AEVanVogt


	aevanh Male Submissive, 34

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	About AEVanVogt Let's be honest; your pussy rules you. If you are the type of woman who enjoys the pleasures of sex and being ruled by a reasonable, loving man, then you are the lady for me. Some things I'm looking for: Age doesn't matter. Young or old makes no difference. Marital status: not important as long as you can get out to meet me. You like to be ked. You don't mind being exposed in public but not in a way that will identify you. It's something you've always dreamed about -- running around naked in public -- but you've been reluctant to do it because you are afraid it will come back to haunt you. With me, you will be protected. You like bondage. You have a good sense of humor. You are glad to wear a collar or leash in public but have it concealed so that only I know it's there. You have a full bush of pubic hair. If not, you are willing to let your pubes grow so that you look natural, even if your pubes are scraggly. You are thrilled to dress like a slut when I ask you. And you are fine with being a slut for me in private -- or anonymously at a club. You don't know the meaning of "panties." That's why you wear none in my presence. Your pussy is a lot more important to you than people realize. You want it pampered, rubbed, fucked, and licked by someone who knows and understands the art well and doesn't have to be asked. You don't mind being totally naked in front of me, in private, and being put to work frequently as a provider of long, delightful sucking and fucking. You are a tramp but very few people know it. You just want the chance to show how nasty you can be. If you agree with a majority of these points, write to me. Use your own words, but say, "If I meet you and feel strongly for you, I am willing to be dominated by you and fucked at will. Please don't ask me if I want to have sex because it will be entirely your decision, sir. I am interested in meeting you for coffee with the being to become your cock slave." You should not mind being degraded or ked because, in private, I will worship you and your body. The BDSM elements of our relationship will be for fun. But in all seriousness, it will be what follows in private the dictates the relationship. If most of this describes you, contact me. It should be worth it just to talk and see where we stand. I want a woman who admits to her own desires. She doesn't have to be a good conversationalist or hold an advanced degree in physics. She just wants to be a total whore for me.

I am seeking a princess who feels good about losing to the "forces of evil," to succumb to my desires without question. So many women claim to be submissive, but only a few really are. I am looking for a woman who wants to feel helpless at my hands, to be degraded happily, touched in all ways without permission.
She will be the woman that her mother warned her against, a slut-whore, tied up, trussed and humiliated. She will feel good about being slapped around, having her tits squeezed and living as a helpless fuck slave.
Sex is the ability to communicate with all people on a non-verbal level. My subbie will communicate with me exquisitely.

Pride goeth before a fall.

For all of you female supremacists out there, this is a very informative blog I found: http://werewolfking.blogspot.com

I want to make note of the passing of a dear friend whose profile has been on this list longer than mine. She was a wonderful human being, and I will miss her.

"However offensive and insulting his conduct may have been, O's love for René remained unchanged. She considered herself fortunate to count enough in his eyes for him to derive pleasure from offending her, as believers give thanks to God for humbling them." -- Story of O

Isn't it the truth that some subs never understand this? Some may be more dominant than submissive and not know it.

Very cool story. Enjoy!

http://risk-show.com/podcast/the-same-brand-of-pervert/

Something about ">this song is highly significant to me. Every line has meaning.

Beauty without the beloved is like a sword through the heart.

— D.G. Rosetti

"Nothing is more clear than that every plot, worth the name, must be elaborated to its denouement before anything be attempted with the pen. It is only with the denouement constantly in view that we can give a plot its indispensable air of consequence, or causation, by making the incidents, and especially the tone at all points, tend to the development of the intention." Poe, The Philosophy of Composition

"Most people are other people. Their thoughts are someone else's opinions, their lives a mimicry, their passions a quotation." Oscar Wilde

What's the point of D/s? Is it to find a place for two people's reciprocal pathologies, or to experience something beautiful and wonderful, something that was never experienced before?

How deeply should a Dom enter into a sub's life? Should he control every aspect of her life? Should she ask him everything before she does it? Does he tell her to change her career, treat her children differently, change her whole approach to life? The smart Dom knows with which parts to affect change and which to leave alone. I think no Dom is perfect, and the smart Dom is the one who admits that he has a long road to go to find perfection -- and probably never will. But there is no reason why he cannot get closer to it day by day.

I totally take advantage of your love for me. I use it to drive you crazy. You will never escape the insanity I cause in your life. You will never be at ease. You will always wonder what I have planned for you next. You will always live in a state of desperation for me. You will never be satisfied. You will always be reaching out to me and wondering if you can get past each frustrating moment. Your life will always be punctuated with a question mark. But you will live the passion you always wanted. You will have moments of excruciatingly delightful bliss. You will live for each contact, each intimate moment, each look, each touch, each word, each punishing blow, but also each beat of your own heart to reassure yourself that you are still alive. That will be your happiness. Your owner.

I love to torture women, but not always physically.

The great thing about BDSM is the rules! Every problem is solved with them (well, most are at least). One person is the Dom; the other the sub. It eliminates the social basketball we find so often in the vanilla world.

There is nothing as beautiful as a true BDSM relationship. All things are settled. Life is pure and sweet. Things are wild and crazy, but they are also loving and sensitive. I love to have fun with my sub -- to be playful with her, to make her feel the center of attention, because she is...

Is there room for jealousy in BDSM? Or is jealousy what drives the lifestyle? Can I be friends with a Domme? With a sub? And not act like a master to them? What is my level of tolerance and toleration? Will I be agreeable to allow the idea of something novel without aggressively controlling the source?

It's amazing how BDSM encompasses the whole world. It's about so much more than whips and chains. It's a lifestyle. It's a commitment, and to me, it's for life.

What is the status of each Dom(me) and sub? In other words, what does their outside partnership situation have to do with BDSM? A lot of people would say "plenty!" In other words, can a sub be married to a vanilla guy and have an outside Dom who controls much of her life? What kind of relationship must the sub have with her husband? How often can she see the Dom, and what would they do that separates the two males in her life? I find that, on Callarme, many women are seeking a permanent singular relationship with their Dom. In other words, is submission for some women just another word for marriage? Could she be married or have a LTR with someone and still be a slave or a sub to a Dom? Of course, a lot would have to be discussed with the vanillla man in her life, but in many cases, I bet it wouldn't be discussed at all. So we really have two separate situations. First, the so-called cheating wife. She wants to have a Dom control her but doesn't want to tell her husband. In a lot of cases, she may be right because the spouse would hit the roof. In others, however, she might find the husband quite (surprisingly) understanding and even enthusiastic. Problem is, she may never find out because she doesn't ask. Second, there is the woman who finds BDSM as a way to meet men. A Domme I know tellls me she can't open her mail without finding scores of letters from unknown men who want to meet her, submit to her for a day or two while they are in town, or just stand in line to be her next subbie. It isn't the same for Doms. The number of free-floating female subs is part of a far smaller universe out there. So, for example, when a Domme looks for male subs, she finds perhaps a hundred who are online when she checks the various profiles. When a Dom check the female submissive profiles, he find one or two online, the next one only an hour ago, the the next two days before and so on. This means the size of the female submissive universe is perhaps a hundredth of the male sub audience. Is this because of the different way men and women view BDSM -- or sex? I think it has a lot to do with sex. Men tend to be more out there, allowing almost anything, especially with female Dommes. Women, however, always seem to be on guard, ready to step back, rarely flagrant and open, and, as a result, simply in lower numbers on collarme. So it is not a fair-and-square situation. In my opinion Doms have to "create" their own subs. In other words, they have to find women and discuss with them what life might be like as a sub, have them read up on the topic, and then try it tentatively. Only that way can Doms find a supply of female subs.

How does BDSM compare with swinging? I think most people who have experienced both lifestyles can draw some comparisons. Both lifestyles usually have a sexual component, even thugh some confirmed BDSMers claim that it is the bondage, the punishment and the humiliation that are the key parts of their interest. Yet others believe that BDSM is simply a form of foreplay, and that eventually it leads to actual sexual intercourse. So how can this be related to swinging, which exists mainly for intercourse? That question can be answered more easily in regard to the practical application of the two lifestyles. In fact, BDSM, like swinging, has a public component. While both lifestyles can exist in private quarters (hotels, private homes etc.) a large part of BDSM is oriented toward clubs that can house scores or hundreds of practioners at the same time, contain expensive and elaborate equipment and in effect "put on a show." Swinging too exists in swingers' clubs, also with large numbers of people, though there are also private parties. The pairing off seems similar too. Both lifestyles have singles who are constantly searching for partners (or not) and couples who often meet up with other couples. But in the most basic sense, both lifestyles involve pairings of people (two or more), and sex is at least a possibility. So it would not be absurd for a Dom to take his sub to a swingers club and enjoy the festivities. The sub would act as his partner, perhaps with less obeisance outwardly, and seem to be more of a swinging partner than a casual observer. Too, there is crossover. It isn't odd to see swingers dressed in typical BDSM garb, though often it is reduced in intensity somewhat. And swingers can easily go to a BDSM club for the rich flavor of bondage and submission that is shown there. At the most basic level, BDSM and swinging are large, elaborately designed parties where almost anything can happen. Of course, some BDSM clubs proscribe sex, but some do not. In any event, the atmosphere can be similar, the people involved can be forward-thinking and unafraid to show their stuff (in other words, strut), and enjoy themselves without regard to what the vanilla society thinks. So I think there is an itimate connection, and BDSMers can be seen crossing over into swinging whever they please, and with little fanfare. And vice versa.

Do email and the telephone play a big role in BDSM? I think they do, especially at online sites like this one. In the experiences I have had in BDSM, I found email, listservs and websites to be invaluable. I can't imagine what people must have done in the "old days" before these tehcnological innovations were available. Once you enter your information, it can circulate far beyond your own ability to find people in person. Evetually, someone -- anyone -- finds you, or vice versa, and you end up in a potential real-time meeting. Munches are great as well, but I think electronic media expand your ability to find people. Don't get me wrong, I found a very nice sub at a local munch, more than one actually, and have had some excellent friendship and comfort. But I think the power of the electron outweighs personal searches for locating compatible people. The world of BDSM is full of real believers -- as well as a lot of assholes. It's hard to put your name out there and just take the first thing that comes along. But websites, etc. give you power --- power to look, examine, chooose, and eventually, find. So my advice to anyone seeking a partner is to use all means possible, and use the electronic media to write your butt off. Send e-letters, write journals (like this one) and and troll the internet for the right person or people.

It's so strange to have a journal on a site like this. I wonder who will read it; what reactions they will have; what they might think of me. How to orient this journal to all types of people is the real challenge. The key, obviously, is to be quite general and to keep to the subject, which, of course, is BDSM. I have had a good deal of experience in this area; some experiences were so wonderful it seemed as though the stars were clashing together above me. Other times, I felt so awful that nothing could compare with my sadness. But that is what makes BDSM so challenging. It has very strong highs and lows. That is why I am into it. They say that all great thoughts come from the heart, and I feel in a mood to have some of those kinds of thoughts. So, heart, get working. Why does BDSM provide such highs? (We'll get to the lows when I feel a little better). BDSM seems to accentuate the thrills of everyday life. It's not a quiet evening together; it's a challenge to enjoy life more fully. Though not annoying, this challenge offers a physical and intellectual manner to work out thoughts in the Dom's head; the sub, equally challenged by the situation, is required to use her imagination to match the Dom's ideas. So both work hard. True, it might be better to watch some boring TV show or turning in early, but to me, life is short and every moment is crucial. So why waste any of it? With BDSM, a couple can get closer to the ideal of spending as much time in meaningful relation to each other, of exploring each other's thoughts and bodies, and meshing in a way not possible in the so-caled vanilla lifestyle. Not to knock it, the vanillla life is wonderful in that a couple can put an end to the gamesmanship of BDSM and just enjoy each other's company quietly. There is a lot to be said for that. I see BDSM as having qualities of both lifestyles. There is no reason, for example, why a wild-eyed BDSM couple can't put it aside one night and just curl up next to each other, read awhile, talk about their day and have enjoyable sex before turning in. There is room for that in BDSM. But with BDSM, the alternative exists for something more. I see BDSM as a kind of door into a different existence. There are rules (made only between the two and not derivative of anyone else's concept of BDSM) and the two can meet each other in a strange kind of equality. He dreams up challenges, humiliations or pain for her, and she uses her wonderful mind to react to his instincts. The two reach a harmony that is not possible in any other belief. Though BDSM is no meta-narrative of life (it can't explain everything), it definitely is post-modern in that it takes from whatever source it needs, and the people involved make it up in a way that must be unique to them. For that, I will always be thankful that someone conceptualized BDSM, and today we have this tool (only one of many) to reach a higher level of our existance.

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