AaJay

Just kind of in a funk.  Looking and looking and looking, but for a place where people who enjoy being physically and mentally dominated, there seems to be a very limited number of "legitimate" subs willing to engage a simple dialogue with someone else.  I consider my attempts an honest effort, yet people who claim to be "slaves" and "submissives, are just playing around.  I'm not playing!  I want to be a better Master, and people who are not as serious as I am (or at least willing to try and be) are holding me back from that.If you don't understand that then you are kidding yourself and negating your purpose for being here. 

In reading through everybody's profiles, it makes me wonder what truly is the difference between someone who simply really enjoys rough sex and someone who is a true to the definition Dominant?  Or is there one?  I know most people on this site will laugh at that question, but to what extent must you take part in order for you to have "arrived"?  Don't get me wrong, I LOVE a rough little quickie, but would LOVE it even more to have someone on all fours begging and pleading for more of whatever dastardly little task I can come up with for my pleasure or entertainment at their expense.  I'm not trying to justify my own sexual existence or identity, because I really couldn't give a flying fuck what anybody thinks or labels me as.  I just thought it interesting to juxtapose those two concepts and see what the difference actually is.  Any thoughts, I?d be interested to hear?