note this is strictly my own personal opinion based on my relationships, not meant to be a guide or rules for anyone else.
 A submissive (to me) is someone who is or has a desire to be submissive to another, or a submissive personality or chooses a submissive role within a relationship.
  A slave (to me) is someone who has a submissive desire and has entered into a relationship with a dominant personality and has grown in the relationship to a degree of trust and communication, that they feel comfortable giving 100% of their trust to the dominant person. They trust that the dominant partner will not harm them so they offer up their limits, or safeword (if they had them), as no longer needed, they have complete and unwavering trust in their dominant partner so they offer up their bodies and soul as property to the dominant partner.

how to met and grow into a releationship with a female dominant.

First and foremost, be realistic... ..Chances are the dominant lady whom you meet will NOT look like the ones in the magazines, just like in vanilla life not everyone looks like they fell out of playboy. Dominant females come in all shapes, sizes, ages and colors. Don't assume that every female dominant out their will match with your interests, or desires. Don't assume she will have a full leather and latex wardrobe to slink around in for you, or a well stocked dungeon with mood lighting, Dominant females are normal people with normal lives, they have jobs, families, and friends. Also.... just becouse you state "hey I am a male sub looking" don't think you will be flooded with offers from ladies jumping at the chance to be with you. You have to earn their attention.Now, how do your earn their attention? well, be a gentleman, be polite, be interesting, be clean and neat, no woman wants to be in the company of a rude, boorish, smelly guy. You see a lady at a event, ask someone you know if they know her and can introduce you to her, approuch her and BE POLITE, do not call her mistress, do not kneel at her feet and say I want to be your slave. Tell her you admired her skill, or her hair or her eyes, or such from across the room and you wanted to met her. If she is at a table, ask to join her (do not assume it is ok to park your tush down and start babbling). Ask her questions about herself, so you can learn about her. Do not make it like a interrigation or a interview. Do not blather on about what you want her to do to you. Find out if she is perhaps seeking someone..... if she is keep talking..... . if not do not just bolt and run, be polite, be nice, perhaps she knows someone who is and if your nice she might tell them about you. Oh yes, and be HONEST. If she is seeking someone, make your self desirable with out being slimey, ask her if she would care for a soda or a water, go get it.....make her see you could be useful in her life. Chat with her, find out some of her interests ( not just S&M) if you are still interested and so is she, ask her if she would care to join you for coffee/lunch/ dinner, if she says yes, offer her your phone number.So does alot of this sound familiar? kind of like dating in the vanilla world? thats becouse it is, if you are looking for a realationship, not just a quick play partner, it is very much the same.

Alexandra ~

 How NOT to Impress a female dominant...

Female dominants are people, not dress up bondage barbies just sitting around waiting for you to allow them to play with you. Do not send cock pictures, or urggggg the ever popular butt plug up the ass picture. Do not send mass emails to every female dominant in your area.... we do talk to each other, and we can recognize a mass email faster then you can say deleate. Don't start off any communication with "I want" "I am looking for" "I want you to do to me" "I have a ___ inch dick" " "I want to orally satisfy you" " I want you to invite over 10 other female dominants so I can serve as their sex slave too" or my personal fav, the challenge. "your not dom enough to top me, bla bla bla" pretty much all these will get your emails placed in a very special warm place called the trash can. Do not type out your fantasy and send it to us as a intro, here's a clue..... we don't care.....we will read it, laugh at it.... maybe forward it to a couple friends so they can laugh at it too..... then yes, it ends up with the rest in the trash. Do not say your have read our profiles if you have not, we do have brains we can figure it out. If we are not important enough for you to spend 1.1 mins reading our profiles then there really is no reason for you to write. Do not type things in text speak.. if you are too lazy to type out you, instead of U then your probably too lazy to carry out tasks.

Alexandra ~

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