I've dabbled in the D/s are for many years and have learned that dominance and submission take many forms. What works for one doesn't always work for others. It takes time to develop an understanding of each other before any real respect can be given.
It would be nice to find a woman who is looking to explore what D/s can and can not give. I'm not interested in those that want to jump right into submission. I need to learn about her before I can get into the play part of this lifestyle.