to read it all, instead, you must make it a "requirement."? Instead, I have a suggestion: make your profile interesting.? Imagine the sort of man in whom you would be interested, and write to him. Don't create content for those in whom you are not interested. As for me, when I see "READ MY ENTIRE PROFILE", let me assure you that, to my mind, the only proper response is "I have an even better idea: No."

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An opinion was thoughtfully rendered this morning by a fellow chatter, and while the opinion itself may merit discussion in another post, I have the idea that it may be of more value to describe the simple method by which I evaluate the importance of an opinion. It's clear to me that there are two relevant questions that I ask myself when evaluating an opinion. First, upon reflection, is that which is being alleged true?? Second, does the person holding the opinion "matter?" With respect to the first question: Because an opinion is, by definition, a belief that can't be proven via evidence,? I ask myself, ruthlessly, whether or not there is merit to the opinion. Obviously, the subjective nature of this process is very likely to be flawed, and self-serving. However, short of taking a poll of disinterested parties, there's little else that can be done, so one does one's best to be objective. After all, it is in one's best interest to? "know thyself." With respect to the second question: Clearly, the opinions of those I hold dear, or those within whom I see the strong evidence of reason, wisdom, forthrightness, objectivity, etc., matter. To the degree that a person lacks that status,? or those traits, the importance of that opinion diminishes. A simple-minded function then is as follows: C = T + V Where C = How much I care, T = the truth of the opinion, and V = the value of the individual offering it. As C increases,? so does my concern. For ease of estimating the metric, assume a 1 to 5 scale for each of T and V, where 1 = Not at all, and 5 = To the highest degree. The rule is: if the combination of truth plus value sums to 5 or more, then I'll pay attention. For example: If an opinion rendered about me is completely true, then I'll assign 5 points to T, and, in that case, it doesn't matter who says it, because "C = 5 + V" leads to a minimum of C = 5, for all values of V. Similarly, if someone I care very deeply holds an opinion about me, it will matter, whether true or not,? because "C = T + 5" leads to a minimum of C = 5 for all values of T. All other situations fall somewhere between, and are summed accordingly. I understand that many will find this pedantic in the extreme, but I point out that a benefit of such a process is that it completely eliminates the vexation I might feel from an untrue opinion rendered by someone who just doesn't matter to me.

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