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About Me
I'm a 34 year old creative professional who values intelligence, integrity, and authenticity. I am a leadership and executive coach, specializing in mindfulness, behavioral psychology, and NLP. I work throughout the United States and Australia.
I take care of myself, enjoy my food and coffee, and aim to be healthy across the board, rather than a zealot in one particular area. I work for myself and am very driven and ambitious. I love psychology, behavioral economics, design, creative self-expression, and problem solving.
I read a lot, am a designer by trade, and deeply care for quality over quantity. I am particular about most things in life, and for those who love protocol, I crave structure, rituals, and demands of high attention to detail.
Language matters greatly to me, and nothing excites me more than a strong woman who knows how to masterfully craft her words and approach to influence those around her. I have an ironic/black/sarcastic and witty sense of humor, am intensely passionate about the things that matter to me, yet lighthearted enough to let the small things go.
I am assertive in my normal life, but hope to find that one special woman with whom I can drop my guard, my ego, and my pride. I'm would consider myself more of the wild horse to break and tame, rather than the reliable mule who goes wherever a firm hand tells it to.
That said, once that trust has been earned with the one right person, I will be fiercely loyal, hard working, and dedicated. I am probably most appealing to a woman who likes to break-in and shape her men rather than expect compliance without building trust, simply because she identifies as Dominant.
My Perspective
I yearn for a relationship where two people are comfortable in who they are, who know what they want, and who can openly and safely communicate with one another. Each with clear roles that are dutifully maintained with rituals/tools/processes to ensure that each sticks to their lane, and leaving both deeply fulfilled in their respective purpose.
As a sub/slave, I genuinely feel content and valuable when serving my partner, and fulfilling her wants, needs, and desires. I do require feedback and communication however to complete that emotional circle.
As a Dom/Mistress, I imagine she would feel content and valuable when leading and guiding (or possibly controlling) her partner to have her wants, needs, and desires fulfilled. And she too needing feedback and communication to complete her emotional circle.
I view this as a psychological journey that can bring two people very close together, or drive them apart if not handled with care and skill. My ideal relationship is one that is vanilla on the outside (for family, work, public, community stuff), but is invisibly D/s to the naked eye, and unmistakably D/s behind closed doors. A level of intimacy and privacy that is for no-other, and goes deeper and darker than anyone could imagine.
I want a lifestyle relationship with someone who may want to build a business, have a family, and spend time doing things that inspire, entertain, and empower one another. I am also a realist in that we both have friends, careers, ideas, ambitions, family, and hopes and dreams, while also being flawed humans who fail and need to grow.
In a D/s relationship, to me, it’s still a day to day relationship that needs love, patience, and room for the other to be human.
My sexuality
I am bi-sexual but am only emotionally attracted to strong women. For only certain men is it a pure physical attraction. I desire an authentically powerful woman (her sense of 'being', not 'doing'), and having to work hard to please for her affection, but clearly valued when I do.
I have my sexual drivers including humiliation, cuckolding, chastity, tease/denial, worship, pegging, and discipline, but these are not requirements in the least. More just hoping to find a kinky partner who also enjoys these things rather than the vanilla relationships I’ve had most of my life. I'm not looking for Pro Dommes or a private porn star, but rather hope to find someone who has a dirty/kinky streak and who may want all or some of these things for themselves.
How I can add value to your life
Based on the book, the Five Love Languages, I am an Acts of Service guy who gives love by working and being of valuable service to others. If it genuinely makes her happy, then it makes me happy. I do however need clear physical and verbal feedback so I know where I went well, and where I could improve.
Here’s a list of the following things I can do to make your life more enjoyable, successful, efficient, pleasurable, rewarding, and easier:
- I can cook and pride myself on cleaning up while cooking to have a clean sink by the time we plate
- I can play guitar, piano, and sing - and I’m not half bad at it.
- I can grill/bbq, prepare, organize and clean up after parties
- I can build and fix most things around the house and car.
- I’m generally very handy and inventive.
- I can fix most computer and phone issues whether fixing a broken screen, updating software, or retrieving lost data
- I am a METICULOUS cleaner. I probably have OCD with this. I even did it professionally for a while back in the day.
- I am well-read, informed, and educated on current affairs so I will offer engaging conversation
- I am social, comfortable with public speaking, and meeting new people
- I am adaptable in attire and etiquette from country clubs to golf courses, to churches, to dive bars to festivals etc
- I grew up with training regarding social graces and etiquette (my family was a bit upperclass)
- I enjoy and am strong at researching anything you like from products to services, to information and history.
- I grew up doing laundry, sewing, and mending. I understand delicates from colors, whites, knits, and linen.
- I am good at grocery shopping, home preparation (after a trip), and buying gifts
- I am natural and engaging with conversation
- I have strong business skills and experience including marketing, product strategy, HR, leadership, and design
- I am strong at interior design and graphic design
- I can design and build elaborate systems ranging from a creative BDSM device to wiring a house
- I have a well-paid career, although it can be demanding of my time - to be negotiated with you
- I am highly competent with using and configuring modern technology, software, and hardware
- I am original in date night ideas, holidays, and special events
- I’m organized, structured, and process-oriented, while also flexible and adaptable to change
- I’m a strong communicator and always seek to clarify to understand.
- I’m not too proud for feedback, input, clarification, or questioning, especially when they are your wants/needs
- I am highly proficient at facilitating groups of people in workshops
Next Steps
I am not at all new to BDSM, D/s, kink etc, but I am new to D/s relationships with Dominant women.
It’s been a minefield trying to navigate all the nuances I’m supposed to automatically know/understand about this lifestyle, but clearly don’t. I’m also not looking for a professional Domme, but rather a lifestyle Dominant woman wanting a live-in sub/slave, and/or an emotional relationship/partnership.
Please be patient with me as I’m a fast learner. My end game is not to offend or waste your time, but to find the one right person with whom I can feel safe and free to submit my entire being to, and dedicate all my energy into fulfilling their needs, wants, and desires with quality and integrity. I am human – and so are you. Patience, flexibility, and commitment are required for anything worth building.
I know some women have become threatened because I have spoken with others even via chat. Please know that I will be monogamous/poly/denied – whatever you require of me – ONCE we are in an agreement/relationship and that is what you want. Until then, none of us have enough time on this earth to spin our wheels with people who don’t intend to follow through on their word.
Like you, I also know my worth and see a D/s relationship not as one to grovel in, but as one where both people are proud and fully self-expressed in their roles, and can find love, joy, and fulfillment in the dynamic of serving and being served.
Please feel free to message me if this sounds compatible with what you are looking for.
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