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My name is Erus (pronounce it like Harris but without the "H")
I consider myself a "Daddy Dom."
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WARNING: Any institutions and or individuals using this site or its associated sites for projects or personal - You do not have permission from me to use any of my profile or pictures in any form or forum both current and future. If you have or do, it will be considered a violation of my privacy and will be subject to legal action.
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Seeking submissive atheist Tim Minchin fan to piss on the hippos. |
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Blaze isn't comfortable topping/dominating men ... only women. Any addition to our dynamic will be co-dommed by us both. That being the case, we just aren't interested in male submissives right now. |
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We send out occasional "feelers" on here thinking that perhaps we may encounter a new friend or *gasp* an actual like-minded person in the lifestyle to serve as a submissive or slave in our house. You really can tell so very little about a person and about who they are from these profiles. So, we are here "nudging" just a little, to see if you might be interested in opening a dialogue so that we can get to know a little about you.
We are adventurous real people. We are looking for the right sub or slave to make our house a more interesting, fun and productive place. But, we have lives and so do you. We recognize that every sub or slave needs time to "sojourn" to step outside the slave role and interact with their responsibilities, relationships, and needs in the larger world. Anyone in our family will have our love, help and support in this part of their life as well as our dedication to their guidance and growth in their immediate relationship with us.
About Polyamoury:
The lifestyle really needs a different term to help define the one or two masters / many slaves / closed household dynamic that we see here so often. That isn't Polyamoury. Poly doesn't mean that our house is comprised of Masters or Doms looking to build a harem of submissives dedicated to their use. That's not polyamoury ... that's multi-participant monogamy.
Polyamoury is about unrestricted love. Anyone in our house will be open to have and maintain any other relationships that they choose to have, personal, sexual, spiritual, and lifestyle. We believe that love is boundless and that human relationships should be equally unfettered.
We recognize up front that any "submissive" in our house may step away from that role to fulfill other needs. That is contrary to the concepts of 24/7 and may diminish for some the very essence of what they seek in the lifestyle, but for us, it's looking at the lifestyle and more importantly human relationships with an eye towards, flexibility, longevity and realistic expectations.
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I received a message in my inbox today. I don't get many so this was something of an event for me. I excitedly clicked the link to find a very brief two line proposition from a male sub. I clicked to his profile and it was almost as bare as his message. I almost just deleted his message and went on ... but I didn't. I send out missives fairly regularly and almost never receive replies. Further, I put some effort into my messages and never send anything of less than a page. I decided to help this fellow out ...
My message:
My hope has generally been to add a female slave to our house. That being said, I know that Blaze might be interested in a boy to play with, but your mail msg leaves something to be desired and your profile is bare.
I am only responding to this message as a courtesy because as a male Dom who sends out frequent inquiries but receives scant replies, I find the frustration of one-sided conversation infuriating. That being said, your message is hardly anything like the beginnings of a conversation. If you want some responses you need to put some work into your profile and your messaging skills.
Right now with the only information available to me, a tiny 2 line msg, and no real data on the profile, I am forced to evaluate you as someone who doesn't care enough to put forth any effort. And I do not want that I am afraid. No thank you.
Regards,
Erus
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Now, in my mind, I imagined that this person might get my message, take my advice to heart and construct a more interesting email. Maybe I could teach this person something about communicating in a forum like this and they would be all the better for it. I did get a response. It was simply this:
"See ya"
That was it. Now perhaps I was too bitchy in my response to this person. Perhaps they decided that I was not interested and not worth their trouble. Or maybe I was just right about this person and they just really don't want to try at all.
The thing that really bothers me is that in the midst of this my messages are being lost. Laziness like this dilutes the general quality of communication and I think to myself, no wonder no one ever messages me back.
Listen, if you get a message from me, or you find yourself browsing my profile and you are reading this ... understand that I am not like the person I describe above. I believe in open communication ... in real conversations that last more than a few lines or a few days. I am not lazy, I am not a liar, I am not a predator, I am a man with a family who is looking to expand with the right person. If I misrepresent myself or am lazy about the way that I administer my search, then I am going to end up with the wrong person. That's not good for you and not good for me.
If you aren't interested message me back and tell me why. I won't cry about it or badger you. I have faith that when the right person comes along it will "feel" right for both of us ... for all of us. I can wait. It's not the time it takes that makes the waiting difficult. It's the one sided conversations, the lack of responses and the feeling that all of this is taking me nowhere ... that's what makes this hard. Isn't this hard for you too? If it is, help a fella out. Message me back.
Regards,
Erus
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A small group of Tulsa Area AgePlay lifestylers are forming a
support group that specifically caters to AgePlayers. We feel that a
group dedicated specifically to AgePlay is needed within our local
community. Because of societal taboos surrounding it, AgePlay can
create for many (even within a lifestyle dedicated to accepting and
embracing differences) feelings of discomfort, confusion, or disdain.
Creating a safe place for open discussion of AgePlay practices, that
is removed from the community at large seems like a good idea. It
provides those who might be otherwise reluctant to explore this need a
safer place to do so, and removes the discussion from a more diverse
open group where such discussions could in fact make some uncomfortable.
We invite anyone interested in AgePlay to join our AgePlay group.
Even if you are simply curious and wish to learn more ... please join
us. You do not need to be an AgePlayer to join. But, you do need to
have a genuine interest, and you must be aware that open discussion of
AgePlay practices will be encouraged within this environment. If you
think this might make you uncomfortable, then please proceed with due
diligence.
This should go without saying, but I feel it's important to add one
final disclaimer. All members of this group and participants referenced
in its discussions are grown consenting adults over the legal
biological age of 18. The group will not support topics that involve
inappropriate conduct with another person who is of a legal biological
age lesser than 18 years. This is about nurturing the inner-child.
Actual biological children have no place in this group or its
discussions.
If you have an interest in joining a Tulsa based AgePlay discussion
and support community, please contact me. You can reach me privately at
jwmmail@gmail.com
. I hope to hear from you.
Regards,
Erus
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