We are a fun couple that love to laugh and play together. We have been brought closer by opening our sex life to include others. i love to please him,  love to see him pleased and he loves to watch and share me with others. i hope that we can find a Dom who isn't looking to control the entire situation. My husband is an awesome guy and i do not want him under anyone's control but he's open enough to give a Dom control of me during intimate encounters. We do not and will not have oral or any other type of sex  apart from one another without the full knowledge and consent of the other which is rare and never to be expected.  We want a Dom who has the experience to know how far to push me without causing injury, though I relish little souvenirs left behind, say on my back, to give me a smile long after play has ended. i long for a Dom who is willing to share me with my husband but still hold onto my reigns. Someday, I wish to experience subspace and my body is so incredibly sensitive that i have no doubt that the right individual could take me there. We may be open to the possibility of BDSM encounters beginning with only the Dom and i, leading to my husband being involved if/when sex comes into play. We are not naive individuals, no games, no taking chances on meeting people in private places until we have a good feel for the person, and my deviant mind can smell a rat from miles away. i am not a submissive person in my everyday life, but long to have that place available for me to let go and hand it all over to another that i know will keep me safe. i would love to get involved in the BDSM community. If you read our profile you will see that we are a part of the swing lifestyle in the Metro Detroit area and enjoy new adventures with couples and singles. PLEASE, if you aren't sure of your relationship, if you are dealing with issues in your relationship, wait until you have resolution before you seek to add others to your bedroom. Our first experience went way wrong and we are ready to run on the first inkling of the possibility of drama. i do have long standing insecurities, though it is torturous, i enjoy those who will not allow me to hide. i not only long for the physical aspects but feel a powerful pull to individuals that i feel are dominate, trustworthy, and caring. You know who you are and i hope to be found. We are open to play that isn't related to BDSM with singles and couples.