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| Too straight for the freaks, too freaky for the straights.
ISO one very special sexually dominant man who wants to have a long term romantic relationship with an otherwise normal girl who really loves rough sex and some aspects of BDSM. While I am willing to be accommodating and can enjoy many aspects of a sexuality that includes different aspects of BDSM, and having had some experience, my preferences are simple and I am more than willing to discuss the finer details of my sexual preferences after getting to know you a little bit.
Fundamentally I am a very nice, warm, fuzzy and good person and I seek the same. You will be my King, and I will love you and honor you for the rest of my days. I will be your Queen in public, and your slave girl in private!
I prefer you to be single and local, and willing to meet in person to assess compatibility and chemistry. Since I use my cell for work, I do not easily exchange phone numbers. This is due to past unfortunate experiences NOT how I am feeling about you per say. Happy to explain after we get to know each other, on the other hand, those who bully me or don't show respect for my boundaries at this earliest juncture will not get far with me. If I cannot trust you to respect my limits or treat me with respect now, how can I imagine trusting you to respect my safe word later, when I am truly helpless bound in bed? It’s just not logical.
While I understand there are many types of relationships, personally I am extremely confident and comfortable being a loyal monogamist. Romantically old fashioned, I expect that if a man is interested in me, he will take the initiative and seek me out. I believe in dating as a traditional format for a romantic courtship ritual. I seek a man who also enjoys dating, that is, spending time doing things in the effort to get to know each other on all other levels deeply and fully. I am NOT interested in a 24/7 TPE or BDSM lifestyle. Rather, simply a regular vanilla relationship with someone who also enjoys rough sex and some BDSM play in the bedroom. I am not interested in being controlled or dominated outside of the bedroom.
I understand than many men have a specific "type" that they are attracted to. To that end I can say that I am a small person who is fit and while not "fat" defiantly curvy. I think of my body type as "softly athletic". I have short dark hair, big brown eyes, and light olive skin. If you think I may be your type, a photo is available upon request after giving me a chance to decide if you are someone I want to share my photo with. That is, please be kind and talk to me a bit before expecting one. I am interested in someone who can demonstrate their interest in me as a whole person, and not simply as a sexual object (sexual objectification in the bedroom with an established partner is an entirely different story, of course! :)).
I do not appreciate coarse talk or obscene photos as an initial introduction (in the bedroom alter is great though!). If you cannot treat me with respect, nor speak to me as a civil and mature adult outside of the bedroom, then you will not get mine and I will not respond well. Just because I am on this website does not mean that I am OK with being treated or spoken to crassly. I am on this website because I have certain sexual preferences and am otherwise an intelligent, kind, accomplished adult with real responsibilities and a full life. I am neither gross nor "easy". I understand that may be what some are seeking and what might work with others, and I am not criticizing those that are or do, but that is simply not my style.
I am much more of a Gorean sex slave, NOT so much a glamour/black leather/high heel/short skirt/stockings girly girl. But if you enjoyed the Gore series, watched Star Trek as a kid, or played D&D, then I am YOUR girl! Scantily clad, barefoot, at your feet, Kajira. I love the idea of feeling owned and possessed, of feeling frightened and wanting, of feeling vulnerable, yet safe, and of crying tears of frustration out of a profound sense of joy. Does that make any sense at all?
Things I must have (because I LOVE them SO MUCH) include: rough, violent, forceful sex (a la Play Rape), spankings and face slaps, being pinned down, bondage, and Master/slave role play. However that is not the limit of my interests, it just will depend on how we mesh our interests together and what compromises we decide to make for each other.
Hard limits include: Anything electrical or that would break skin or draw blood (no cutting, piercing, or injections), no scat play, no animals or children, and for me only (I am flying my freak flag here) no cunnilingus and no vibrators, and I am happy to explain it all in detail once we get acquainted and have met.
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The Invitation
Oriah Mountain Dreamer
Canadian Teacher and Author
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It doesn't interest me what you do for a living
I want to know what you ache for
and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart's longing.
It doesn't interest me how old you are
I want to know if you will risk looking like a fool
for love
for your dreams
for the adventure of being alive.
It doesn't interest me what planets are squaring your moon...
I want to know if you have touched the center of your own sorrow
if you have been opened by life's betrayals
or have become shrivelled and closed
from fear of further pain.
I want to know if you can sit with pain
mine or your own
without moving to hide it
or fade it
or fix it.
I want to know if you can be with joy
mine or your own
if you can dance with wildness
and let the ecstasy fill you to the tips of your
fingers and toes
without cautioning us to
be careful
be realistic
to remember the limitations of being human.
It doesn't interest me if the story you are telling me
is true.
I want to know if you can
disappoint another
to be true to yourself.
If you can bear the accusation of betrayal
and not betray your own soul.
If you can be faithless
and therefore trustworthy.
I want to know if you can see Beauty
even when it is not pretty
every day.
And if you can source your own life
from its presence.
I want to know if you can live with failure
yours and mine
and still stand on the edge of the lake
and shout to the silver of the full moon,
"Yes."
It doesn't interest me
to know where you live or how much money you have.
I want to know if you can get up
after a night of grief and despair
weary and bruised to the bone
and do what needs to be done
to feed the children.
It doesn't interest me who you know
or how you came to be here.
I want to know if you will stand
in the center of the fire
with me
and not shrink back.
It doesn't interest me where or what or with whom
you have studied.
I want to know what sustains you
from the inside
when all else falls away.
I want to know if you can be alone
with yourself
and if you truly like the company you keep
in the empty moments.
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THIRD THING:
I am fundamentally an old fashioned romantic girl. If you are sincerely interested in me, it might be helpful to note that I really respond best to a conventional courtship ritual whereby we get to know each other over a period of time via constant contact and dating, that is, spending time together doing things in an effort to learn more about each other and to begin to integrate our lives together.
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The following thoughts may be helpful to those considering contacting me.
- I am seeking unmarried unattached males for a monogamous long term relationship only. If you live more than 25 miles away, are married or polyamourous, a female, have a picture of your penis as a headshot, introduce yourself with some sort of inappropriate or uncalled for verbage, or looking to hook up, and I do not respond to you quickly or positively, this is probably why.
- I am a low maintenance middle aged chic. If you are looking for a girly glamour girl who is willing to wear high heels, stockings, and short skirts, and this is of utmost importance to you, you will be disappointed.
- (I am trying to think of a third thing...things always sound better when you say "and I have three things to say!"...brb!)
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It has been barely a week. I have no picture posted and have not filled out any of the personal preferences lists. My ad is perfunctory at best. Yet, still, I have over 300 emails in my inbox. If I haven't returned your note, try, try again, is all I can suggest. |
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| Age: 30 |
| Speings,
Colorado |
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