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	About accommondator Im a very successful professional who simply supplicates to the general supremacy that a Dominant Woman has over me. Im not really into fetishes as such, or at least not promoting or encouraging what fetishes turn me on. I believe that only turns into just more selfish focus on what a submissive wants, and I believe that all focus should be on the wants and desiresof to whom I belong. Im pretty simple in that what I want is what is pleasing for my owner. Im not so naive to not see that a Woman is often (but by no means always) attracted to the bad boy (effectively, the Bull) - and by being an accommodator to her I lose all possibility of being that, which is something Ive come to accept. I believe what I have to offer a Woman is a guy that will always be thereregardless of what (or whom!) they do, another confirmation of their supremacy and desirability, even if Im never the challenge. The Bull may be someone... whom is a regular part of her life, or whom she may have a desire to step out with occasionally... or, of course, whom she secretly craves (if not just to try to change for the better.) Lets put it this way - accommodators generally arent the focus of Womans romantic attention however, she may be unnerved if she doesnt have an accommodator handy, whether to please her OR her Bull. That person would be me. Im an accommodator in that it reminded me of an old saying - when a man accommodates in a relationship, a man needs to remember the equivalence accommodate commode in other words, when a man accommodates excessively in a relationship, the relationship may likely end up in the crapper! Now I think its funny because I believe the primary job of submissive men is to accommodate to the Woman whom owns him, and Im not afraid to advertise that what you will get from me is accommodation ad infinitum. Do I really believe that the relationship will end up in the crapper? Not really, as long as I know my place in their life. About me. Im not particularly physically hardcore but as a male feminist I do think I separate myself from society in that I believe that its time for woman and men to switch places in terms of what has been societal norms, probably from a more extreme perspective. It is Woman that should rule the world... What Im looking for is that Dominant Woman to whom I will give my heart and soul, unconditionally. They alone will set the rules, and I will look to them for direction in how to best serve and be one of their men. I feel that its important that, while theyd always want me to be utterly and unconditionally devoted, Id make my devotion as comfortable as possible in that I realize that Im perhaps but one source of support or satisfaction for them. A submissive must never hinder or interfere with the other, perhaps more important, pleasures in a Superior Womans life, either now or as they appear in the future. A submissive may always be considered supplemental for his adored! Mutual trust is important Id trust that my owner will be accepting and appreciative of my dedication and devotion. And my owner would trust that whatever they do, I will always be there, unconditionally. The bottom line is that I can see how in the normal cycle of things, a submissive would accept that the Woman he adores should feed on him, almost as her prey. As such, a submissives life winds down. In that cycle the Woman is nourished - as his meaning in life from that point on is nothing more than to promote his owners future at the sacrifice and ultimate disposal of his own.

Once again I am realizing that my latent desire for a Dominant Man rears itself when a woman I desire goes for the Guy who does not show weakness and wimpiness as I do, that He has what she wants and needs. The pain I feel isn't necessarily in losing her, but maybe in the jealousy I feel... that I am not the one who has my mouth around His cock. That it is not me on the receiving end of whom He wants to penetrate.

That is when I realize sometimes that I want and deserve nothing more than being on my knees at the feet of the Man who is my Superior

Being cuckolded is what you do as you and the Woman you adore prepare to have you and your future sacrificed and ended for the betterment of Her life and future.

That a Woman is full of the seed of a Real Man, Yet all the while is full of the money of men who adore and worship Her, is the natural order of things.

Ultimately looking for a Woman with the temperament, caring, cruelty and motivation to do what it takes to achieve COMPLETE devouring. And knows She's deserving of reaping such benefits.

I know I really only have one shot at this.

It has not been lost on me that when a guy had stepped out with or "stole" my gf, that maybe the despair and jealousy I felt was not solely in regard to her. But rather, perhaps my feelings were also reflecting my... latent desires. That possibly - unleashed by "visualizing" how he was probably... fucking the woman I adore - the jealousy I felt was, at least on some level, my wishing that I, too, was able to kneel before Him, receiving and pleasuring the Guy whom, as shown by her apparent desires, was clearly my Superior.

It seems the more Someone tends to exhibit Their superiority over me immediately, the more I crave to be kneeling before Them.

If you are not deserving of anything, how can one's purpose in life be realized without giving your life away to Someone who actually is deserving?

From what I've seen, a man who submits to a Woman should never assume he will have Her respect. Actually, in my experience a man who submits to a Woman should never be surprised by the opposite - Her disrespect, Her taking you for granted, if not Her distain. I'm sure not always, not every time, but to EXPECT Her respect is disrespectful to Her. Still, it is always expected that you will kiss Her ass; She is your world, your everything. Once again, this only exemplifies how double standards are the norm.

This is to the point that in the intimacy of the involvement W/we can explore the possibility of Her devouring me; sometimes a submissive needs to understand that ultimately he should be sacrificed for the advancement and benefit of the future of the Woman he adores and worships.

It's really pretty simple. A woman may have two types of men in her life: the Alpha - the man whom she wants to be with in the "carnal desires" sort of way, and the beta - who is there to support her and provide for her, even if her desire for the Alpha goes down to her "loins." Clearly, I fall into the beta category; it is just something to which I am willing to admit, and succumb.

Castration seems oddly enticing. Would I ever be in love with a Woman enough to be willing to do this?

There's something about the idea of the Woman to whom you've given your soul... possessing your balls in Her "pickle jar", whether figuratively or literally...

What I am looking for is to be life changing - for both of us. Admittedly, life changing in very disparate ways.

This is about a Dominant Woman devouring a man - mind, body, spirit - as well as ultimately assuming his worldly possessions. It is not "about" money; but obviously there is no denying that money becomes a factor. To the conqueror go the spoils.

While for the Woman who will devour me it is just a means by which Her life is nourished and advanced - I recognize that I ultimately only have one shot at this. Thus it's most advantageous that we maximize the experience - which is hopefully to experience "the dance" in real time, or move it to that plateau as quickly as possible.

I know the Woman that is right for me delights in the concept of a man that's willing to surrender in a way that goes beyond all sanity, and delights at the idea of irreversible surrender of Her prey on a more personal level.

A submissive possessed by a woman might be considered a kind of "manifest destiny." He may find he'll have no ultimate reprieve from his suffering, which may last eternally - only intensifying over time as his desire for her strengthens; and her continued deification elevates her to ever more exalted heights.

These are indicative of a D/s involvement in its rawest form. That we might be helplessly drawn into such an involvement - regardless of which side of the fence we fall - reveals how grounded we may be with our most innate, primal aspects of ourselves.

An evolved, introspective Dominant woman and submissive man might not be able to help but allow their temptations to sweep them up into what is nature's way, eliciting a mutual gratification that awaits the journey to their polar opposite destinations; a journey perhaps borne of caring and communication - an understanding as she openly embarks upon sucking your very life's juices from you.

What does it mean to be devoured by a woman? I mean truly and absolutely devoured?

A man at one point in his life recognizes that there is a raw vulnerablility in him. That with the right woman with the right combination of allure, compassion, and cruelty, you will not help but be utterly helpless to her. She will comfort you as you realize what you are and were meant to be - a sacrificial lamb there to serve her purposes in her path in life.

So there you are, dazed and lost and helpless... you fall into a state of oblivion with fulfillment knowing you have served a purpose in what was your existence - her. And you will feel immeasurable contentment knowing you will be eternally her's.

I understand that typically men don't want to be hurt. But there comes a time that a man realizes he must accept being hurt by a woman - again, and again, and again. And he may find that it is completely natural to let go and lay down before her, so that she may freely do as she must...

What is the best case that I can make for why a man would want to be submissive?

What better opportunity could there be to feel such intense depth of desire and passion for my superior, who is so incredibly deserving! Is giving up one's existence in drinking from the cup of these emotions worth it? You know my answer would be...

Unconditional love is a submissive's ultimate destination, to me a place of maximized fulfillment.

He has the responsibility to show that he will be totally hers, regardless of what she does or how badly she treats him, or even how selfishly she acts. His dedication to her is unwavering.

And if she does make it difficult for him to be so devoted, he has the chance to show her that his love for her is in fact unconditional. In that way she is wonderful that she allows him the opportunity to experience and appreciate the depth of his love for her, and for that he'd owe her everything.

I think a common misperception is that to be a submissive is to be weak. While that may sometimes be true (or may even most often be true), to be submissive from a state of choice is a whole different matter.

If it is a man's choice to let his dominant walk all over him, then his mind can be strong enough to override contrarian stimuli from his body, spirit, mind - anywhere from which objections may originate. If it is a choice he freely makes, then it is a choice he is free to rescind - although his better self knows that is something he would never do once he has committed. Because such a man is working from principle, he can come from what is truly important - the woman he adores.

A martyr will sacrifice, but by definition not because he is weak. But only because he is strong.

It occurs to me that by focusing on those things that make you feel utterly powerless to a dominant woman, a submissive can be in the right frame of mind to write his thoughts about his superior and about how he's helplessness to not do anything but let go in surrender to her - his love letter to her, so to say.

Motivating factor: That in one small way at the very least, my service and sacrifice in submitting to a superior woman may be made in reparation for all arrogant, egotistical men she's had to deal with over the years. It is only fair!

In the best of all worlds, a submissive should be willing to do ANYTHING the woman he adores wants or asks of him - limited only by the realm of her imagination, and her inclination to indulge in what are her deepest, darkest desires. It is living on this edge that makes for real fulfillment for both parties.

However, it's not about money; if that's all that's intended, it'll never work. What I seek is a journey, where we share the experience of absolute TPE, even if it leads to very different destinations. But then again, admittedly it might be difficult to separate out money as a factor in the journey.

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