DAY ONE:  On collar me looking for a unicorn. I am honestly skeptical about finding a girl that she can explore with who can accept both of us. I'm fortunate knowing that she isn't a jealous woman, and she seems to be curious what has transpired with past subs, and if I can once again take another and let her be part of that experience.

She is a pleaser... not a slave, or a professed submissive...although in my experience, I would categorize her as such. She's a true newbie to this lifestyle, having only had a female play friend in another relationship, but that play partner was more "HIS" partner than hers... I seek to change that, and bring in a 50/50 partner or even one who is more HER friend, than mine.

You might ask why I don't bring in a former sub from the past... and we have tried, but things tend to not work out quite the way we want. Past subs want to be he First Female, but in this case I will not allow it. This one is my first, and will remain such.

I must also say that BDSM is a diverse lifestyle ... especially the D/s portion. I have always tried to avoid mixing my normal relationship with the lifestyle... but for the first time, I have chosen to add BDSM elements to the Vanilla, because the woman in question is naturally curious. I will not force her to go where she will not.. because if I NEED the lifestyle, I still have permission to explore it on my own, should she be unable to satisfy those needs for me.

THAT makes for quite a woman in my book, and one that I will seek to keep happy and teach the basics to, even if I won't "go all the way" with her and explore the darker more aggressive side of D/s together if it is not her thing...

So, not only do we seek a unicorn, but ultimately one with a very open mind and giving personality as well. Perhaps even, one that likes both the softer side and he rougher side of the lifestyle all at once...