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Who am I ? Well I don't really think I'm the right person to answer that but I can tell you what I do know.
"So I turned my self to face me, but I never caught a glimpse
How the others perceive the Fakir,
I'm much too fast to take that test"
- Changes, David Bowie
I am a software professional by day and surfer, musician and rookie kinkster by night. I enjoy life and have no time for unnecessary drama. I like to laugh and make others laugh.
I am still early in the process of learning about myself. I am always a gentleman, I am told that Daddy suits me and I'm pretty sure I am a gentleman Dom, weather permitting.
I have always been something of a Dom. I presumed, up until a few years ago that I was either broken or just an asshole. I might still discover I am an asshole, but I'm definitely not broken.
I am a full on Alpha Male Dominant. The gentle type mind you, I'm no sadist. I'm good with spanking but not real abuse or cruelty. I'm more than 2 years into my divorce and I was very much a dom there, even if I didn't have the words to express it.
I love the control. I love to tell a woman to get dressed in a particular outfit. It is even better to have her understand my wants and use her own imagination and creativity. I love that we both know what is coming and the tension builds. It's very fun to go online or to a shop and pick out the next 'fuck me now' or latex 'French Maid' outfit. It can be oddly thrilling to press refresh a thousand times on the UPS delivery webpage . I am very visually triggered by nature and it won't take long to learn how to signal to me that you want to be taken. Sometimes subtle, unspoken clues are the greatest aphrodisiac in the world.
I have always had role play/power exchange fantasies from my earliest days of thinking about sex. And I have an wild and dirty imagination. Seeing you in the right clothes makes me happy, horny and also puts a fun context on the power exchange that I love. Basically I want what I want, when I want it, and I don't like taking no for answer, even if I am forced to be umm.. persuasive about it.
Generally, I don't just want X, I want to make you feel a soul-deep need to give me X.
My Boundaries are :
- Real Pain, Breaking the Skin
- Cruelty
- Pee
- Poop
- Blood
- Vomit
- Boredom.
Generally I won't give or receive any of those.
Within those bounds, I am completely uninhibited. Everything else is on the table. I always respect your bounds. That's why we are here. If we are compatible, it's never an issue.
I am not into humiliation or cruelty, but I will dance on the edge there if I am displeased.
You may think I sound a bit tame. That's fine. It takes imagination to realize that there are many ways to encourage proper behaviour that aren't just "do it or get beaten". I much prefer the carrot to the stick, as I feel like the results are better in every way. Oh the stick has be available, but I don't want to make you do things, I want you to desperately need to do them.
Not a lot of shockers here I suppose :
== Results from http://bdsmtest.org/ ==
96% Daddy/Mommy
93% Dominant
91% Experimentalist
89% Master/Mistress
89% Non-monogamist
68% Bondage Giver
57% Brat Tamer
43% Degradation Giver
38% Voyeur
24% Primal (Prey)
24% Switch
23% Primal (Predator)
17% Pervert
16% Vanilla
13% Exhibitionist
12% Brat
9% Sadist
9% Submissive
4% All-Rounder
4% Bondage Receiver
4% Girl/Boy
4% Masochist
0% Degradation Receiver
0% Slave
The only surprise there is the "non-monogamist" I am a natural monogamist and have never cheated on anyone.
We are here to find people whose kinks match ours I suppose but I want a Lover, Best Friend and Life Partner. Those are no less negotiable than submission to me.
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I would rather hear "Fuck off you FUCKING PIG!!" than have my carefully written, always polite and appropriate notes be Deleted Unread.
Three of the times this has happened to me, I was only offering support and or advice. Not the slightest hint of a come on.
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I'm surely not everyone's cup of tea. Ok, I am in great shape, but I'm no spring chicken. I'm not ugly, but I'm no beauty.
So you wouldn't touch me with a ten foot pole? Ok, fine. Best of luck to you.
The internet is the magical place where we can find like minded spirits but it is also the place where humanity is lost and decency is...
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