“Do what thou wilt shall be the whole the law.”

The Problem With My Duel Nature

It has taken me most of my life to figure this problem out.  Apparently I seem to appear as a duel natured person to most people.  I actually disagree with this assessment, but observing others and their interactions has helped me to understand why others think that I am like this.  The most successful men that I know are only one way.  They tend to be quiet, and decisive.

I am not like this.  I am very talkative and either dominant or supportive.  Thus I have a hard side and a soft side.  Most woman are attracted to my hard side.  They see it in certain situations where I must be ridged and controlling.  In this mode I am decisive and usually engaged in a debate of some kind.  I seem exciting and knowledgeable.  I tend to be very dominating and I speak in absolutes.  In this mode I present bold ideas as well as outlandish theories that I quickly back up with compelling arguments.  This is when I lay out my ideas to women about what a relationship should be like.  I boldly and passionately argue for my vision and tend to win the beginnings of a relationship.

That is when the flip happens.  I open up to a woman and show her my soft side.  This soft side desperately needs her affection and her approval.  This switch in gears seems to throw them off.  No matter how much I explain that the inner nature of intimate sharing is like this, they still loose all respect for me.  Gradually I see the disrespectful looks creep into their faces.  Gradually I see them slip further and further into patterns of   destruction that eventually burn our relationship to the ground.

Thus I am left alone looking for a woman that respects me, and will follow my lead wile still protecting and cherishing my heart.  Men need respect, and it is the woman’s responsibility to think of him in a respectful way in all things.  I think that women are just so used to thinking of men as idiots, servants, and monetary slaves that  the thought of respecting them as both tender and dominant is too much.

 “Love is the law, love under will.” 

                                                                 -Leiber AL The Book Of The Law

“Do what thou wilt shall be the whole the law.”

The Conundrum

O.k. Lets get really specific now.  I am a Dom, but I do not do sessions.  I do not want to tie you up.  I do not want to whip you.  There may be a playful spank here and there, but I do not do “spanking”.  In fact I will never hit you at all.  I will probably never even raise my voice to you in anger either.  It is simply pointless.  I am simply having to take it on faith that you are who and what you say you are.  I am either going to be blessed by this, or screwed by it, that is simply up to you.

Now you should know that I think that women should be hit and put into submission.  It would solve 90% of the worlds problems and get things back on track.  I was raised not to do that though.  It is hard wired so soundly into my head that I can not do it, even when it is sorely needed.  I can not abide any man hitting any woman in my presence, at all.  Now I will have no such issues with physically disciplining my children, but that is different.

I am helplessly dependent on your good conduct, and willful submission.  It will literally be just you and me against the world.

You should know that I am an oath taker.  I always keep my word, to the letter.  I do not negate, I do not waffle, I do not renegotiate.  I also rarely give my word, and I skillfully word oaths.  You should also know that very few people in the world are like this.  Most people are opportunists that change with the times and the situations.  I am not one of these kinds of people.  I am doggedly strong willed.

I require that you keep your word, to the letter, too.  If you are not like this I will help you... if you will let me.

Lying to me in any way shape or form is unacceptable.

Allowing any other man to ever touch you is unacceptable.

You may never refuse any sexual advance I ever make, once we are serious.

Both your ass and mine are exit only.

I don’t do three ways, and you do not need another woman.

I am faithful, that is simple and easy... I have you.

You will conform, to learn, and practice the mysteries.

You will learn to belly dance, and you will learn Tantra.

I like sex two basic ways.  I like making love and I like rough sex.  Rough is defined by me being rough with you and not the other way around.  However I do not get that rough and I will never leave a mark on you.  Mostly I am talking about hair pulling and animal dominance... I prefer making love.

I require children, from you and only you.

You may never have children by another man.  Before or after me, while I am still alive.

You will maintain gainful employment so that we are a two income family.

I like being at home, but I love going out dancing occasionally.  If you do not know how to dance then I will teach you.

I love drugs, but I have not done them in years.  They were never a problem for me as I am very strong willed.  I do intend to take up smoking pot again, some day, but that is a very low priority.  Right now, I need to be completely clean to both work and be open to any opportunity that my come along. Including starting a family.

I drink socially, but not often.  I occasionally drink to excess.

I expect the same of you.

I smoke socially, but very little.  I will tolerate you smoking, but it is a turn off.

I will stop smoking, at all, if you ask me to.

Women with tattoos or piercings are a turn off to me.

I have no tattoos or piercings.

You must be white.

I could care less what you actually look like.

As long as you do what I want and act the way I want.

I like long hair, skirts and dresses.

I hate hoop earrings.

I talk a lot, so you must be a good listener with a good memory.

I listen too and want to know all about you and your wants and needs.

I value my woman's opinion, I just do not want to be beaten over the head with it.

Once a decision has been made by me you may not revisit it unless there is new information.  Rehashing old information just because you do not like the outcome is irritating, and will not get you what you want.

I am usually right. I will admit when I am wrong.  However you will find that I am usually right.  Thus, I justify my dominance over time.

When I feel insecure I tend to lock things down, thus over time I will relax and let things just flow.  Understanding our ways of thinking, and demonstrating that you are trustworthy, and capable when the chips are down will earn you more respect than you can imagine.

I am dominant but I am not controlling.  You can still have friends, and come and go as you please.  I do expect to know where you are, that is just a function of being a responsible adult.

I do own my woman, but she owns me too, so that is a two way street.

People show their true colors in times of stress.  Mine are strong and vivid.

You will take my last name.  No hyphenates.

Once we are in, we will be all in.  I would rather you kill me than leave me.  No one is getting out of this one alive... Once things are set that is.

Where are you...

I am getting old looking for you.

“Love is the law, love under will.” 

                                                                 -Leiber AL The Book Of The Law

 “Do what thou wilt shall be the whole the law.”

Submission

What is submission?

Submission is physical.

The most basic element of sex is essentially that the woman is held down and penetrated.  The man does the penetrating, and the woman is penetrated.  This is a simple mater of physics. So...

What is submission?

Submission is respect.

When a woman shows submission to her man she is showing respect.  She is not less than her man in any way.  In fact, they are equals.  They are equal and opposite, like the two faces of a coin.  Modern life has removed much of the primal difficulties and obstacles that originally necessitated and defined gender roles.  So...

What is submission?

Submission is instinct.

Women naturally feel submissive to their men.  It is society that teaches them to suppress this natural instinct.  Modern American women are taught to be independent.  They are taught to be men.  However when the smoke clears they feel lonely, lost, and confused, precisely because they are not men. So...

What is submission?

Submission is commitment.

Commitment is a function of being all in.  You do not hold back even one chip.  Commitment is a function of using all of your skills, and all of your resources to build a family unit.  This happens every day, all of the time.  If you are truly committed then it is very easy to do this.  Both people have defined roles that complement and support each other.  Love and respect are natural byproducts of commitment.  So...

What is submission?

Submission is trust.

Trust is given, and not earned.  Trust, once given is either reinforced or betrayed.  Giving trust requires a risk.  It requires a leap of faith.  If you do not give your trust, with out reservation, then you will never have anything.  It is inevitable that your trust will be betrayed.  That is a simple fact of life.  A real man knows this and places the protection of your heart in the highest tier of his priorities.  So...

What is submission?

Submission is love.

The man is the head of the family.  The woman is the neck, and the neck can turn the head anyway it wants.  Just concentrate on not being a pain in the neck.  Therefore submission is love, and love is a primal force of the universe.  So...

What is submission?

Submission is acceptance

You will never be tested on your submission until you are forced to accept a decision that you do not like or agree with.  That is when you will know wether you are a submissive or not.  A submissive not only accepts these decisions, but she lives with them.  She teaches them to her children, and governs her life by them.

So, in conclusion...

Dominance sounds glamorous.  It sounds wonderful.  It sounds like it would be much better than submission.  It is not.  It is equal and opposite to submission.  Both have their benefits and both have their burdens.  Both need each other.  They complement each other.  This reciprocal relationship gives strength in a circle that snowballs, thus creating the most basic unit of life.  This iron clad unit can accomplish anything, even the very act of creation which is usually reserved for God.

Thus if you love your children then love your man more.  He is more important than they are.  He is the other half that helped create them.  By placing him above them you do not take anything from them at all.  In fact, it is quite the opposite.  For every unit of love you spend on him, over them, they receive two.  This is a simple equation that is drawn from the fact that your children drink from the well of your love for your man, and him for you.  Thus divorce both cripples and retards your children.  Ignorance of this has rippled out into our culture and created a dysfunctional way of thinking that is pervasive.

I will undo this.  Take my hand and follow me.  Subordinate your self to me and find happiness.  Learn from me and find direction.  Follow me and be free.

“Love is the law, love under will.” 

                                                                 -Leiber AL The Book Of The Law

“Do what thou wilt shall be the whole the law.”

Job Posting

Entry-level position; Girlfriend.   We will promote from within, advancement opportunity available, and expected.  We will train.  Advanced position; Executive level, Wife/Mother.

Primary requirements; High school degree, or better, female, caucasian, unmarried, no children, no history of mental problems, no felonies, or history of violent crimes.  Must be heterosexual, and fertile.  Applicant must be employed, or able to be employed, and seeking such.

Secondary requirements:  ideal candidate will be submissive, a good listener, and will have a good memory.

  House Lizotte is accepting applications and interviews for the position of Wife.    As no candidates can be found for this executive level position, we are advertising for the entry-level position of girlfriend.  It is to be understood that this position is to be applied for with the express intention of promotion.

  Physical appearance of applicant is irrelevant. Outer beauty can be purchased.  Inner beauty cannot.  It is this inner beauty and your ability to negotiate the difficulties of life that I’m interested in.  If you happened to weigh 5,000 pounds, be prepared to run on a treadmill.  If you happen to weigh 20 pounds, be prepared to eat.  In almost every single scenario be prepared to be challenged in ways you never thought you could be challenged.

I am a teacher.  I am a leader.  You are a companion, and an object of affection.  Applicant must Not be a fearful person.  Applicant must not be “obsessed with normality”.   Applicant will be expected to exhibit unconditional commitment, and unconditional respect. Please note the use of the words unconditional commitment and unconditional respect.  This has been stated up front and in the open.  It is also been stated in English, which is expected to be our common language.  Applicant should also note this position is a combination of old world expectations with new world mentalities, that do not fit into the paradigm of most people’s outlooks.  In short applicant must be extremely flexible, and teachable.  

Your wants, needs, and desires are extremely important to me.  Your opinions, are extremely important to me.  I, however, do not want to be beaten over the head with your opinions.  This opportunity has different levels and stages to it.  The opening level and stage basically consists of an interview.  This interview is commonly referred to as a “date”.  Note; I hate dating.  It’s awkward, and disappointing.  It usually consists of a woman saying “no” about 50,000 times, in a reality warping, ninja, sort of way.  This is a waste of both time and money.  A successful applicant will have a general “yes” response mode, and a happy disposition.  I am not looking for a “yes” woman, a robot, or a sex slave. Applicant should simply be self-assured enough to be able to look at a situation, have a positive outlook, and generally approve of things.  

I do not wish to interview very many applicants, at all.  Most people put this level of job in the “later” category of life… Well it’s later for me, in fact, I passed later a few exits back.  I’m not looking for perfection.  I need a competent companion.  I need children.  I need it to last forever, no matter what.  No jokes.  No games.  No exceptions.  

Settling down is highly desirable.  This is actually supposed to be pretty simple.  It amazes me how people overcomplicate simple things.  This is not about happiness. Unconditional commitment and unconditional respect will produce happiness.  It is inevitable.  It’s the obsession with happiness that destroys families and lives.

I have been a bachelor for a long time.  I do expect to have to adjust, to fit being both your man, and a family man.  Work with me gently and I will bend to meet your expectations.  Know that I do expect you to bend more than me as women are meant to be much more flexible than men are.  I, however, am stronger and more endurant than you, so there is give and take.

We are all adults here, we all know what’s going to happen, either have the guts to go through with this, or leave me alone.  By “this” I am referring to the ins and outs of the relationship process.  I do not expect you to have sex with me right away, but I do expect you to, eventually, have sex with me.  That “is” the eventual point to all of this, and I have the guts to say that. 

Understand, that once I am married, I would prefer death to divorce.  No joke.  I do not consider that romantic.  I am not exaggerating, nor do I consider this statement to be crazy.  It is simply a statement of fact.  No one is meant to get out of marriage alive.

Information about me; I am a 37-year-old white male.  I’m 5’11”.  I have long brown hair that I wear in a ponytail.  I sometimes wear a beard, though this is optional.  I weigh about 250 pounds, but I am mostly muscle.  I’m built like a linebacker.  I have a round face.  And a stomach that sticks out.  I am very sweet, and very polite.  I am generally categorized as a “sensitive ponytail man”.  I have never been married.  I have no children.  I am an artist.  I am a philosopher.  I’m a writer.  I am something of a nerd.  Though I’m getting old, I am also somewhat cool.  I have many layers.  I am a very deep person.  My astrological sign is Cancer.  I’m pretty deep into the new age thing and expect you to be to.  It is o.k. If you are not, we will train.  I have no interest in changing your belief system, but I do expect you to participate in mine.  If you need me to participate in your system, I will, but don’t expect me to change my belief system or religion.  I am a Thelemite. Google it.  I’ve studied the mysteries for 20 years now.  This is the source of my strength.

I have the Tao (Pronounced “Dow”, which means ‘way’).  

I am a dominant man.  But I’m sweet about it.  I require a submissive woman.  I offer unconditional love.  Fidelity.  Unconditional commitment.  My heart, my soul, my body, my money, my present, and my future.  In other words, I push all my chips to the center of the table, I’m all in.  The only thing I can control is myself, I cannot control you.  I am helplessly dependent on your good behavior, and your ability to keep your word.  People show their true colors in times of stress, though this is not a time of stress, I can tell you that my colors are strong and true.  Stick around and you will see that.  I do tend to be a bit overbearing when I don’t feel safe.  Give me what I want, and make me feel safe, and that will evaporate leaving me only devoted and focused on you, and your happiness.  

I have been “all in” several times before, and have lost my butt.  My life is a sad story.  I don’t wish to go into it, but I will if you ask me to.  Suffice it to say I been homeless six times, and it had four attempts on my life.  Yet I am still here. I own my own car.  I live on my own.  I maintain stable employment.  I am a night worker in a warehouse.  ...It’s a job.  I am a rugged individualist, who simply will not die.  I am quite upbeat.  I am articulate.  I’m also very tenacious, and refuse to give up.  I have a clean record.  I’ve never been arrested.  I have no tattoos.  I have no piercings.  I wear glasses.  I am legally deaf, but I function as a hearing person.  I do not know sign language.  I am monolingual, I only speak English. My hearing impairment does require some very minor adjustments, but they tend to be seamless, and generally are not a problem.  

I have an average intelligence.  I have an extensive and prodigious imagination.  I’m often mistaken for a highly intelligent person.  I enjoy learning.  I enjoy subjects that stimulate the mind to an orgasm of thought that transcends its rational dullness.  That’s a rather poetic way of saying that I like to think a lot and I like to talk a lot.  Fortunately, I tend to be very interesting. Life with me is rarely, if ever dull.  I love snuggling, and watching TV.  I hate the sun.  I dislike being outside, but I enjoy it if there is an activity involved.  I hate sports.  I am an excellent cook.  I keep a clean house.  I like working out but have not found the time in many years.  I drink socially.  I smoke socially.  I do not do drugs.  I can pass a hair test.  I do not have a problem with the subject of drugs, I simply have too many responsibilities, and I’m seeking more responsibility in trying to start a family.  I am a good communicator.  I genuinely listen.  I have an even temper which I can, and do, control.  I’m very masculine on the inside, but I tend to show a false positive on “gaydar”.  This comes from being very in touch with my feminine side.  Make no mistake about it though, I’m all man.

  I like spoiling my women outrageously.  I do not like space between us.  I like girly girls.  I’m attracted to the ‘renaissance’, ‘Stevie Knicks’ look.  I love skirts and dresses.  I am very attracted to long, well kept hair.  I hate hoop earrings.  Tattoos on women are unattractive.  Piercings on women are unattractive, with some very minor exceptions.  I’m an extreme weakness for gingers, goths, and witchy women.  Specifically O.T.O. women.  I am a proud Ordo Templi Orientis (O.T.O.) member in good standing for 18 years. I am however, not picky. You do not have to be  these things.  Though... if you were rich, gorgeous, and had big boobs, it wouldn’t hurt, but to that end, if I was rich, and looked like Fabio, it probably wouldn’t hurt either.

I’ve been searching for you for a very long time.  I’m confident that I will find you soon.  Put simply, I’m just do for some good luck to come my way.

  “Love is the law, love under will.” 

                                                                 -Leiber AL The Book Of The Law