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I have been married for 11 years to a wonderful and loving man. I also have a sub, Daniel. he is mine and we see each other when we can because he lives 2 hours away.
I learned BDSM from my ex husband about 23 years ago. We lived it for about a year and then he got sick, and life took me away from BDSM.
My husband, my Daniel and I are Army at heart. Daniel and I were in the same Army unit under my husband Dwight. We all deployed at the same time in 2005. Now Daniel retired, I am out and my husband is still in.
Daniel has been my closest friend for 13 years or so. Last year while my husband was deployed, I found out Daniel had a fantasy about pain, so I offered to help. We started playing and it has been great. We switched a few times, and it was also great, but it messes with my head, I hate giving up control.
Now my husband has returned and we have talked at length about BDSM. He is ok with Daniel being my sub. He is curious and is learning about BDSM. I have been very surprised by his interest and I am very excited about what is ahead for us.
Now we have come to a point in which we are considering adding a third to our marriage. He has asked for a threesome since years ago, and I had agreed but he kept deploying. Now I asked him if I can have a pet. I would love to find a little I can love and take care of. Someone who can be a permanent and integral part of our marriage. But ultimately she would be mine and I would be responsible for her. This will not change my situation with Daniel, he will always be mine.
I myself am very open and up front with people. I have a big mouth and speak my mind. I have a big heart and love my friends dearly. I am outgoing, fun and goofy. I also am a person who takes everything I do seriously. I love art, photography, crochet, pottery, things like that. I love animals, and have a few at home that are very loved: one little dog 3 cats, fish and one bunny.
I don't watch much TV unless it's on. Most of what we watch is NCIS. I despise reality shows and TV that kills my brain cells. My major in college was criminal justice and now I am going to school for my BA in psychology. I am intrigued by criminal minds. When I was in the Army I was Military police and absolutely loved the training.
As for BDSM it is something I love and I take seriously. I learned it old style long ago. What was taught to me was mostly psychological, and not about pain but about helping a sub grow. My style now is coming together balancing pain with the psychological aspect, and I am continuously learning. Oh and I truly strongly believe the focus on BDSM not about sex. To me the denial of it at the time of play is part of it, and I want to keep both separate.
Any questions just ask, I am open and friendly.
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