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Slightly Updated 02.25.13
Please read thru to the end.
PLEASE READ EVERYTHING BELOW BEFORE CONTACTING ME. FOLLOW THE GUIDELINES AND I WILL REPLY. THANK YOU.
This profile reads a bit rough. Don't be put off by it. I am strict but also very tolerant and open-minded in my ways.
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IF YOU ARE ONE OF MY FRIENDS, PLEASE BOTHER THE CRAP OUT OF ME, ESPECIALLY ON THE PHONE.
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I HAVE NOT GIVEN UP HOPE BUT... WHY DON'T I TRY THIS ... IF YOU CAN'T SHOW AN TRUE INTEREST, THEN PLEASE DON'T WRITE ME. I HAVE PRETTY MUCH STOPPED USING THIS SITE AS MOST OF YOU DON'T SEEM TO HAVE ANY REAL INTENT OF MEETING AND THINK YOU CAN ACT OUT ALL YOUR LITTLE FANTASIES WRITING TO FEMDOMS. IS ANYONE EVEN CAPABLE OF TRUE WILLINGNESS, TO TRULY EXPERIENCE WHAT BEING MY SUB WOULD MEAN? I AM TIRED OF POSERS, LIARS, SUBS WHO THINK THEY CAN TRY AND TOP ME FROM THE BOTTOM AND PEOPLE WHO WRITE ME AND CAN'T READ WHAT I REQUEST. IT REALLY DOES SEEM THAT ANYMORE Y'ALL JUST LIKE THE CHASE AND WHEN IT COMES DOWN TO MEETING YOU JUST SHRIVEL UP LIKE A LITTLE SLUG. SUCH A PITY WHEN SOME OF YOU SHOWED A LITTLE POTENTIAL. I am not old school. To me the whole dynamic is in the eye of the dominant be they male or female. To me what makes a submissive is "willingness".
To me, every sub is different. The way I treat one will not necessarily be the way I treat another. I am more straight than bi but I am curious. My brand of play/session doesn't always include sex. It all depends on the individual. I get so tired of people trying to lump me into one category or another especially if they know nothing about me.
The best times are the sessions where things just "come to me" sometimes I even surprise myself. lol
Also I think people who spread rumors about others should be publicly flogged til they beg for mercy! (you know who you are)
MY LIFE IS COMPLICATED AND MY EXPECTATIONS ARE HIGH. IF YOU CAN WORK TOWARDS THE IMPROVEMENT OF MY LIFE AND IN TURN YOURS, THEN WRITE ME. After My needs are met and one of them is foot worship among other things. I also have a dog, cat and bird, their needs come second. I have a busy life and am needed by others not just your needs.
I have need of a SERVICE ORIENTED submissive. I do have other interests as you can see in my profile. Some are included in the CM lists, others are private and will be discuss as such.
If you want to part of my life you will need to conform to my schedule, not mine to yours. I do NOT require 24/7 but expect once a week at least 4 hours.
If you are going to contact me and are within a reasonable distance (meaning 100 miles or less), I expect your Interests, Fetishes and Profile to be filled out completely and a note saying why you would want Me for a Mistress and not what you want.
Why the heck can't anyone get this right? Is it really that hard to check off a few squares?
If you are writing just to say hello then you need to state that is all you require.
I do NOT chat without interacting with you through CM email expressing your interest in me and you finding a way to interest Me in you.
****Please have a YIM ID (Yahoo Instant Messenger). I do not like the cm chat.
I do NOT want anyone relocating for me.
I do NOT want any LDD (long distance domming) If you can not devote yourself once a week or more then please don't write. I also do NOT want to do LDW (long distance webcam). This is including online, webcam and phone. Honestly, I just don't have the time or the patience needed for this.
I am uninterested in camming. I hope this is understood. If you live a distance and you someone worth my time then you should find a way to pique my interest.
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07.09.13 Hey Revised Update
Actually on the surface you might think it's the same.
If you look you'll not the subtleties. Be Well. |
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September 18th, 2011
wow. I have had a lot of changes. I have moved (only 8 miles) and it was very tough but everything is getting where it needs to be. Even with all this I have met and chatted with some very interesting wonderful people even without having the internet or a phone. Running around from libraries and even to my ex's. ugghhhh.
Feel free to send me a message but pls don't expect replies too soon but I will get back.
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July 3, 2011
Updated my profile. Please go read it.
Thank you.
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How come interesting people write and when you get the chance to answer back (in my case I have been sick so it took me a couple days) this:
Note: This user does not have an active profile
is what I find on their email to me.
Does this make sense?
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Ok, early this morning I have reached my limit. I have had it and I have to write it out somewhere so here it will go.
I hate to sound like some many other Dommes but I am getting very tired of investing my time in unworthy, rigid, self-seeking individuals. I am exhausted from all of the gimme, gimme, gimme of some of you. I am a very compassionate person but I am firm in what I want. What I want is true submission. No whining. No backpedaling. Is there anyone who genuinely understands what being a submissive* or slave* is?
I am a Dominant*.
What I like should become what you like.
I want a sub/slave who has substance, confidence and a sense of worth not arrogance and false bravado. Someone who makes time together a pleasure not a chore. Someone who doesn't need to be micro-managed because they can't make a decision.
This does not mean there can not be some communication or discussion. Your priority, as y'all claim, is Me. rotflmfao! Really? I have yet to truly see this. I am not saying I am going to run you over or be unmindful of what you need. For C's sake, My job as your Dom is look out for your best interests. If I have a like or suggest something that isn't on your list, you slam on the brakes. Hasn't anyone heard the expression of at least trying something before you make a judgement? Just because you haven't tried chocolate ice cream, doesn't men you don't like it. How can you be in this "lifestyle" and be so unbending? The whole lifestyle is about tolerance and open-mindedness.
My personal opinion is that this not something you want at all, just something you hope you can fit into because you can't anywhere else. So you blame others for your failures and you set unrealistic, inflexible, unobtainable standards for any FemDom you write. It is doomed to fail before you even start a conversation with anyone and then you can blame someone else for not having the relationship of your dreams.
I am exasperated by the relentless asking about every little detail and repetitious questions. "Mistress, what will you do to me?" I'll give you a general idea but seriously do you want to spoil all the fun by having a playbook? How boring and pedestrian is that? Can any of you present yourselves as anything but self-serving? Yes! That's what I said, self-serving. In my experiences I have you (plural) have felt you are the cat's pajamas, the top dog, thinking you can top me from the bottom. I don't think I have ever talked to anyone on this site who doesn't put his own subbie/slavey/Dommie needs in front of Mine. (I do have one exception). It all about what you get or take. I have failed to see any generous of spirit in people here. Y'all say you believe in FemDominance, what a load of crap. Is it only the Dommes who have to put up with this tripe or is has this trait infected sub/slave of both sexes?
From now on if you want more then just friendship, you'll have to have to have some sort of tribute* to show respect and recognition of Who or are requesting time from so that I will take you seriously. No longer will I spend My time with someone who wants to relentless cross-examine Me. I am done with all this. If you can't set up a face-to-face meeting with Me to have real time discussion within a reasonable time frame (1-2 weeks max) then step away. Please don't think of this as a payment (Gifts are not payment) for My time because My time is Priceless. There is no "quid pro quo" in this dynamic.
Guess what? I have flaws but it is your job to circumvent or ignore the ones that don't concern you. you are to smooth My path as I am to guide you on yours.
If after reading this, you have the strength of your conviction, then come forward. If not, then go on searching for your fantasy. To Me, Reality is so much better than false idealism.
That's all. Phewww does that feel good.
MistressBarbara
* Dominant or Dom or Domme
A person who exercises control in a D/s relationship.
* slave
A person who consensually gives total control to their Master/Mistress/
Owner; often giving up much or all of their rights to limits, safewords, or
negotiations.
* submissive
A person who desire to give up control of themselves or of certain aspects
of their lives or for certain periods of times to a Dominant pertner
* Tribute
A meaningful personal contribution (eg. praise (which will get you nowhere
fast), service, gifts, etc) rendered as due or deserved of the recipient.
A gift, compliment or the like given as DUE or acknowledgement of esteem
or respect.
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